i like a 13 year old and im 17 is this wrong

cuz i just dont know this has never happend before i mean ever and i just wanna know if its wrong to like somebody 4 years younger than you cuz in a year ill be a pedophile plz HELP!!!!!!!!

 

my boyfriend is 3 years older than me, thats close to 4, its not that bad? from my point of view. when i was 14 i dated a 23yr old.... so yeah, idk, age has never mattered to me.

 

In 1965 I met my future wife. At the time I was 18 she was 13 (Two months from her 14th birthday.) We did not start dating until she was 15. We did not become sexually active until just before we were married in 1970. Not because we were afraid of the law. But, because she said she did not feel ready for sex and I was (And still am) in love was her and willing to wait for it. <(^o^)>

 

It's not ever wrong to feel or think anything.

Action is where morality comes into play.

As long as you make sure not to rush her emotionally or physically - not get her into anything she's probably not prepared for - I don't see much trouble.

 

17 y.o. M and 13 y.o. F. Wrong? I don't know. Illegal to have intercourse? I think so.

 

There. </thread>

 

In most states, not are, but most states it is illegal for anyone under the age of 18 to engage in sexual intercourse. Here in California that is true. The older of the two will be charged with "statutory rape".

 

DO NOT WORRY!!! As long as you are under 18 it shouldn't matter.

I mean I am 19 and my bf is 24. So, 5 years is big but if I was 14 and he was 19 thats rape. Just be careful and when your 18 NO MORE!!!

Hope that helps

 

lol, been there and done that. dude, don't sweat it. pretty much the only people who will press charges are her parents. so just be good and a good influence on her and whatnot. most of all make sure you don't ever send her home crying to mommy and daddy about how you broke up with her after she missed her period.

 

Age seems to ALWAYS be an issue, but this is a great example of it not meaning much more than just numbers. I'm happy for you jnorton.

I myself have been in "intergenerational" relationships in the past, and what problems I had with my partners were never age-related. It all comes down to treating your partner with respect.

So, to answer your question... No, I don't believe it's wrong.

 

I have to say, 4 years is no big deal for adults. In her case, 4 years is 1/4 of her life... Not good at all. Like I said, 4 years in adults is just fine, but she is only 13. What 6th grade? 7th Grade. Your a Senior? Dude, if you can't go after someone your own age - I mean - come on.. Really a 13 year old girl is the best thing for you..

 

Yeah, dude, go for someone your own age, man.

 

I believe that it's not a good idea... Just for two reasons one: On your birthday it will be illegal, and two: She's just not ready even though she may act/ seem like it, she's just too young and it's proven girls with older boyfriends are more likely to get pregnant and at 13 she's not ready. I don't think she'd be ready for a commitment or at least the same one you're looking for.

 

Absolutely wrong i would never let my oldest date a 17 y/o

 

I've brought up this particular thread to a couple people who have said the same thing; that she's not really ready and even if she were, if you two happen to break up she'll cry foul and then you'll be screwed. It's not worth the risk. At most I'd advise you stay friends with her until she's at least 17.

 

13 year olds of either gender are downright flaky. Very quick to gravitate and show affection and even quicker to reject and make a small problem into a catastrophe. Whether you're 15, 16 or 17, I wouldn't recommend it.

And definitely don't go for it if her parents "approve". This factor is the red flag of all red flags. Parents that willing to approve are just as willing to disapprove at ten times the intensity without any indication until your ass is in a sling.

 

No, it's not wrong, but you'll find yourself on the wrong side of the law if you bump uglies. Also, the maturity issue may stand in the way of an actual relationship.

We're pre-programmed to find people of the opposite/same sex attractive. If you do, then you do. It's what you do about that attraction...

 

:cheers2:

 

A friend of mine was in a similar situation.
I am sure it is okey as long as you do not rush times.