insecure about being quiet

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  1. MuchaGanja

    MuchaGanja Member

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    yes im a guy 17 years old PLEASE JUST LETS GET PASS THIS K? thanks. so basically theres this girl at school I'm into, but shes ALWAYS with her friend (girl) and there always being loud and such. like really loud and in everyones face. and basically. I am a quiet guy. If everyone around me is being loud and obnoxious I'm there just kinda pretending to smile and laugh looking down at the table cause I just feel so awkward and uncomftorable. Basically I feel this way when I'm with her cuz well one... I fucking like her!! And just get nervous as hell when she's in the room! like basically other people will just start joking around with the girl i like and her friend, and i'm there just being quiet. Also, I have a good feeling she likes me to, just how she reacts with me, as we talk sometimes, if the situation lets us. Like, were just accquantences not friends. like wouldn't go up to eachother to say hi, but if were next to each other we might casually talk. I have art with her, and today was just AWKWARD. as always.... there being loud, and I'm their quiet and nervous... I just don't know WHAT to say to her! I just freeze! And basically I'm just becoming hella insecure about being so quiet. like I'll talk to her no problem and don't sound awkward at all, and I know she knows I'm a cool guy and chill person, which I am, but like when there being loud and joking hella loud, I just don't feel like I can do that and be so loud and obnoxious, cuz I'm a quiet guy, and basically feel like for that reason she might start thinking I'm boring and unnaproachable... even tho I know I'm overreacting and being paranoid about that.... I want to ask her to prom eventually...
     
  2. SpacemanSpiff

    SpacemanSpiff Visitor

    just ask her


    ps....you should be able to hide your age in the user options if people are bugging you about lieing when you joined
     
  3. dudeimoncoke

    dudeimoncoke Member

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    There's nothing wrong with being quiet. If you think she's loud and obnoxious, why would you even bother with her? Just ask her out and then see what she says. Besides, her friend is not going to be with you on the date so you'll have a chance to show her that you're not boring.

    The best advice you'll ever get in life is, "just fucking do it".
     
  4. Captain Cannabis

    Captain Cannabis Banned

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    Hey man, I'm your age and I'm pretty quiet unless I'm drunk or on drugs.

    The girl I'm with is just like the girl you like. She's loud and always talking and shit.

    I got really lucky though and she told me she liked me first.....

    Just don't do what I do. Don't drink for courage and don't do drugs so you can be open.


    .....I know I sound like a pussy but I'm just really depressed tonight.. I'll be myself some other time... :(

    See, even the guys like me get down once in a while.... I don't even feel like myself..

    Ask her. Just force yourself, I know it's hard. TRUST ME I KNOW. But don't miss your chance...
     
  5. Captain Cannabis

    Captain Cannabis Banned

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    You know what??? Do it.

    Just fuckin' ask her. But just remember she's one of "them". She's a normal girl. She isn't gonna care about you.

    Fuck everything and just do what you want. She's just some chick, if you like her then go for it man. But don't fucking love her.
     
  6. jo_k_er_man

    jo_k_er_man TBD

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    dude.. you're 17.. wtf
     
  7. Lostthoughts

    Lostthoughts Thostloughts

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    qft:sifone:
     
  8. does2

    does2 Member

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    lol

    Being a part of the situation must make it that much more... real, emotional.
     
  9. Mother's Love

    Mother's Love Generalist

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    you're insecure about a lot of things. perhaps you should explore the source of your insecurities.
     
  10. M4N14C42O

    M4N14C42O Cannabis Connoisseur

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  12. weeattoes

    weeattoes what will be, will be

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    orison... :smilielol5:
     
  13. RooRshack

    RooRshack On Sabbatical

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    Liquid courage.

    Not saying go hit the sauce for all social environments... good way to become a right alcy real fast. But with the opposite sex, alcohol, in a smaller amount, WINS. Just a few shots.
     
  14. stinkfoot

    stinkfoot truth

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    The liquid courage route might be a double-edged sword. Sure it may temporarily help with inhibitions but the things you do and say while drunk could work to reinforce them in the long run.
     
  15. jo_k_er_man

    jo_k_er_man TBD

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    no to mention alcohol making you a "social drinker" will quickly lead you into alcoholic if you need to drink all the time to be comfortable around people
     
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