I have 2 love issues at once. I just need some advice. #1: I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now. And honestly, I want out. He's a good guy, but I have seen a bad side of him, and he's done some stuff that I just can't forgive and forget. He tries to make rules for me, saying I can't have guy friends unless he knows them, but he's free to have girl friends wherever he wants. He's hurt me so bad, and I can't do it anymore. I also hurt him, because I made out with another guy a few months ago, and he deserves better than that. He's really protective, and he said that if we ever broke up, he'd beat up whoever I dated next. He's a big guy, used to be a football player, about 250 lbs, so I wouldn't put it past him. I need out of this relationship, but I'm so afraid of hurting him. Lame excuse, I know. I used to think I was happy with him, but a few months ago, I woke up and realized I'm not. #2: I have this guy friend who I am in love with. We work down the hall from each other at our local mall, we have so much in common. I also made out with him a couple times and got really close to him after deciding I needed to break up with my boyfriend. Problem is, he has a girlfriend now. I want to have that connection we had before, and I know I need to break up with my boyfriend. But it kills me every day to see this guy with his girlfriend. He hardly even talks to me anymore and we never hang out. I want to be with him so badly. I don't want to try and get in between him and his gf, cause that doesn't work. But I love him so much, more than physically. I need to tell him, but I don't know what to say. I need help so badly. :[
if its true love, its true. i forgive my girl for EVERYTHING. doesnt mean i always forget it tho. ive been cheated on, left, manipulated, and harassed constantly but i still love her deeply, and nothing at all can disturb that. sorry if im not much help, all i can say is you have to forgive people. bottom line. ok if i were you id tell the huge guy to stop being such a control freak, see how he reacts, if his behavior is the same hell probably never change. then you know what to do.
