I'm Gonna Do it! (break up with bf)...but how?

Ok I have posted things about my current Boyfriend. I am in a bit of a situation here. We have been together for a year and a month. I will try to make this short since many of you might have read my other posts. The first 6 months were horrible. After the 1st month he started to show major anger...he would have really scary behavior..he has called me names a few times and I would say verbally and emotionally been abusive. But hes like 2 people...one is mean, negative, ugly, angry and bitter against the world. The other is optimistic, happy, charming and loving. Hes the first person most of the time. He has said weird things that make it super hard t trust him...then he doesnt understand that I dont trust him...he is super jealous and overprotective. He tried to break up with me 2 times...one cuz he knew his anger might hurt me, and 2 cuz we argued too much. But he begged for me back...crying and such. I took him back. His anger is a little better (probably for the fact, as he admitted, he holds his anger in , in fearof losing me). But he has such an ugly attitude about almost everything...he hates himself, he hates doctors, therapists, most of his family. Lol he was jealous of my dog for a while. Bascially as much as he has tried to change or conceal...I am not happy, in fact I am quite depressed. I have met someone that is such a great person and he has made me realize that this guy isnt for me and that I deserve much better....even just being single would be better. Well I woke up today and like the blink of an eye decided..."im gonna do it". We got in a little arugment last nite and I havent talked to him all day. I am home alone for another day and dont want to do it till my parents come home. But should I say "I am not happy, I dont think we are right for each other, I want to be on my own for a while". Or..."all that and, I met someone else". Should I mention the other guy...I dont think I should.....I am scared.....

 

By the way...this other guy is amazing....and we have sooooo much in common...what if hes the one...and I miss out on it. I know what I should have done a long time ago...what every one of my friends, family and co workers say....to move on and that I deserve better. But my bf is scary and might becme suicidal.....or really depressed. I know that isnt my problem but it still scares me. Even though he has hurt me alot...I still care about his well being and dont want him to hurt. But I also have to look out for the #1 person in my life...which is myself ......*sigh*

 

that sounds like a tough situation to be in. but I think you've answered the most important question already and if you're not happy there should be no doubt. I don't know the guy but even to me he sounds like a jerk. seems like you've had to hold the relationship together all by yourself and that's not the way it should be. just let him know how you honestly feel and let him deal with it. no ifs, ands, or buts about it. like you said look out for yourself. if you really feel scared of how he might react make sure you're not all by yourself when you tell him, or even just call him and end it that way. and no, my advice is don't tell him about any other guy. that might just get some crazy shit in his head like you were cheating on him or something.

 

are you living with him?

 

No we arent living together..though he stays over sometimes. Oh and one weird thing happened the other night. We started arguing, which isnt abnormal lol....he got me so upset I started crying...this is like the old crap he use to do to me...well its creepin out again like people said it would..."in due time".... I jsut couldnt take it anymore and I broke down. He felt bad and for the next hour he told me how he should leave me alone and that we shouldnt be together...cuz he hurts me too much. He told me that I deserve better and that some other guy would make me happier and treat me better...he said this calm and in all seriousness too. I just stayed quiet....silently agreeing but somehow we are still together. Then he said with out me he is nothing blah blah....and we hardly talked today...i couldnt really get ahold of him and he didnt call me after he got off work(which is totally not like him). So Im thinking ok maybe he really doesnt want to be with me for the reason he said...or maybe cuz he really just doesnt want to be with me. Some guy at work said thats "a pussy way out".