I havent had sex in a couple years.. and I recently started again with my new girlfriend.. For some reason i am having difficulty ejaculating during sex.. when I masturbate I have no problem but during sex i can not.. My girlfriend totally turns me on and I am constantly hard around her and in her but its kind of embarsing that I cant reach climax and she can.. does anyone have any suggetions? mw
you're anxious. the pressure builds and only gets worse--the longer you go without being able to climax the harder it gets mentally. try to lose the attachment to achieving climax and then it may actually happen.
Ive never been able to cum with blowjobs or handjobs, my gf tries, but gives up. is there anything I can do? I enjoy it and it turns me on, but it seems im the only one that can make myself cum. help.
Ok, So I have the same problem you do with HJs and BJs, but no real problem with intercourse although it does take me longer than most to climax. Regardless I've tried to do some investigating as to why in this area. Of course your mind plays a big part but you need to say f### that and try not to worry about it, and believe me I know anything could slip into your mind from "why won't this happen, i know it feels good" to "I wonder if the Eagles will ever win the superbowl" even if it is the best sex/BJ in your life you cant control your mind so dont' try. Lets try to play its game and fool it. Now you say you havn't had any of the good stuff in three years so im guessin that you have climaxed in those three years but probably just with yourself, Mr. KY and some closed blinds in the room. These three years have trained your body to know when you should get off, i.e. how you like your own hand to do it and what feels right to you. Now when sex is thrown in the picture your guy isn't familiar with it. So i would suggest possibly changing it up when you pleasure your own self, bring in the left hander to close the game, show yourself there is a different way to end it than the norm. Then when you and your girl are goin at it again he'll know that there isn't only one way and "hey this shit feels good too I should let it out" Now as for HJs and BJs I have been trying this myself and me and my girlfriend are working on it, and have gotten extremly close. Just show your guy there is more than one way to milk a cow, and you might just be aight.
thats easy for you to say. nah but we do relax, were more relaxed then the girls its simply normal not to cum.
I had a pal who was on several anti-psychotics. He could beat off four or five hours without anything happening other than getting a tired wrist.
it wouldn't bother me, sounds like tantric sex without the work, so long as your g/f is enjoying it and so are you then there's not really a problem.
overmasturbation. try not jackin off for a fortnight then gettin head. guaranteed youll be spurtin in 30 min max
