I'm so embarassed...I'm too tight!

I lost my virginity 2 nights ago. It was way better than I thought my first time would be. But... we almost didn't get to do it. I'm seriously way too tight! Just getting 2 fingers in hurt a little and it took so long for him to get inside me because we had to take it so slow. It really killed the mood because both of us were so horny and wanted it right then.

I really like this guy a lot and even though he isn't my boyfriend, I'd like to have sex with him again soon. But I didn't tell him I was a virgin, and he seemed to believe that it had just been a really long time since I'd been with anyone and that was why I was so tight. I'd like to keep it that way. So next time I want to be looser you know?

So I'm wondering... what do I do to get loose? Do I just start using a hairbrush or something when I masterbate? I feel like an idiot posting this and it's really embarassing!!!! But I just want the next time to be a lot better. I want to be able to get all of him in me and not want to cry because it hurts so bad!

 

It's always tight the first time. Just work it some more.

 

you're just anxious.. relax.

 

Don't worry about it, just relax a little more.

 

how bout a dildo rather than a hairbrush... lol.

but uhh, being tights not a bad thing...

 

It's supposed to be tight...enjoy it while you can so in 10 years from now after a kid or 3, you can have something to remember when you're sitting around doing Kegels all day trying to get it 'tight' again.

 

YOu just got to do it more often and it will loosen itself

 

Come on over, I"ll loosen you up...

 

girl, just relax! you shoulda told him you were a virgin, but thats not the problem lol

yeah sure you can masturbate with a dildo or veggie, anything u wanna stick in there. just get used to having something inside you, it sounds like u havent done penetration much?

gl next time.

 

Ahaha, same thing happend to me, girlie. But im still that way, honestly. You need to relax, have him perform oral or something on you and make you cum, and then it should be ALOT easier. lol

Being tight isnt a bad thing, no, but i know that it can cause problems.. Ive been there.

 

I'm actually getting bored of agreeing with Cuff about everything. Quit getting to everything first, Cuff! lol...Where are you at, anyway? It's either not my time zone or you get up reaaaally early.

I'm a small girl too. Some girls are bigger than others, y'know? Which is terrific, at least until I decide to have kids. (I am a c-section waiting to happen. Just wanted to put that out there.) But yes, you should DEFINITELY practice with dildo-esque objects! It'll get you more used to having something inside you. You may or may not always be a little tight, but you can certainly get used to it so that he can get in with less trouble. And (like Cuff said, damn it) the more foreplay, the more relaxed and ready you'll be. Go down on him for a while, then ask him to return the favor, then try going at it.

Good luck honey!

Actually, this was posted like a month ago, so I should be asking you how it's been going.

 

Mwahaha. California babe, California. Just face it, im too good :tongue:

Im still extremely tight myself, and ive been having sex since i was 14 haha. Sometimes girls are just tight by nature, and thats a good thing, usually. But if it hurts, thats a different story. The first few times will hurt for most girls, true, but ive noticed that usually there are ways to get around that - at least partially. Work up to having his dick in you first, dont just charge in if you know that your too tight and its painfull. Use a small dildo or a safe household object and loosen yourself a bit, and increase the size every now and then until you feel that you can have sex with him and not be in a rediculous amount of discomfort.

 

I stick my tongue out at you.

 

Lube lube lube

And keep doing it.

 

Is than some sort of invitation? :jester:

 

Is this necessary? Seriously? Joke or not, that was in bad taste.


Anyways, I agree with the people who say you should masturbate more. Just go to town and see if it doesn't help make you a bit looser for the next time around. I'd also suggest that you buy some lube. That, along with your fluids, should probably provide some decent lubrication.

BTW, not to sound weird or anything, but somebody else said in this thread that you should cherish your tightness (not in those exact words, but my point remains the same). I agree with that. Sure, it may be a bit of a hinderance at times, but once things start to fall in place, the tightness probably makes for some awesome sex and I bet a lot of guys (and girls, too.) would kill for that kinda pussy.

Anyways, hope you didn't find my post too weird and hopefully you've gotten some good advice from all the posters in this thread. And btw, one more thing (and I hope this doesn't come across as bossy :S): Don't hate your vag (or the rest of your body, for that matter.). Sure, it may get in the way sometimes, but your body is your body, so whether you're a victoria's secret modelesque girl or a "plain" girl (alot of which I find hot, btw), be acceptant of what you have, even if you think there's room for improvement. I can tell you first hand I'm no sun-tanned golden god, but I'm ok with my body. Not saying you are or you aren't acceptant. Just saying if you aren't, try to be.

 

Yep, sure was. But you're right to a point, I should have said one of my "toys" would do it. Can't forget that advertising my business thing...

Get over it whiner.

 

Nice one pervert.

 

Makes life much more interesting. 16 and a fan of EasyHIV??? Wow, you're into that old school shit, eh? Good stuff man. His cd's still easy to find?