I kinda lied to her and now she's not talking to me

I lost my job a few weeks ago and I didn't tell my girlfriend. I kept it from her because I didn't want her to think differently of me that I'm unemployed. So I'm guessing she kinda had a hint or something that I wasn't working and actually went to my job and I didn't answer her calls after she called and she went in and asked for me and they told her that I've been gone for a while. She was saying how I am living a double life and stuff and that she needs time to think things over and how I broke the trust and will never build it back up again in the relationship cause she wonders what else I lied about and that I'll never tell her the truth. So what is the best thing for me to do? I know I fucked up, but should I just move on or is there hope? She went to her friends house for advice and she had told her not to contact me at all and told me to stop calling her until she calls me. I called her but her friend answered and we got into an argument with her saying that she is really pissed at me and that she'll call me when she calls. When she calls, what should I go on abouts saying?

 

show her that you are sorry and move on. Most importantly: realise that you did the wrong thing!

By keeping it from her, you tell her not only that youre afraid that she will judge you based on this job loss.. but it also tells her that you believe that you have done something that is wrong in her eyes. And then lyin about it. How can you expect her to feel comfortable about a long term relationship with someone who lies about something as important as having a job (weve all seen hollywood, we know that this sort of lying always precedes disaster)?

i mean its different when youre tryin to get someone to date you maybe.. caus then you want them to give you a chance. But if youre together already, then its the stage to increase honesty

 

OP: If you're really REALLY lucky, she'll eventually forgive you and give you another chance. IF that happens, you better earn her trust by being truthful to her. DON'T lie to her again. If you're not really REALLY lucky, move on but next time you get the opportunity to be in a relationship you be truthful to that one.

 

I agree with Bill, only I think he was a little soft on you. Realize that you DO NOT deserve for her to take you back.
Wait for her to call you, and when/if she does, just apologize your ass off tell her you don't know what you were thinking and thank her over and over for calling you, tell her you miss her and yada yada - and then maybe ask if she would consider taking you back.

Just don't get your hopes up, 'cause many people wouldn't take someone who did that back.

And most importantly, whether you get back with her or not, just try and learn from all of this.