i would appreciate some help.

i am asking here because i would like help from women. i don't want stupid responses that are of little use. I would genuinely like some help.

At 18, I'm quite sick of being "cute" in the eyes of males/females/aliens whatever.

so i'm asking you ladies, what can i do to shed this "cute" image and adopt something more mature/desirable? Please & Thank you

This is what i look like in case it's of use:



also, i'm 5' and 108 lbs. I can't really post a pic of my body, i'm working with a cell phone (i broke my digi) but hopefully that gives you an idea.

 

nothing wrong with being cute. i'm 33 years old and am still cute. you've got a cute, cheeky face and that's not a bad thing. embrace it, eventually you'll realize you have it made.

 

blar. it seems to be that cute is not a good thing though.

 

says who? is this from that thread you posted in RT? please, don't too much into it. cute to one person is beautiful and enthralling to another. just becuase you do nothing for one segment of society doesn't mean you don't have a great deal of appeal for another. it's all subjective. it's not your job to be universally adored and panted over. hell, even supermodels aren't universally accepted as beautiful.

 

no, that thread was just sort of solidifying (sp?) what i already kind of believed. blar. it's just frustrating.

 

okay, i've gotten that 'cute' label alot in my life too, and i understand your frustration. it always got me the wrong kind of attention and involved with the wrong kinda guys. it also made people think i was an airhead regardless of my test scores. some things i do when i want to be taken more seriously (especially at work or school) is: wear my hair up in a bun (not a trendy style with ornaments stuck in it and hair sticking out everywhere, just a plain bun), if you wear makeup keep it simple and plain without any bright colors , no jewelry (including piercing jewelry), wear loose clothes with some architecture to them (to deemphasize cute roundness everywhere including face) that cover everything at the very least from cleavage to knees (preferably the whole arm and leg as well), wear low-heeled shoes that cover the heels and toes with no foot or ankle jewelry, if you have tatts keep them covered, basically absolutely nothing 'sexy' anywhere. beyond what you wear, act like an intelligent person with self-respect, no blushing, giggling, saying silly things to get attention. when being photographed avoid cute, coy poses, shots from above that look down on you, and adopt a more serious, mature expression. you may not attract as many guys with a more mature look, but the ones you do attract are more apt to take you seriously.

 

or you could be like me, be yourself, and get a guy like my husband. which is pretty damned awesome.

 

kc, does every damn thing in the world gotta be about you and your hubby? i'm sorry, but geezuz!

 

yeah, it sorta does.

 

I cant see the picture but wanted to say i understand. Youre not alone! The problem isnt about not wanting to be ourselves, its others perceptions of us...it DOES attract the wrong sort of guys and attention and respect levels. Confidence is the key i think. Be proud, be assertive, know and let everyone else know youre a strong woman. Youll always get initial "cutesy little girl" reactions, but you can put them in their place if youre firm enough. Im still learning. The majority of people are thankfully just being nice. Its that minority you have to watch for, it does exist so be careful. Best of luck

 

there's good and bad in everything. ugly people get tend to get the crappy jobs, gorgeous people tend to be thought of as shallow, average people get average jobs. whatever. everyone really has something to complain about. i think the trick is accepting the points you have in your favor and working them to the best of your ability. with a face as profoundly adorable as yours, hiding it probably won't do much good. but people tend to be more trusting of people with round faces. more open to communication. perhaps for you, a job in sales or communication would be good.

either way, you have something someone else wants or envies you for. use it.

 

I understand the need to be viewed as a woman and not that cute little girl you convey even in the pics you posted. Take it from someone who is mostly viewed as.. I dunno a strong intimidating spitfire who exhudes sexual energy Im told. The kind of attention you get then isnt always the good kind. Yes, I like that I am seen this way, but sometimes it gets you unwanted somewhat pervy attention from men and evil looks from women. Nothing wrong with cute.
I guess you can try to look "edgy" haha dye your hair black, dress provocatively.. make your voice deeper.. haha I donth think I was ever "cute".. revel in it..

 

that's just the way you look

you'll look different in 10 years

just accept it, let it flow.

 

i'm 34 years old and am still called cute. baby faces just do that.

i wish i were sexy and hot too but it is what it is.

 

yes, very good advice, a mature look comes with maturity and experience.....

 

I'm 22 and I'm cute.
Here's something for ya...I went looking for a car the other day (mine is retiring). I got in the driver's seat at the dealership and the woman pretty much doesn't think I'm old enough to drive?! I'll be 23 next month, so I have to accept being cute. Cute is pretty and can be sexy. Just be glad you're attractive.

 

sigh...

 

i'm appreciating everyone's input a great deal. I'm not aiming to be some sort of vixen. But an amount of sexuality to at least attract men

i'm 18 and still getting into places for kid prices (well, that's a really helpful thing. but i'm just using it as an example). I just want to be like "hey! i'm a woman! " this is all.

 

many men like the cute innocent look, they think it's sexy. don't fret.

katie couric has it!

 

if my sexiest aspiration is katie couric, i'm becoming a nun.