i suck at closing the deal

i'm good at getting the initial contact and attrraction going

pretty good at keeping it going

but i really suck at closing the deal

so i went out with my cousin christine and her friend last night. pregamed a bit, then went to ths club. got there early, before it was really hopping. and i got my eyes on one of the girls that brings you drinks, so you dont' have to keep going back and forth to the bar. she comes over and asks if i'm all set and i start talking to her, but i didn't need a drink so she went on her way. my cousin then asks me if i see anyone i like, and i'm like "maybe, maybe not - you have to find out who it is." she ends up figuring it ouw pretty quickly.

my cousin asks me if i get embarrassed easily. i'm like no, but wondering why she asks me that. soon i find out why she asked me that, when she's over there talking to her. so i glance over and just smile and laugh a bit and there she is smiling back. she commented on my eyes and how they matched my shirt, was weaing a blue polo shirt. so everytime she'd walk by we'd chit chat for a bit, flirt, she'd touch me and smile...

but i couldn't close it...i hate this. i can get things moving, but i seem to lack the ability into finishing the deal

 

but i did get pretty damn wasted off of Long Islands and Cap n cokes

so it was still a good night out

 

Women expect you to do the closing. Grab her by the hand and tell her to dance with you next time.

In fact, she works their right? Go there again and bother her. Bothering women is my key to success.

It works.

 

did you qualify her(tell her you like her becuase of reasons other than her looks)?

 

Tell her she has a great personality and grab her tits!

 

she was only there for that night. promotion for the radio station that was there.

she works for the radio station during the day...i guess i could bother her there haha

oh yea, she was a genuinely nice person too. i'm not one to pursue someone just based on looks either.

 

Ok, then the close was there you just need a technique to get it.

Actually, try the 5 question game, I've closed with it 100% every time I used it. Here it is:

Let's play a game. But we need to bet something.(bet a date, coffee, drinks, whatever). Ok, now for you to win you have to get every question wrong. For example, we're in Pittsburg right? Well, if I were to say what town are we in and you said Pittsburg, you lose. Get it, you have to answer all 5 questions wrong. Ready?

Ok, what's your name?

(She answers)

What time is it?

(She answers)

Where are we right now?

(She ansers)

Now the key to the 4th question is to change your tone, like you are really puzzled.

Ummm, what question are we on?

If she says 4, you win! If she doesn't then make a big deal about it.

Awww, shit you got me! Have you played this game before?

She'll say no for sure and you will win. This is my go to time bridge builder. Then when you are about to leave you can get her number without her hesitating or asking why. Be like, you're not trying to worm out of our bet are you? Give me your number and I'll beat you at something again, I promise

 

Do it. Bother her there. Call her at work and ask her out for some sushi. It'll work or it wont, but not doing anything wont work. If she seems like your type go for it. You deserve a nice girl Fitzy. Carpe Babe.

 

um.....hes one thing though....waitresses are suppose to flirt and almost are never really into going home with you
i mean, maybe this is different...i'm just saying

but yeah spenc is right, we do not close deals...i mean we do make the decision but, so do you if you bring your roofies

 

that is true...which is why i normally dont' go for the waitresses. and at first i didn't try to pursue it, she just kept coming over to me - even when the place was busy as all hell or when i was totally engaged in something else at the time.

 

Stare directly at her breasts when talking. If at any point she says, "I'm up here, moron!" That means she's really interested.

 

Well, it's not like you have to take her home the same day.

Just ask for her phone number when you're leaving...

If she gives it to you, then awesome.

If not, then... oh well.

Pretty damn easy.

 

sounds easy, sure...but i have a hard time doing it. i get more self-concious the more i drink. usually people loosen up when drinking...i sometimes tighten up

 

Stay sober.... and disregard what I wrote previously.

 

really?

i show my tits when i'm drinking

 

...unless she's the one you're interested in... go ahead and hold an in-depth conversation with her nipples.

 

waitresses are what we call hired guns. yes they will throw out fake indicators of interest(it's their job) but, if you have an interaction going it's easy to distinguish real from fake. fitz I think you're golden. Rubin is right, if the interaction was good, you can always go back to number close or email close. here try this site:

http://www.seductiontuition.com/closing-concepts.html

it might help you out with closing the deal. dude, if you were able to score points with a hired gun, you're a natural!

 

well, in a club scene i get more self conscious, i think more about what i'm doing and think more about what others may be thinking of me, even if it is illogical haha..

with a bunch of my friends, shit, i have no shame

i need to find the balance is what i need to do

 

confidence is key
even if it's fake

 

actually, compitence is always better than confidence.