I'm not friends with any girls

I just can't talk to girls, I really suck at it. I want to have a girlfriend and be friends with girls, but I don't know why I just can't think of anything to say if I am talking to them. It's a confidence issue; I can't show my personality. The thing is though I'm not bad looking, girls have told me so and I can tell by the double takes girls give me when I'm walking around campus. I mean I am friendly with some girls that I know through friends or classes, but there's not one that I talk to one on one or have any kind of personal relationship with, it sucks. I want a girlfriend but I just don't know how to connect with girls like I do with my guy friends, and I'm completely straight. I don't know, hopefully things will change...

 

i can relate kind of, i can talk to girls, but find it difficult. my problem is i dont know how to approach girls i like that ive never met

 

i think shit loads of guys feel the same. hell even girls feel that way.
things will change. your still young =]
in the mean time just be yourself and try not to care what others think.

 

ya dude im the same way. Most of the time i need a little liquid courage in me, sad but it works.

 

I'm in the exact same situation bro.

 

I have yet to meet a girl that didn't end up being a sexist bitch, even if one didn't reveal it until the very end. Not fucking worth it.

 

What!

 

when i talk to guys its fine, when i talk to girls my brain just shuts down, i cant think of anything to say so i just smile. i guess girls think im either gay or a freak. i guess im a freak but im in no way gay.

 

there is so much generalisation.. not all girls are shallow bitches.
and if they are then its not worth talking to them
there are plenty of nice girls out... who would love to be any of you guys friend...

 

I laughed a little bit when I saw this thread, because although I was a very shy boy when I was younger and during half of my teen years, I would say that out the 12 or so friends I spent regular time with growing up, something like 9 of them where girls, and I was very very good friends with them all. And I only dated one of them eventually! I dont know how we became friends exactly, it just sort of happened. But over the years we have for the most part grown up and moved on, I still talk to 3 of the girls at least once a month just to talk and catch up. But these girls were all very nice, warm, and intelligent people. It was never about being attracted to each other and they were not sexist, materialistic, or any other of the generalizations being listed here. People are people, you just havent met the right girls to be friends with yet Sublyme.
Actually now that I think about it, there was one girl who was extremley cute and attractive, and was very phiolosophical and intelligent, I used to eat magic mushrooms with her and smoke all the time, all while she had a boyfriend. I never slept with her, but we did everything BUT the union action, and it completley ruined a 3 year bestfriendship that I regret to this day. I always was the person that not only would never cheat on anyone or lie, but never had any girls to even do it with lol but what we did together still sits on my mind and I will never forget my behaviour. So just warning you if you find a girl that becomes a wonderful friend, dont just automatically assume she is interested in you in that light, and even if she is, take it slow. Its much worse to lose a great friend over temporary and fleeting physical desires that once satisfied leave you with a feeling of regret.
Namaste Family -

 

Just ask the girl you like if she wants to hang out later and smoke or something. Bring up something that she'll be interested in...usually free pot works wonders lol

 

I agree with theguitarman...

Im not a sexist bitch but meh, you dont like me anyhoo...

 

Yeah, that's the way to go about it. Alot of guys think that they have to treat girls so much different, and that works for some people, but you know how to make friends with guys, so just apply the same things to girls.

 

Be A Man And Go Up To Them, Ask Them What They Like, Ask For Their Name, And Thats That!!

 

you're just shy, thats all.
i'm really shy too, and it's hard to talk to a guy that i like. i get all quiet and nervous and never know what to say.. but that hasn't stopped me.

just try and talk and make small conversation, or find a girl that is really talkative and requires you to talk little lol

 

yah i feel you. im a pretty shy guy and have a pretty dark/nasty/immature sence of humor and forever was afraid to be myself around them. but lately ive been gettin alot better at it cause i started to think of them as people instead of a differnt species. im still pretty awkard around them on my own but when im with my guy friends around them im really smooth. o well i asume we both just need some practice. with good time, my friend, with good time

 

hey man i was like that, the best thing i can tell you is just try to talk with everybody around you, especially girls obviously. at first it'll be akward, but after a while it just becomes a social skill, and then you realize that its the same as talking with guys, because its really all confidence. Just be frindly and funny.

 

almost all my friends are girls. i don't really know how to talk to guys, and it's always kind of awkward hanging out with other guys. then with girls, i have no problem talking to them, and being myself, and they all want to be my best friend, but if they want more than that they always look to some other asshole and forget about me until the inevitable breakup, when they come back to being my best friend until they find another asshole to have sex with..

 

Sometimes it's better to have no friends at all than to be frustrated all the time.

 

sometimes i think you're right... probably why i spend 90% of my free time alone