I don't know how to get it in there heads.

Lately its been uncomfortable being around my family.
All my brothers and sisters, have had children when they were around my age.
So the question comes up, "Skye, when are you going to have kids?"
My answer has always been the same, Never.
The average response I get is "Oh you'll change when you get older"
WHAT???! I highly doubt I'll ever change on this issue.

And it gets better:
My family has now assumed that I'm a lesbian because I never want to have children, and saying "I don't want kids" is my way of coming out.
I have no problem with lesbians, but I'm not into girls.

So how do I get it in there heads I'm not gay and I don't want kids?
Or should I give up and let them think what they want.

 

If they refuse to believe you when you tell them you're not gay, then they have problems, plain and simple. I wouldn't worry about it.

 

I enjoy pointing out to people how times are different now...there are so many more options for women today...get some hard data on how many really powerful successful women have chosen to opt out of the ''kid'' thing[dont use rosie or ellen]....dont try and pound it into them all at once...be subtle..like...''hey mom didnt you tell me your old college friend Susan has her own law firm, isnt she dating that actor..she never did have kids ,did she?''.......the gay thing will become obvious to them soon enough...good luck lovebird

 

I would just give up on them. There isn't really any point in getting upset that they don't believe you. I used to find that attitude really patronising as well when I told people I didn't ever want to have kids (incidentally I did change my mind but that isn't the point damn it!). As the saying goes "the best revenge is living well", just live your life exactly the way you want to, eventually you will end up exactly where you are supposed to be!

 

Why is it so important for them to believe that you will never have kids? Say, they believe you, or they don't...what difference will it make in your life?

 

just tell 'em straight up you wanna live your life without the burden of a kid.

 

If they automatically assume you're a lesbian because you don't want kids, fuck them, let them bask in their own ignorance.