I dont know exactly what to call this...

This girl came over tonight, and I had been considering going out with her and everything. We made out on my couch... afterwards I felt sick at my stomach, I didnt get horny or anything... I think its because I'm just not physically attracted to her and I was trying to force myself to be.. and I was lonely. I am not gay or anything. I just wonder if this is normal? I feel real sick now...

 

You feel sick because you made out with a girl? You weren't attacted to her. Was she attractive?

Why would you force yourself to be attracted to her? Have you ever masturbated? If yes, what did you think about to get yourself hard?

I've felt sick before once when I got scammed, but I don't know about your situation. What emotion exactilly is causing you to feel sick? Do you feel sick because you feel bad about making out with her?

Lastly... Ever try making out with a guy? You said "I am not gay or anything." like its a bad thing, because of the or anything. It doesn't have anything to do with being gay really. I'm not saying I think you might be gay, because I don't think you might be gay. It'd just be a helpful comparison.

Anyways, its not normal I'd think. Usually when a guy makes out with a girl he gets horny, and getting sick is kind of the opposite.

I think you feel sick because you feel really bad mentally, like you did something wrong maybe. When I felt bad I felt really stupid for letting myself get scammed, and I was in 6th grade and discovering that there are bad people in the world. I don't know what different things cause that feeling.

 

It makes sense if you were trying to make yourself pretend to be into a girl you weren't into, you wouldn't feel well. That's called a conscience, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Don't ever force yourself to "like" someone. There is no reason for it.

Wait for the right girl to come along.

 

Dude, maybe you just have food poisoning or a virus or something...

 

No, it was defidantly the girl.

Jk....

 

He got KOOTIES!!!!!

 

What you need is a stereotypical night of football with your foot up on a leg rest and some good auto magazines.

 

I've felt physicaly ill when things didn't go the way I wanted them to with a woman. Making out with someone you're not attracted to can be very distressing.

Why were you thinking of asking her out if you're not attracted to her?

 

maybe he's getting over another relationship and he just feels lonely and wants to be with someone and he didn't realize that that was the only reason he was making out with her until he was doing it

 

doesn't even have to be that he's getting over another relationship. he's human, he has feelings, he's a social being, he desires love, attention, praise and affection. sometimes these desires get the best of us and we succumb to going for someone we don't really desire out of lonliness, often realizing after we made a choice it wasn't right. he's lucky he figured it all out the first time they were together, which probably saved them both some drama and heartache.

 

If you don't care for someone in 'that' way, becoming intimate with them SHOULD be distressing. It means you have feelings and do not use womyn just to get your rocks off, only. I think that is admirable.

I know guys who can have sex with womyn they don't even LIKE. I think that is sick.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. You have a conscience, like I said. That's a good thing

 

Why would you want to force yourself to like someone that you don't like... That's just a waste of energy. Wait for someone you really like to come along.

 

well look at the age though,,, fairly typical in the everyday world where all the young folks want to be able to put another notch in the bed post,,, n to have failed at that is quite nauseating when yer young....... n then to think you wanted to date this girl and be ill is even more upsettin...

 

This is why you shouldn't hook up with fat chicks.

 

Yeah i've been in that situation, probably not as sober as you were but yeah its an all round shitty feeling i know.

 

i got sick after making out for my first time, i was really nearvous, so maybe neves?

 

My first time making out with someone I felt sick for about a week, Nerves didnt help since I was so nervous and I really really liked the person... but since you wernt attracted to the person it might be different ?? I dont know lol

 

i've been in this position before. I know this girl, she's on of my roomates friends from home, and she goes to the same university, etc. Well, she like the same music as me and I don't really think too much of her, and I definately have no interest in a relationship with her at all. But, one night i had too much to drink, my roomate passed out so we fooled around for a while. She tried talking o me online and shit a few days later, but i ignored her, and ignored all her other stupid things to try to get my attention. Well a few weeks later, she was invited back and i had no idea. So i wasnt even hanging out with her, i was actually upstairs drinking jager and sniffing some coke. Later that night i finally go downstairs and she still there, but she gave me a back massage(like any man woud deny) and eventually we fucked in the public bathroom downstairs(yea, thats how much i care about her) and went to lie down with her and was fucking sick as shit. Like i had just sinned or something, it was quite funny because i just got up and left... and slept in another girls bed. She wrote a letter about how she liked me and such and left it on my desk. The next day i saw it and almost dry heaved, so i taped it to my door and wrote 'nice try' on the bottom. Now it makes me laugh whenever i see it. But whenever i see the girl(she lives by one of my pot connections), one of the last things i want to do is even say hi to her.

I think my shit is better, BOYYY

 

the first time i ate a girl out the next day i was throwing up and had direara(sp?) and it really sucked. i think my sickness was due to the raw oysters i ate the day b4 but every time i threw up i tought about this slimmy vigina and that made me gag more so before her mom called me to appolizize because everyone in her family got sick that night i thought i had an std it sucked

 

Whoa. What's sick (to me) is the confusion and melding of some kind of emotional attraction with sex all the time. It's not always that way.

Men SHOULD be able to have sex with women they do not like, and vice versa for women. Lose the whole victimized poor sex kitten.

No one here mentioned that the girl might have been in it just for the sex also, but assumed that she was a naive thing waiting to get her heart broken. Puh-leeze.

To the thread opener, if you're feeling nauseous, don't you think YOU know why you felt a bit sick? Don't ignore your gut feelings and maintain your own peace of mind, be considerate of others too if you feel something was insincere. What's not nice is feeling awful, whether or not feeling awful is normal to you is your decision.