I Hate Dating!

Its got to be the worst thing I've ever done. Either I have a great date with a guy and set up another date (then get ditched.) Or the guy cancels on me for another women. I'm completely lost and apart of me just thinks who gives a fuck anymore? Yes I'd like to meet someone but I don't understand why its so hard to be honest for the other person and to tell me that they're not interested?

Its really disappointing when a person tells me they're looking forward to the date and then just doesn't show up. What am I not getting? Is there something wrong with me? I know I'm only 22 years old but I don't feel like I am. I am so different from everyone else, I don't go to parties and get wasted like everyone else my age. I try to look at the positives in my life but no matter how great I'm doing it just feels like there is something missing.

Maybe I should just give up and do the friends with benefits thing again. Maybe I just don't have enough to do or maybe I am just stupid for thinking that I could actually meet a decent guy. I'm trying to have hope that somewhere out there that is right for me. I am sorry if it sounds like I'm whining, I'm just very confused.

 

Stop dating for now. If you have a negative mindset, your experience will be bad. There's a lot to life outside of dating. Go enjoy life and wait for the right person. If you feel like there's something missing, that gap can only be filled by you, not someone else. When you feel complete is when you start attracting the right kind of guy.

 

There are good guys out there, but it seems like you just need a break from it all. If you go into dating/ a relationship thinking that guys are bad etc - it will become that.

I thought the same thing a while ago.

 

Hmmm. I havn't had a date in about 6 years, now.

 

See that's the thing I went into dating not thinking anything. Just I'll give it a try and see what happens. Everything else except this one thing is great. I have a job, going to school (getting great grades), losing weight, and I still miss having someone next to me. The only time I don't feel that way is when I meet my friend with benefits. I think I just need to give it a break.

 

I haven't been on a date since high school. I've been in and out of a few various relationships, but 'dating' I think is overrated. Just socialize. Get out there and meet people you like.

 

Yes the whole dating thing seems to be overrated. I actually hadn't ever been on a date till now. I've had a relationship but never went on a date. I'm so use to meeting someone and just being exclusive with them. This whole thing is different and confusing.

 

It's probably good to take time out, as they say- the right person will come along when you're not looking for them

 

if you think you're the only person your age not getting wasted at parties, you're probably ignoring a large portion of the population.

maybe you're just trying to date guys who are too drunk to show up.

maybe you should go to a party and get wasted.

 

do that again, then.

 

That's a lot harder to do then it use to be.

 

I know I'm over generalizing the situation. I'm always afraid to get wasted (alcoholism runs in my family, so I try to stay away from it.)

 

No, there's something wrong with him. Stick in there.

 

Im 18 ill go on a date with you

 

*giggles* You know nothing about me, but I am flattered.

 

you hot? guys like hot girls.

 

Getting wasted is not a good way to discern whether a guy is worth holding on to.

Hanging around wasted guys is not a good way to have them show up for the next date.

 

People that enjoy getting wasted are merely wasting their lives away.
Why do you think it's called "wasted"?

 

You are just going to get to like 40 and be angry with yourself you didnt. Especially when you see that the girls you frowned on for doing so early on just end up like you anyway - Soccer mum, 3 kids, Minivan with 6 cupholders

 

I used to party a lot. but after a while on the party scene you see that most of the guys just go to partys to take advantage of girls. That just doesnt feel right to me. so if i party now its with close friends. If im getting laid i dont need a chick to be drunk to do it