I wanna ask out this girl...

but I am scared shitless. We are friends, but not really close. I think she may be interested, but I am not sure. I haven't ever really asked anyone out before either. I have weighed out the pros and cons.
pros: if she says no, I am not infactuated with her or anything serious like that so it won't crush me,and we aren't like best friends so it shouldn't really make anything weird if she says no or it doesn't work out.

Cons: I haven't ever asked a girl out, and frankly the thought scares the hell outta me because I am really shy when it comes to anything dealing with being more than friends. Thus, why I have been single to this date. I don't know how she will react because honestly I don't know anything about how women's minds work in regards to dating and what interests them in going out with a certain guy.

So I guess what I am looking for is advice, preferably from members of the female persuation. Should I go for it? How can I tell if she is interested, or if she would just flat out say no? What is good for a first date (meaning like what should we do/where should we go)?

 

well if you think that she might like ya enough to go out with ya, and it wont crush ya if she says no, then i dont see why not. it will at least give you some experience in asking out girls

 

just ask her
you have nothing to fear
just be honest to the point of blunt
if you feel that theres even a small chance that she likes you the same way, she probably does
good luck with everything

 

what i asked was "hypothetically speaking, what would you say if i asked you to be my girlfriend?"

if she says no, well its just a hypothetical question, no harm no foul... if she says yes, then you can ask "so would you like to be my girlfriend?" :H

 

you are very beautiful. just ask her. there is no way she could say no.

 

hahaha...the first girl i dated, i actually told her that i wanted her to be my girlfriend...and that basically ruined it between us


doesnt matter though...she wasnt that cool

 

well good for you, then.

 

damn straight

 

Don't really know the situation, but if it were me, and i was in a sort of similar situation ( ), ask to walk her home of something like that...but that is only because i am that sort of guy

Side note: Sarah's back

 

Are girls really that subtle?

okay, good advice, thanks!

 

Hahaha, I am not that straight forward of a guy... Hahaha.

 

Whoa man, that put a smile on my face. Always sending the good vibes, eh man? I appreciate the compliment a lot man.

 

Is it lame of me if i want to ask someone to go steady

and rayne, in my experience--guys rarely know when a girl likes them (even though EVERYONE can see it) and vice versa...

 

Well, I don't think that'd work too well though. I would deffinately do that bu 1.) I don't know were she lives, and I am sure it is a distance from church (where I always see her) and that would mean we'd both be leaving our cars there... But I WISH that I could do that though, because that is an awesome idea and very classy.

 

hmmm, ok, so you know each other from church---

acctually, I've still got nothing

 

i probably should of worded it like that instead



i dont know...relationships are a mystery to me. i'd rather just have as much fun possible, and then have things work out on their own...if its a good enough thing, then you wont need to say anything like that

 

This one girl I had a crush on about (a year ago maybe... her family moved and I haven't seen her for a long time) made it blatantly obvious she was interested in me, looking back now, I can see that. But then, I couldn't really tell, and thought MAYBE she did, but I was too shy and backward to say anything. I initiated conversations, and was really awkward and usually ended up saying something stupid that I regretted, hahaha. It is for the best that I didn't ask her out though, because there was a bad situation there just up around the bend, had I asked her out, we'd have both been in the middle of a lot of bad shit and stuff like that, and we would have both been really heartbroken... Also, she really wasn't my type in any sense of the word.

I think it is a confidence thing though. people are too shy to take someone flirting with them as being obvious or not.

 

Hahaha, actually I am not sure what to do for a date though! For one, I will have around 40 bucks. This cuts out eating lobster and going to the opera. I thought about dinner and a movie, but that is cliche' kinda. It wouldn't be so bad if I could think of a way to spice it up...

 

Yeah, they are for me too. Somehow Sarah and I grew closer when she was 8 time-zones away.

 

Picnic, wire-less stereo, and a dance in the park :H