I was watching the movie "Observe and Report" yesterday. And towards the end of the movie, Seth Rogen realizes that he takes life too seriously. "So we have a fucking meaningless existence" He says, "Who cares?" And it kinda made me think. Who gives a shit? I've been getting a lot of pressure lately to make grades, get into a good school, and other high school bullshit. But then i though, "hey, i don't give a fuck." Give me a pair of skis, a rental pass, and an Ipod and i'm happy. My parents don't see it this way, of course. But really. It just suddenly occured to me that I don't give a flying fuck about school, or my future. My whole life, I've been pushed to achieve society's bullshit standard. Get into a good school, hang out with the right people, study hard, etc. But I just don't think it has ever occurred to the people who push me in this direction that I can be happy without all that shit. I'm just ranting here, but maybe i'm onto something?
You have the right idea. I loveee not giving a fuck. Truth is tho i give a fuck about being awesome and happy.
This topic would be much more respectable if you said something like 'sit me in a room with my friends and I am happy', but this way you just seem ungrateful. It seems like you look at it as you have these things and don't care how hard anyone worked to invent, produce, purchase, or provide these things for you. As it was said, live for a while without frivolous things and you will appreciate them much more. There is a big difference between 'not giving a fuck' and not taking things too seriously. you can not stress about about grades, but if you have that attitude don't expect an ipod to be readily available for you.
yea, not giving a fuck is great. I give very little in the way of fucks. Not Dead Yet has a point that living in poverty is kinda to be avoided. I find that doing the minimal to support my lifestyle doesn't conflict too much with my not ability to Not Give A Fuck. You too must find the balance between avoiding poverty and actually giving a fuck. Or you could just try to find something that you truly care about. I bet that's even better than not giving a fuck.
I've experienced the same. My parents have always had very high expectations and going to good schools and doing well was high on their list of priorities for us. But this is where I see a difference. Although, to me I would much rather have a job that I loved and made me happy but didn't pay three figures, that have one that does but made me miserable - I do care about my future. I see it as just that my future, so I will do what I want, but not fuck up everything just to fight against what my parents, or society has expected.
but these are all things i've worked to get myself. My Ipod, my skis, and my rental pass have all been paid for through money that i've earned.
If you've earned it you must have given some sort of fuck about it. That, or the money was handed to you.
yes, i think that's what i'm trying to say. It's not that i don't give a fuck about ANYTHING. It's just that i think i've been pushed to give a fuck about the wrong things... if that makes any kind of sense.
but you give a fuck enough to not give a fuck about the fucks you don't want to fuck but only fuck with the fucks you want to fuck with. you know what i mean?
Ok. It does matter that we do the right things in the sense that being a rebel has its costs. A lot of rebels find themselves out of work for saying things in anger to their boss, and then they get fired. I, myself have just probably lost a job, because I was sick and tired of my "boss" having no boundaries, complaining to me constantly about her life and how everybody else sucks, and so I told her that she should shut the hell up. I don't think I'll be working there any longer, and that is the very bad downside to not caring, because at 41, I need to make sure I can live in an apartment and pay my way. There are times when these people I want to scream at, though, are being jerks. There are times when you just cannot work with a person or some people. It is appropriate to try to figure out what job best suits you. I digress... The point is this: you are young, and it is perfectly normal to have those feelings. You are experiencing ups and downs, and you are at an age where your body is telling you that you need to free yourself from the shackles of your parents. That just means you are getting ready to move into your adult life. Guilt trips are inappropriate, I think, because they suggest that you should not be feeling the way you do, and that's nonsense. You will get through this time. I did, and even though I may not be working for this woman with whom I have struggled ever since I started working for her, there will be other jobs and other bosses. Your response in feeling like letting go of worry and frustration over the future is just your mind telling you that sometimes it is ok to relax and enjoy yourself once in a while. You may be learning how to deal with stress in a good way-by listening to what your body is telling you. It is vital to pay attention to when we get too stressed out so that we can prioritize our responsibilities. Also: My mom went to an Ivy League school, but I did not. I am still doing fine. She benefitted a lot from that education, but she still had problems, so what you are hearing inside your head is a reality check. You are correct to assume that even if you do all the right things, you will still have to deal with problems. Everyone does, no matter who they are. Good for you for recognizing your limits. By the way, my mom used to compliment me on recognizing mine. Try to keep breathing. Meditation is helpful, too. Hang in there, Redlotuspetal68
Being "poor" doesn't necessarily mean you live in poverty. Nobody living in real poverty could manage to put a couple hundred messages onto a forum like you have. You might consider yourself poor, but you sure as hell don't live in poverty
