I'm a bum and I need a place to stay.

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if u r in teen shelters how did u rite dis thread?
or do they hav computerrs in the shelter?
PEACE OUT!
lov chris

 

I'm in a teen shelter right now called Capital City Youth Services and they don't have computers, but they drop me off at school in the mornings and I walk to the library from there so I have an hour of internet time everyday.

 

okif u lived in victora
u could crash at my joint
PEACE OUT!
lov chris

 

Hey dude

Sorry you had a fight with your grandmother. Unfortunately I can't offer you a place to stay...what with me living in Australia and all. However, maybe I can give you something to think about? I'm not trying to tell you what to do at all...you make your own decicions and your own way. These are just some things you might want to consider...

Being 17 and female will make you a target for certain perverted people. So asking for a place to stay on the internet IS dangerous. Dangerous as in you could get raped or murdered dangerous. Why would you want to put yourself into that situation? While staying in shelters or with your grandmother might not be that nice, at least it might be safe. By safe, I mean you won't come to (or are less likely to come to) physical harm. Secondly, if those places aren't safe...are there school friends or teachers who you know and trust who could help you? That way at least it's someone you know and trust, rather than a stranger.

You are a worthwhile person and precious. While that doesn't mean you should wrap yourself up in cotton-wool, it does mean you should be cautious (I know it sucks, but realistically there ARE predators "out there"). Look after yourself because you're worth it! Maybe the people at the teen shelters have some ideas to help?

Anyway let us know how you go, or even if there's anything I can do to help from Australia. I am a (20-year old female) student without a job (living on government assistance) so I don't have much money or resources. However anything I can do to help I will! Please, please, please look after yourself - you ARE worth it.

Love from Je4ss.

PS maybe posting what the fight with your grandmother was about (if you want to) would help?

 

yes i agree some more info on what happened would help
perhaps its rectifyable?
& please, if someone does pm ya offering a space..check with others here about them before u concider anything
there are probly some creepy lurkers out there who might jump at the opurtunity to offer help...in exchange for...... its that that u need to worry about
your able to go to school still your not cold hungry & on the street alone..so dont jump into any dangerouse situations.. try to fix things at home if u can..if u cant then whoever may offer help ..ask ppl u trust here if theyre to be trusted
just really dont want to see u gettin into even worse of a situation outta desperation

 

If I were to offer a place I'd have to practically adopt or foster you in a governmentally controlled way. You don't need any of us anyway to get on your feet. Rely on the systems in place for you in the short term, even DCFS, so you can get what you need. Rely on your beautiful self in the long term, though, lest you end up a bum for life ;-).

 

Ok.......well get ready because this is a little personal.


The reason I moved out was a little deeper than just one fight. When I moved to Tallahassee, like 3 months later, I was raped totaly ramdomly by this cab driver. All the evidence was around so the police got the guy and he's going to to porsecuted as long as I agree to press charges. My grandmother was already not too happy about me living with her, I believe her words were "I raised my children I didn't expect to have to raise my grandchildren," after the rape her stress level along with mine completely skyrocketed. She really wasn't up for a rape case so I started debating dropping the charges and then his "people" started harassing me, like when I went to school they would follow me in their car and throw coffee on me and stuff. I was really depressed and I didn't want to tell my grandmother about the harassment because she has a way of throwing things back in my face later, not to mention the rape subject was sort of squashed and I really didn't want the very topic to arise again. Finially I couldn't take it anymore and the guys started making threats and they said they were going to come get me if i didn't drop the charges so I called the police and my grandmother. Her response was I can't deal with this I'm going to send you back to your mother. I CANNOT live with my mother. DCF took me away from her because of physicl abuse. I''ve for the most part run out of options, I have no other family that can take me and I think I can make it without a "guardian" per say, but I would really like someone to stay with.

 

hey,
First of all, i think you should be strong and not drop the charges.
I agree with THE MIGHTY TOENAIL about the dangers, a 17 year old girl is exposed in your situation.
Please, consider your options carefully.

good luck
and keep in touch

PS. I don't know how DCF works,
so, was DCF the ones who set your gran as your guardian?
and if your gran doesn't want to be your guardian,
can you (you and/or your gran) ask DCF to set another guardian?

 

Bump. How about some kind soul offer her a place to stay in exchange for her pressing charges?

 

Shes 17 a minor in the us which means anyone trying to help no matter how good the intentions could get in a bind, and of coures if you got raped and cannot find one to shoot the sorry fuck(scratch that idea) you need to stay in the area for the court dates.

Sorry your in a bad spot, when you hit 18 the world opens up for you.

 

No it doesn't... I'm 20 and I'm still having trouble getting up on my feet.


Life gets harder as you get older... not easier, especially if people are preventing you from getting on your feet.

I feel for you, Mirandia, and I wonder how things worked out for you?

 

if you are under age & drop rape charges the state will pick up the charges, so he has no other option than to be procucited

 

"People" aren't preventing people from getting on their fee, per se, I would say it's the whole system that is built, or even wants to keep the poor/struggling on the bottom. And for those not prepared/willing to slave, or kick people to climb up, the 20's are worse. I'm glad to be out of them and on the road to something better.

I feel for Mirandia and you, and was wondering the same of her. Now you could put up the same post as her and people would respond differently. I would, anyway!

 

You're right! What do you mean people would respond differently if I put up the same post as her? How would you respond differently?

 

Oh! I just meant the exact post you did make not a post saying you were 17 but one saying you wanted a place for room/board to get on your feet in the world ..... and then I saw you did~!

 

no i got it after i saw you posted on my thread.

 

Damn your life sounds tuff if you can make it up to IL me and my friends got a place peace.

 

guy. are you still looking for a place to stay?

 

You can stay at my house.