Im gay, untill i cum... help plz

Well not gay, but Bi. I love women in every way, but i also watch gay porn all the time. ive got a few toys that i use regularly (and i imagine them to be real cocks when im using them) and my ex girlfriend used them on me too (we were very open).

Problem is, I know i want to do everything with a guys (everything!), and i really get into it when i masterbate and want a guy so bad, but just after i cum i dont even like the thought of having another guy in the same room as me, let alone naked or still having sex with me.

and im only interested in guys in a sexual manner, i couldnt be in a typical relationship with another guy.

any thoughts as to why i am like this?

 

You are not alone...it werent all that long ago that another guy was speaking of the same thing....

 

i don't know exactly why youre like that, but thats exactly how i was, thats how it always was for me wen i was still in denial of my sexuality, but wen i finally accepted it and startin thinkin about havin a relationship with another guy, that feeling slowly began to fade, and now i dont get that anymore.

 

Yeah, AtTheMountainPeak basically described what I felt too. It passed when I came to terms with it.

I'm not saying that that's how it is for everyone, but that was my experience.

 

That's the fantasy part; I'm not gay either but today this crackhead who I've bought pot off (big fuckin mistake) just came by and tried to sell me gay porn assuming...

 

my ex boyfriend is the same way.

 

I have no problems admitting (to myself anyway, havent told others) that i like guys. I fully accept it and enjoy it!

When i watch gay porn, i could see myself fucking a lot of the guys on film, but in real life i almost never see a guy id actually like to fuck. its weird...

maybe a drunked gay fling would help just to get me started and to see if i really want to be physical with a guy and have everything that goes with it, or maybe i just like the fantasy...

 

I really havent heard of a totally straight guy that has gay fantasies about other guys, so you are Bi....which isnt a bad thing...you can enjoy the best of both worlds !!

 

I cant offer too much help man, sorry I'm kinda going through something similar. you picked a great place to talk about this though, your in good hands with these folks...good luck and I wish I could have been more help.

 

I don't know about that straight guys not having fantasies, they're not going to tell you, oh man. Sometimes when I masturbate if chicks don't do it bacause I think about that everytime I might think about dudes but I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't want to mess around w' it, and it would suck to do it once and get hepc or some shit (ha).

 

You're a freak! A glitch in Mother Nature's plan! Get off my planet!

 

just to mention your hep comment.

if you practice unprotected sex with males or females you are at risk of contracting a sexually transmited diesease.
in fact it is on the increase with staright people because there is a presumation still that STD's are a 'gay' thing

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Sorry...I was only joking about my last comment.

 

I think you're gay buddy.

 

Yeah, the same things happens to me as the original poster. It's good to know that I'm not alone and that others have overcome it. Thank you all for sharing!

 

I think you are gay or bi. I was the same way at first- its like, wow, guys are hot...wait! Im gonna be with a DUDE? and it was a weird idea and didnt seem like i would ever feel that way, and that was part of the way i kinda pushed the thoughts of me being gay out of my head, cuz i could only see myself in a relationshpi with a girl...but that was only because that is waht is (for lack of a better word, but dont take it the wrong way) "normal."

just take a breath...and chill. and be true to yourself. its weird discovering new feelings like that, because we are taught that anything otehr than heterosexuality is weird. when and if you get the chance, try things out with a guy. see how it is. you may very well love it.

or youll hate it and confirm that youre striaght.
anywho,
tschüs!

 

This may be abit of an odd question:

Why does it matter? Do you want to be identified with being gay? It's just a sexuality, not a prize at a school fair that you can parade around with.

If you like ass and cock, who cares? It doesn't effect anyone else's life.

 

Yeah that is a great discription on what i feel at the moment. Its like i get all hot and heavy over the thought of hot guys or watching it on the computer, but in real life im like, wow i couldnt kiss him or be in a relationship with that dude over there.

thanks for your reply, it really reinforced some things i have thought. I am true to myself and wont deny my urges and its actually exciting to me that im one of the few people that can be turned on by girls and guys.

thanks again to you, and to all the other responses.

 

Why does it matter?:
Its just confusing for me to know i like guys sexually, but after i cum i dont want to have anything to do with them.

Do you want to be identified with being gay?:
It doesnt bother me being identified as gay. i am who i am, i dont judge anyone, and i expect the same from the people i surround myself with. however, i dont want to be subjected to the troubles of "coming out" unless i know i want everyone to know my sexual preferences.

 

Have you ever heard the painful story of the straight guy or gal sitting down with their parents and saying "Mom, Dad, I am sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex." No? Then why put yourself through it? The people who you love will either accept it or not. You making an issue of it won't change that one bit.

The people that really care that much about your sexual preferences probably have an agenda of their own, or whatever. You don't need to fly a rainbow flag because you're gay. I'll be honest with you, the fastest way to get me out of your presence is to start preaching a certain lifestyle based on your sexual preference. I don't care what two adults do to one another, as long as both are into it, both can enjoy it, and no one is getting hurt.