I REALLY need your help, because i'm not sure where to go from here.

The living conditions at home are getting pretty terrible. I get blamed for virtually everything even when i've been a complete angel. My parents went to florida for 11 days and I spent that time cleaning and taking care of their dog. They come home and blame me for every little thing that I didn't even do. That my brother is actually responsible for, who is infact older then I'am to shed a little light. I need somewhere to go but I have no job and most of my friends are out of town or live with their parents and it wouldn't really workout if I went and stayed with them.

Is there soemone I'm supposed to call? The reason Im so adiment about moving out isnt over a simple arguement but over a extended time of verbal abuse and today my dad marches right up to me and i'm like "you better not hit me!" (ill call the police) so he whacks my hat right off my head and puts his finger right in my face and screams at me.

You know, if I was one of those kids who was bad I could see how you know It might be even...a little appropriate but i'm not. I'm a good person, I really did do my best to impress them while they were away.

I just need some advice, or some suggestions of where I should go?...what I should do? I don't have money.

My dad sais he wants me to move out, and he told me to go live in some dreadlocked rats nest for hair village.
Mature I know.
He tells me he wants me to leave all the time, and my mom does time to time to.
They want to go on vacation and have no room in their lives for me or my brother anymore.

 

forget it

 

do you have public aid where you are? where we are my brother went to the public aid office told them he was "homeless" which he was going to be when he left my dad's and they helped him with food stamps and such.. I'm sorry to hear about your situation I know very well what it feels like to have an abusive parent that you can't get away from.. you don't have any friends or family at all that you could stay with even temporarily?? do you have a job? car? if not I'd work on alot of that while trying to get out..

 

Leave and go where?

 

I'm in Canada. We don't have food stamps here. We have 'welfare' and geared to income housing. If I go on welfare (which is paid by taxes) my dad will make comments about how I'm still dependent on him. I fucking hate him....UGH!! I'm so fucking tired of this. I should just die.

 

well don't go gettin all dramatic lol..
there's gotta be something that Canada has to offer for people in your situation..
have you checked online? again sorry it's so shitty there.. but the last thing you should do is crawl up and not do anything and just prove your dad right. so just get a start on shit.. even if it doesn't get you out right away you'll feel better about the direction your life is taking. you wont feel so stuck...

 

That's true, thank you so much for talking to me about all of this.

 

you're more than welcome.. I've been exactly where you are.. it sucks so bad I know. I got frustrated and upset and would just give up at times and it just took sooooo much longer to get to where I wanted to be so I hope you can try and stay as positive as you can be and just remember you WILL leave.. eventually you'll have your own life and this will just be something to help you grow..

 

They brought me home tye dye tshirts and salt water taffy from florida, its insane how they'll go from to
I almost feel like i'm over reacting but I'm not and infact my dad is the one who was freaking out.

 

What are your chances of getting a job? Is there anything that you are good at?

Without an income, your other options are shit.

 

I had similar things growing up and I took what I thought was the easy option and ran away. Looking back on it I really should have got a job and saved up so that I could move away. It can be a nightmare when your home feels like that, but you need to try and plan sensibly and then you can make a solid break knowing that you are going to be able to support yourself.

I used to spend a lot of time outside and in my room to avoid people. Aren't you going to college soon? That will give you a chance to get away.

 

Wow. I am so sorry, and I wish I could be more helpful, but I will say that this is NOT your fault. You have every right to feel upset and completely betrayed by these people who clearly just thought parenting ended at 18 and they could just kick their kids out and party all the time from that day forward. They sound incredibly childish, and I know how that can wreak havoc on your mind to the point where you doubt yourself. I have had to deal with some pretty childish shit from my mom and stepdad while I've been getting my bachelor's degree, but now I am on the verge of getting out, and have never felt so empowered. Do whatever you can to use the situation (you living in your parents house) to your advantage while you collect information and formulate a plan to get out (getting a job, saving up some cash, getting some transportation, establishing credit so that you might be able to get a loan to get started with education or your own place).
Hang in there. You can do it. If you can be patient with their bullshit while you get your own shit together and figure something out, you'll be a lot better off than if you give up or just go out on the street without a plan.

 

Thank you so much firefly!! It's nice to know you can relate to this. I think your all right and I should save up and put up with it for now until I can be more independent. It's not completly terrible but it has its moments where i just want to like run away! lol...

 

It's all about the money.

 

i went threw the same shit. i left when i was 17, ran out of money and had to come back. things were okay for a little bit but eventually the craziness started again. i left again and then joined the army when i ran out of money again. i wouldn't recommend the military by any means. if you leave its going to be tough at first but if you're determined you'll make it. remember that you're not going to change your parents and things won't get any better if you stay.

i don't know how things work up there, but for the most part people move out of their parents' places when they are 18. that's how its "supposed" to work, anyway. some parents are cool when their kids are still around are after that, some are not. my feelings about the things that happened are so strong i've been back for a total of 6 days over the past 3 years and i'm not planning on going back anytime soon.

i hope things work out for you. i wish i had something less generic to say than that.

 

They are probably concerned for your future, if you are 19 and have no job. Do you go to school? What do you do?

You are an adult now, like it or not. Sorry to be harsh, but it sounds like you want Children's Aid to step in or something. It's time to start looking after yourself.

 

It always is.

 

Or I just don't want to live in a hostile environment, i'm in school right now.

 

Very true. It sucks that we are pretty much helpless without money, but we are. So I think your best option would be to make money.

I wish you all the best and I'm so sorry you have to be in a hostile environment like that

 

If your clean and decide to start working the streets for cheap let me know