I love a girl

There's this girl that I love called Jai. I told her that I love her and when i did that things seemed to start to go heaps better. We became best friends, but then one afternoon, she just comes up to me and says that she hates me. She didn't even tell me why she hated me. No though, we're friends again. She suddenly likes me again. She says that she might love me back. She even kissed me on the hand once. I dearly love her. What should I do? Give up on her or not. If you have anything that could help me then please post in this thread.

 

I think she's just confused and doesn't know what she wants. Don't give up on her.

 

Thanks.

 

you're welcome.

 

I'm supposed to be going to a farm with Jai tomorrow. Should I tell her how I feel then or should I not say anything? Please reply.

 

I'd say.. don't SAY "I love you", but be nice to her, you know, say it by eyes, like smile to her nicely, help her.. let her know you still do love her, but don't say it straightly.. now she's gonna see you love her without telling.. I think this could be easier as for you so for her.

 

Thanks for the advice, it should help heaps. If you can then check back here on Monday and i'll tell you how it went.

 

yeah yeah, let me know.. or PM me, ok?

good luck!

 

While at the farm we seemed to be getting along for like the first few hours but then she just started to ignore me as though she was getting tired of me. She told me to go away and leave her alone. She also seemed to be playing with a different kid there called Derrick. Derrick is kind of mad at me because his ex-girlfriend: Deanne, dumped him for me even though i don't like Deanne. I think that Derrick is trying to get me mad by going out with Jai. After they had finished playing etc. she then began to take an interest in me again and we had a lot of fun together. There was even some physical contact between us for a little while. What I don't understand is how come she lost interest in me and then a few hours later, regains interest in me. Please respond as quickly as posssible for I am seeing her again tomorrow. If anyone else has some advice then please state it below, or PM me.

 

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Thanks for the advice

 

sorry to say so, but it sounds like she's playing you... but don't dispair, that can be both good and bad

 

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When I was about 10 years old, I had a friend who said that he loved me. He wrote me poems (that he copied from books) or lyrics of popular songs. I never wrote him back. I liked to be friends with him, but I was too young to understand what he wanted. I was a child for a very long time.

Even though your friend is probably a little older, she understands the words you are saying, but might not perceive the deeper meaning. Be kind to her, be a friend to her, but don't overwhelm her with your feelings. in puberty, feelins are one big chaotic mess, it is hard to cope with ones own feelings, and it is even harder to be overwhelmed with other peoples feelings. She probably doesn't hate you, she might just not be certain of her feelings, which is totally normal. Be a kind guy, be there for her, when she needs you, but you also have to know when to back up, and to leave her alone for a while!

Good luck!

 

Thanks. Jai and I first started around just over a year ago and she isn't lacking in experience at all. As far as I know she's been going out with people since she was nine. I don't know if that's true at all but i'd say she's been doing this sort of stuff since she was eleven.

 

If anyone else has some advice then it would be greatly appreciated

 

Oh, honey, I don't know what more to advice you.. I mean.. just let things go and you'll see, honey!

 

Alright

 

Meanwhile you could read a book!
I propose something which is completely out of subject, since this will keep you cool.
Try out some Odyssey or other Greek mythology.

 

well i think you are both very young and need to just enjoy each others company .....just enjoy spending time together and you will most proberly become great friends ,,,then later on who knows what might happen.......i think by telling this girl you love her could maybe scare her off a little.when she said she hated you and then later changed her mind and said she dident she was proberly just a little embarrassed and confused..you are both so young.......and dont forget even couples need to be friends too..good luck with everything