My boyfriend and I have been living together for over a year now and things were going good for a while, but then he started taking all of his anger out on me. He's dealing with a lot of problems including getting off of some serious drugs and I know that he's had some mental problems in the past. He went from being everything I ever dreamed of to sleeping on the couch and being completely repulsed to even touch me. I moved out two weeks ago and thought that we were going to work things out. He said that he just needed some space, but that he really loves me and he even asked me to marry him. After that things just went completely downhill again. Only now as soon as I go see him all he wants is a piece of ass and then he says that he doesn't even know if he loves me. He said that he used to love me, but he's not sure if he still does. When he said that I left for good. I quit my job, I'm staying with my mother now, and have no idea what's going on. I can't deal with someone who treats me like shit and in spite of not wanting to sound like every other dumbass who stays in a bad relationship... I really love him. Maybe me being alone is for the best. I just don't know what to do next time we talk. I don't know if I should see what happens or once and for all end the shit I've put up with for so long. Sorry for such a long thread, but I had to get it out.
I think its some inborn trait in women to stay with men who treat them like shit. We still find reasons to love them.................. Im sorry things didnt work out. Time will tell. Stay strong and do whats best for you...
oh alright. In a few days, you will probably be with him again after his emotional apology, expressing how much he does love you and miss you.
on the one hand, you guys have been devoted for a year+ (assuming you didnt move in together right when you met). that says something good about your guys commitment. however, couple that are together for 10 years still find out that they arent happy. it sounds like maybe all he really needs IS space, and its not because of you. i think he wants to get his life in order before he seriously takes on yours. id say unless he keeps on with the drugs, id stay around and be there when he needs you... emotionally, not physically for 'some booty.' good luck with everything.
it takes more than just love to make a relationship work. If he does not treat you well.... that's called domestic violence, even if he never physically hit you, it's still domestic violence, doesn't matter what excuses he makes for it (because abusive people very rarely accept responsibility for their own actions), and you are much better off staying far far away!!
