I just wanted to say.....

YAY!!!! Good work, Heat and Matt.

Good luck, Blessings and good wishes for the Men's Issues Forum.

Love and hugs,

Maggie Sugar

 

I'm highly antcipating the first topic!

good luck!

 

hello, posted a topic.
i'm sure we'll get round to male only issues soon enough (although i think men generally find it harder to talk about such stuff in public).
So have to get angsty male/female friction issues out as well i suppose!

I remember asking skip for a men's issue forum a couple of years ago. When the women's one started. He said, prove you have issues! eek. So me and this guy, 'digger' i think he was called, compiled a big list and got lots of interest but skip was never convinced.

I can't remember what i posted last time. Will try.

Thanks to the peeps who put this forum up!

I'm sure it'll start off a bit more slowly being hidden away and 'cos of the "not in public" aspect i mentioned earlier. But it'll gain momentum i don't doubt.

~

 

Thanks, Maggie. But, I need you to move a thread for me please. It's my "Fathers Issues" thread in parenting.
Thanks! Now. When Skip puts me as Co-Mod, we'll keep it respectable in here.

 

Thank you Maggie.

This is going to be an adventure.

 

I am glad you made it in then and the forum will be here for a long time with a little help from my friends.

I do agree that sometimes people have a hard time to open up and to post and hopefully here they will find open communication and support....probably those who do not agree also but that is sometimes just a way to open up a little more.

Enjoy the forum

 

Matt, do you want me to put "Father Issues" on this forum? I'll do it, if the site let's me.

It's a personal forum, I'll see if I can do it. Give me a little time, if I can't I can ask Xaosflux or someone who is really good at this stuff.

 

Hi guys - congrats on your new space! I think it's wicked great that you have a men's forum... hope you don't mind if I stop by to say hi now and then

 

You are welcome to come on in any time

Thank you for your good wishes!

 

See, you did it!

Thank you also for the redirect in Parenting

 

Hey man, Give me a topic I'm interested in or have something to say about and I'll open way up.

 

Shall look forward to reading your thoughts

Also though, feel free to post anything you wish to talk about!

 

Hi, Heat & Matt & all the Posters,

So glad this was indeed an idea whose time had come & that I wasn't just blowing off steam. I'm just content to be a contributor. As a single Dad raising four teenagers, there seemed nowhere to turn for sound advice on parenting which society viewed more typically as a female roll. It's hard to describe how alone a man can feel raising kids after a divorce. You get all sorts of assumptions & questions & accusations thrown at you. Not only that, very young teens are the worlds greatest judges. They seem to see everything as being either black or white. Also, one thing I'll never understand is when one party takes off, the remaining party gets both thanks & blame for the absent parent as well. (Her new husband told her that any other guy would have just taken off.) My family was supportive but far away. That would have helped. I think you still have to wait until they get older to where they stop the blame game. I guess you are an adult when you begin taking the blame for most of your actions. But it really comes home to roost when you have children of your own. (But not until they hit puberty!)

Hey, will you look at that —I'm lucky #13!

Just Keepin' it Real

 

i'm so glad this exists!
congrats!

 

Welcome Skycanvas

Our society is geared to thinking that children must have a mother....a father is optional. It is wrong and while we all know that the ideal is that they live with two parents, who are stable, happy and raise them with love, we also all know that fairytales are not a reality.

I know of men who are raising their children and doing a fine job....just as I know women who are.

I was a single parent for a while and mine were not teens and the hardest part was feeling like there was no one there to reassure me that I was doing the right things. I had family support and their father was a good man but on a personal level I sometimes felt so alone.

Four teens????? Ikes!!!!

Looking forward to your posts and you sharing with us your thoughts.

 

Thank you lawngirl.

Saw your contribution on another thread and I hope you stop by often.

 

I guess these are my unresolved male issues that have surfaced, but I know that's not going to be every guy's problem in the least because that was only a segment in my life. Thanks Heat, for your positive input that goes with the flow...but I don't want to steer the thread since there are single guys out there with different issues.

If I can just reiterate by adding: True, society at large has long lost its moorings in regards to the ideals, whether buying in cash rather than credit or the ideal two-parents situation. From the resultant survival situation we do the best we can with what we can salvage from the wreck. I only see the situation growing worse with idealistic kids today & what their future will be. And also true that if there were just someone there to back you up, when you say no, a female to deal with what girls are up to & male who is in tune with what the guys are prone to do.

I found out too late that my best friend, a guy who I had lost contact with for a few years also single-parented his kids. He & his ex were both Scorpios. Talk about the war of the roses. He would ground them. His ex would come in the house & liberate them. I think that's great when people have a supportive ex. But when they are trying to take their passive aggressions out on the one who is actively parenting, that's a crime & a crying shame to see.

It is completely platonic, but too bad I didn't think to move close to him, as we were more in agreement as to our mutual counter-culture ideals than the chasm between the way we, our ex's & relatives related to us & our kids. Generationally-speaking we'd swung away from nearly everything they believed & taught us. I blame the electric kool-aid.

 

Some of the most heinous things done are those done by people who should know better with regards to children.

You did not and would not take this off topic as this forum is for exactly what you posted....so glad to have read your thoughts.

As a society we have a lot to answer for, as we strive but the moment that we dissolve a relationship somehow it all goes out the door and it is a free for all too many times.

I hear you about your friend as I met a group of women on a chat board that helped me as when I was scared and floundering it was safe to ask and I am blessed as now those women are my friends in real life. Last weekend one of them came to Ottawa and spent the weekend with me. I also travel to where they are and it is a bonding that got me through some of the hardest times I have ever faced. (no more Scorpio though as I am one, the one who lays down rules for the house..ahhhhh.. )

You know that saying it is never too late.....well it never is. If you think that both of you would benefit from the support, raising.....then it is never too late. Even if only by phone and visits it is still support.

You have given me a thread idea and I am stealing it. Hope you join in!

 

Skycanvas, YOU are going to be an ELDER in this forum real fast! 4 Teens?!
Ouch! Not all girls, I HOPE for your sake!

 

I'll vote you the "Medal Of Honor" for THAT!