I have no idea what to do...

And im not sure if posting shit on this forum will even help... It would be better if i could just talk to someone but thats not happening...

 

so lets talk

 

for sure.

what abouts? lol.....

 

Whatever the hell is wrong with you, blurt it.

 

haha i cant its a long ass story. that takes place over... only a few weeks... involving a girl. who i like. who liked me. but now doesnt???


the only thing i could think of doing would be type a big ass wall of text... or have paragraphs or w/e but it would be really long and id probably forget stuff...

 

all relationships cam be boiled down to a sentence or two....

observe...
my last wife was a crazy bi polar abusive **** whos best talent was scamming people for money...i hate her and she is currently homeless....boohoo what should i do

i like a girl that i am friends with.we hang out tons.she confides in me and everything....boohoo what should i do

i compare all girls to a past girlfriend that i am still in love with...boohoo what should i do



see!...its easy

 

lmao, but thats leaving out all the good details that im confused about...

ok here it goes...

yeah this isnt gonna be that short...

girl i knew for about 5 years now, knew her for 2-3 and talked then didnt see her for a year then just started seeing her again (like seeing as in, being able to talk to etc) so, she asks me for help on some school work etc, then she says that we should hang out.

we hang out... after that she tells me how she likes me and stuff. yadda yadda...

then she asks me to help her write an essay. i do. we get to hang out while we write it or what ever...

we were "talking" for like 2 weeks like walking together holding hands kissing etc.

uhhh. yeah. thats pretty much it leaving out a bunch of shit that i could go on about forever. and then one day i ask if shes comming to my birthday party and she says of course because shes my FRIEND. so i ask her if she would basically be my girl friend in a less lame way then just saying it.

and she says that she cant be in relationships and has it through her head that she cant be in one anyway cause shes going to college out of state.

but, besides that before this happened she is the one who was telling me how its not that far and i should drive out and see her and stuff...

uhhh. and she also said some shit about there not being sparks. but im just here like wtf. your the one who came on to me like you liked me.

oh yeah and she pulls the i just want you to be my friend thing. which idk. we sort of are for some reason.

and this still doesnt feel like enough info lol...



see..... i cant do that one sentence shit. i like girl. she doesnt like me supposedly yet she still talks to me even tho we didnt talk before.

 

also...

a main detail i should maybe add...

she has a bad reputation. of being easy. (and she told me she wants to change it all but its going to be hard) and after she tells me she cant be in relationships she says shes going to isolate herself from guys...

well that worked for about a day or two...

since i still talk to her and shit she tells me she had a good day cause she met some guy at the beach, and stuff, then the other day she tells me that shes going to a guy shes "talking to"'s house thats like 30 minutes away.....

and this was... like yesterday. and then i said to her, you sure talk to alot of guys.... (in a text) she didnt reply of course but she said random shit to me online that had nothing to do with what i said. and lame i know but im still on her top friends or what ever for stupid ass myspace and im sure she would have taken me off if she wanted to


bah..... yeah and theres still more i could add......


and yeah. im basically only talking to her still in hopes that she will come around sometime. probably should have mentioned that. becuase i have no reason what so ever to talk to her. i dont want to see her going around with other guys and would rather not have her in my life at all. i dont need friends. especially ones that only talk to me when they need something.

 

anyone?

 

you can do better
blow her off
move on
its hard
i get it but if you story is accurate she has traded up[in her opinion]

she is doing you a favor

 

what do you mean traded up?

believe me ive tried moving on lmao. i always think about her and ive been having fucking dreams and shit. its annoying.

i know the best thing to do would be to stop talking to her all together but i dont want to cause of that tiny hope i have

and how is she doing me a favor? should i talk to her at all?

 

Sounds like you've got it the wrong way around.

You naturally assume cos she's a girl she wants a relationship before a quick bonk, cos most of them think like that, but not all of them think like that

And because the ones that think like that sneak around, they think most half decent guys have a girl like her or two that they can sneak around with. She's used to guys that cant control themsleves around her asking for a quick bonk or the random visit, and thus if you can control yourself around her, she assumes you have other options anyway.

Just because she is a girl, maybe a really girly girl, maybe somewhat attractive, doesnt mean she doesnt think more like a guy than most guys do.

So her telling you about all the guys she visits is much the same as one of your male mates bragging about a conquest...get it?

Well, thats what it sounds like

But with all of them, they dont think like you think they think

 

god that confused the shit out of me...

no i dont assume that because shes a girl she wants a relationship, i just want a relationship

what is it sposto mean if she assumes i have other options?
but yes, that is exactly what i did? control myself because i want something besides sex...

somewhat attractive. lol. you could call it that?

ahh thinking like a guy. bad bad bad.

haha why would she be telling me about the guys shes with if she knows i like her. i mean it would be a bit different if it were one of my male friends telling me something like that, cause its not like we were almost together... and yeah ive noticed they dont think like i think. i cant make sense of any of it...


but, in all what your saying is??? i understand but what am i supposed to take out of that?

 

and what would the point of her wanting to be just friends with me be then?

 

That unfortunately at the present time, you are kind of screwed, in 5, 10 years time when shes finished rooting around and wants to settle down you'll be sweet

Probably doesnt get on with other girls cos they all get the claws out when shes around their boyfriends, and most other guys try jump on her first chance they get, so you may indeed be her only real friend


Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but these kind of issues have plagued mankind since the dawn of time, and I dont think any guy has ever worked out a solution to your problem, you never know, you might be the first

 

Lmao at the first part... yeah i want the seconds thirds fourths and up from 5-10 years....

hah, not really though. she has a few friends that are girls that i know of and guys, but theyre probably all just... her sneaker people. i sure cant tell...

dude. i think i am her only real friend. but the bad thing is, IM NOT EVEN HER FRIEND!!!! lol. so should i be the nice guy and be her friend? cause honestly. i have been really nice to her but only in hopes of getting something out of it. i could be a dick very easily... or at least not so nice, since i have no reason to be nice or atleast just stop contacting her...

lmao i like the ending... but yeah idk. god damn. she always talks to me about how she hates guys and shit. but im right her like the only dude who doesnt want to screw her over and shes just like. uhhhh. you dont exist to me...

like she just did... (the guy part) oh well... shes not the brightest star in the universe.

 

i just let her know, since shes telling me how she hates guys or what ever... i said you hate the kind of guys that you like. then i told her its a knee slapper. but seriously. if all the guys you like suck? maybe you should learn to look for a different type of guy...


ive told her stuff like that before but yeah. idk she just doesnt wanna listen...

 

It gets even sillier, in 5,10 years time she'll be saying shit to her husband like "arent I enough for you?" "why do you need to look at other girls?"


But just so you know, its just as annoying to her now that you can control yourself around her as it is annoying to you that she doesnt want to get tied down

 

ohhhhhhh god... what a bright future there is....

ahh. so that last part.. you mean she feels like i do but.. reversed?

summat like that.

 

Pretty much, yeah