I feel so depressed and don't know how to help it :(

So as alot of you might already know i had a miscarriage on april 27th. Ever since then everything has gone downhill. My husband doesn't seem to want to touch me anymore, we haven't made love now for over a month, I had to go back to the emergency room on sunday morning because i was having really bad uterus pain and they gave me a huge shot of vicodin in my backside and then gave me a healthy percocet regimine for a week. Also i have had a really bad toothache which i know is irrelevent to the rest but it was like icing on the cake. All of this hospital shit is going to put me in the poorhouse, drain the account my husband and i had saved for the child it seems like we'll never have, all i do is cry all the time and i dont eat hardly, just pick around at food, and when im not crying, barely eating or working literally all i do is sleep....i dont have the muster to do much of anything else. i feel completely defeated. i dont even wont to celebrate mothers day because the thought depresses me even more. i dont want to go on antidepressants because my doctor said if i go on antidepressants i have to give up trying to get pregnant. so im at a complete loss of what to do, and being so depressed is starting to wear me very thin.

 

I'm sorry.

I'm sure it's hard for him too... so maybe that makes it harder for him to be there for you.

I have no advice. Only that your not alone. I'm currently dealing with other problems, though I won't pretend there as great as losing a child. but I do feel for you and anyone else in that kind of situation.

Keep strong. We are always being tested it seems...

 

awww hon, i wish there was somethign I could do or say to help you through this. Just know there is always hope and I am here if you need to vent or just need a friend.

 

Paxil?

 

I'm so sorry sweetie, I know it's so very hard.

More than likely, your husband is grieving as well, which is why he isn't interested in intimacy at the moment. So don't feel that it's anything you did! You two have just been through a heart wretching ordeal, it's still very fresh.

I remember after my losses that I never thought I'd recover. I spent most of my days in tears, barely ate, barely slept...I couldn't be around anyone who was pregnant or who had babies. It just hurt too much.

I remember being afraid that I'd not be able to get pregnant, not be able to carry a child. I think most women experience those kinds of emotions after losing a pregnancy. It's amazing how attached you can get so early on, how that loss takes your dreams away. It feels like your whole world is crashing down around you. Nothing else seems to matter.

Just know that you are not alone. You have much love and support here from so many who care. You're strong, you're going to get through this.

{{{Many Hugs}}}

 

give yourselves some time to grieve, to allow your hormones to get back to normal. try to have patience for each other. i'm so sorry.

 

try talking to your doctor about it. I went through a bad period a few years ago -couldnt stop crying- and the doctor gave me lorezapam or something in that family of drugs. but even if you took antidepressants for a time, you could go off of them down the line.

 

http://www.healthyplace.com/Communities/depression/women_9.asp
You CAN take antidepressants while trying to get pregnant and during pregnancy.

 

a friend of mine was on zoloft during her difficult pregnancy. or you could try st. john's wort?

 

thtas a good idea drumminmama, except i previously commited myself to making mothers day dinner for my mom and sister and now i feel like yay, my mom and sister have something to celebrate...hmm...yeah and i have to make them dinner....this all seems too much for me

 

Time will help the both of you heal.

 

well i have decided i destest mothers day