Okay, this is a long story, so bear with me. A year ago (around June), I started talking to this girl online, over Facebook. Before I go into detail I will say, yes, she is who she says she is, that's not the problem here. Anyway, I talked to her a lot, & got to know her, & I liked what I knew, but she had a boyfriend. So, I backed off a bit without completely removing myself, & eventually she did break up with the guy, & we were supposed to be together, & around this time I even told her I loved her, which was odd for me because I hadn't even seen her in person. But, that didn't last long because about a week or two later, she left for another guy. I was kind of hurt, but just removed her as a friend & moved on. But, I kept thinking about her over & over, so I added her again, & we started talking. Surely enough, I started to learn more & more about her, talk to her more, & then, once again, she leaves for another dude. The third time, it's basically the same thing, & this time, it didn't last that long with the other guy. The funny thing about this girl is usually when I stop talking to a girl, I rarely think about her again, but for this girl I've broken that rule three times, & I haven't even met her in person. It's been a year, & she's not away at school anymore, & she stays on the westside of the city we're in, I'm on the east. I think she's hesitant about seeing me, & I can't imagine why because of how much she claims to love me. If you loved someone wouldn't you make sure you see them in person as much as you can? If I could, I'd go see her, but I can't, & I know she has more options to come see me than the other way around. Plus, she always says she's not ready for a relationship, & then talks about how it's only going to be about me when she's ready, & that only lasts until she finds some other guy. I don't get it. HOWEVER, here's where the twist comes in. This one girl who was on her friend's list adds me. So, seeing her picture I'm thinking "wow she looks good" & I tried talking to her. She ends up being hella cool, she gives me her number, & up to now, we had been talking for two months. The girl I've been telling you about basically was dating her guy a couple years back, so she doesn't know her that well. Anyway, this girl has been in a three year relationship, but she talked to me as if she maybe thought it was going to end for good, so we were getting to know each other well. But, then, this past weekend, it's like it completely changed. She hasn't messaged me at all, & her phone was fucked up, so she got a new number. She did txt me the first time the number changed, but the second time, she didn't. The crazy thing is, even though I'm younger than her (and the other girl) she's admitted that I am mature, & she did seem to like me. What's crazier is that her & her guy seem to break up like...every hour on the hour. I do like this girl, & I feel like if I could get through to her it could be more than an internet relationship like with the other girl, & I won't have to wait over a year to see her in person. What do I do in both cases? I'm not trying to date both, by the way. It's a case of me loving one girl, & wanting her, but not wanting to get hurt, & wanting to get to know another girl & maybe fall in love again & in a more serious manner, but not knowing how to go about it, if that makes sense. Any advice would be helpful. :coffee:
I would try meeting people in the real world. You will only find problems with "internet" relationships.
If you had any chance with either, I would choose the second. I doubt the first one is that into you if she's been making moves on other guys but not you.
The problem with the second is that lately she hasn't really talked to me a lot lately. And my whole point was I'm trying to get real world interaction.
Lol you say that as if I'm constantly on the computer. I do meet people, doesn't mean I'm going to want to date them considering they aren't what I'm looking for.
