I slept with a prostitute and my girlfriend is pregnant

Hey. I recently went to thailand and slept with a prostitute, I used a condom. Is it possible I have anything? High/low chance?
When I got back I slept with my girlfriend and she's pregnant, could it harm the baby in any way?

 

Haha you had sex with a tranny.

Yep to both ya qs.

 

It was a bar-girl and was infact a female. But still, what could it do to the baby? If I get checked she'll wonder why so I cant really do that. No idea what to do

 

all you can do now is be honest with her so she knows to get checked for anything you may have gave her ..I imagine the earlier they find anything the better it would turn out.

 

I bet most guys flat out deny having sex with a tranny in Thailand but facts are facts and a lot of people have sexual intercourse with tranny prostitutes.

If you're infected with something then your partner is infected and her child is already infected. Go see a doctor.

 

SYPHILIS can kill a baby in the womb..

 

I wouldnt deny it, i'm not anti-transvestite. I just didnt do it.

If I tell her she will be upset, and I really can do without her being even more emotional than she already is and it won't do any good telling her. I'll try go during work or something. Is there any confidential clinics?

 

Clinics aren't known for public bulletin boards with your personal info stuck onto em at bus stops.

 

I mean like are there independent ones so it wouldnt show up on my NHS records?

 

She must be a very nice and nonchalant person to get "upset" about you cheating on her and with a prostitute. If a partner did that to me I'd bite his dick off and deep fry it in olive oil.

 

Don't judge me I just want to know whats best to do in the situation. I've cheated a few times in the past (i'm human, and i'm getting better) she doesnt get angry when she finds out she just cries and eventually forgives me but shes pregnant and has been through quite abit recently.

She got raped last august by her cousin so has had all the tests done then in the 'safe zone' clinic thing she got taken to after, but looking online it says some STIs can take time to show up, so if I just tell her I saw that and I am worried then if she does find anything it can be put on that and I dont have to tell her anything? And I can get checked then if she has anything and it will look like shes given it me (if I even have anything).

Is that right information before I go saying something stupid?

And before you start judging me again, i'm doing it for her, she'd much rather think its something like that than I cheated while shes pregnant and it saves her being upset

 

SINCE, you've decided to be not forthcoming, the best thing to do is test yourself now, in a month, and in 6 months. If you keep testing clean, you can choose not to tell her without endagering her health more than you already have. As an adult, your med. records are private and not even your spouse has a right to see them unless you allow it.

Homeboy,I'll stop judging you when you stop kidding yourself. Nothing you've done has been for her best interests. Now, you want to keep covering lies with lies.

The only reason it seems like she is okay with it is because she is the type of person that will tolerate abusive situations.

 

Real Nice CuriousGee! You cheat, you get caught, you see first hand how you hurt your woman, ...and it matters soooooo much to you, the feelings you inflict on other people, that you just keep doing it again and again!

Is your 15 min of pleasure worth her hours of tears and days/weeks/months of feeling crap? Is it a good and fair trade in your eye? Are you ok with treating other human on the planet like this? Does it not matter that you could be destroying her self esteem and giving her long term psychological issues?

I Guess NOT!

AND - Your not even good at it! You keep getting caught! Get another past time!

She is so far way better off without your sort, that I think you should do her a favor and tell her about sleeping with pro's in std riddled countries coz it might be the last straw in her getting rid of your sorry arse which is the best thing for her in the long term.

 

I'll try get to doctors during work then so she doesnt know.

I do things that are in her best interest like i'm not telling her this even though it would be much easier to just tell her and get it over with and I'm not abusive, I'm just not a great relationship person but at least i'm trying

 

I do care or i'd just tell her if I didnt, i wouldnt lose anything from it she just gets really upset so its her that would pay so i'm saving her from that and i've got to get tested .. it would be easier to tell her and her get tested but i'm NOT

 

afterwards no, its never worth it actually. But at the time I dont think and all i'm thinking is, this is going to feel great, so I dont care about anything else. At least I admit it. I dont know why, I cant help it.
And she has no self esteem already trust me no matter how much I cheat it cant get any worse, she just doesnt like herself at all. but its not my fault - would I have sex with her if I didnt like her? i'd break up wit hher. she was fine when I met her, but people change and I cant be blamed for changes in her, i cant be held responsible for her changing as a person

 

Then stop trying, cuz you clearly suck at it, so bad and in so many ways.

And no, it's not in her interest. It's in your lower head's interest (cuz the upper one is obviously full of crap).

I must say you're probably the crappiest person I've seen on hipforums. I usually try my best not to be judgemental and hold prejudices, but damn...you make it completely impossible.

And you saying that her self-esteem can't get any lower so it doesn't matter if you keep fucking around... God! I'm not even sure who of you two I'm most sorry for... You for being such a lousy excuse of a man or her for being your doormat.

 

how does it make me a crappy person?? I'm trying to protect her feelings arnt I??
And i didnt say it doesnt matter if I keep messing around because of her self esteem as it is, I just mean its as low as it can get so wont do anything anyway I doubt, apart from upset her.
If I didnt care I wouldnt be here would I?

And if I leave her now she will be on her own with our son n this baby n nobody will wanna be with her with 2 kids. so you should think about what i'm doing for her instead of just assuming i'm being a dick

 

Assuming? Who said I'm assuming? I'm way past that phase!

 

You had a holiday fling with protection. If the protection held chances are that you did not come in contact with any souvenir from your little holiday. Getting that checked is morally mandatory as it just does not involve you.

You are not the first to walk this road.

The rest is just how you and she choose to live a dysfunctional relationship. That will resolve when one or the other of you kicks someone to the curb. You may be a jerk but she tolerates you.

I take issue with this statement:

That you would even consider to then lay the problem, if there was one, on a person who is carrying a child and would then live with the guilt of that as their own, instead of manning up to having a penis you do not control, is despicable behaviour. You would not only guilt her over something that was done to her as in a rape, but the unborn child and then on top of it, your health.

What type of person are you?