Interested in giving head...first-timer, help!

Hey everyone, new here...first post.

I've never given head...but I want to! There's a few reasons why I haven't.
1. Nervous as hell...and I know to make it better, don't be nervous, but I can't help it.
2. Gag reflex...I'd really rather not gag, for him and for myself.
3. Spit of swallow...of course.
4. Spitting on my hand for lube...seems just wrong.

So, there's a guy who I've been fooling around with every now and then when we get a chance to hang out, and a couple weeks ago we were getting jiggy, and he tried to go down on me...I stopped him...dumb I know, it feels so good, but I wasn't sure I wanted that with him yet...and for the fact that I didn't really plan on going down on him that night.

Anyways, after we woke up the next morning, I kind of felt like I should give myself a kick in the ass for not giving him head, but then all my nerves and fears came into my head...and I just kind of let it go. I'll be seeing him in a week or so, and I'd like to give it a try!

So, tips please please please! I don't plan on buying lube to have at the party, so if I could get some tips on keeping it wet without spitting in my hand, that'd be great. Also, my main reason for never doing it before is because I don't want to gag...any tips on how to reduce that little problem? I'm also intersted in what all you guys like...and what all you ladie do that your man likes so I can try some different things.

Also, being a first-timer, I'm debating to spit, swallow or let him blow it on me...any advice in that department???

Any help would be greatly appreciated...

 

First of all, RELAX!! It's just a blow job, not a big deal. The first time you do it you will probably not be very good. That's Ok. No one is good their first time, so don't worry about it. Practice makes perfect.

As far as technique; imagine your eating a popsicle on a really hot day. You have to be enthusiastic because it's hot out and it will melt if you don't move fast enough. But at the same time if you eat it too quickly you will get a brain freeze, so you have to find a happy medium. Also be sure to lick the drops that run down from the top so they don't drip off.

If you stick to this anology you should be a-Ok.

For spitting or swallowing; how well do you know this guy? Do you know if he is clean or not? If not I wouldn't let hem cum in your mouth until you know he dosn't have any STDs. Thats just being safe.

 

Usually when I give a bj (damn it's been a long time, anyways), I use my hands as well. Ie I'll use my hand to stroke his shaft while I use my mouth on the head, it help prevents you from going too far down.
Personally I find it easiest to give while he's standing or sitting, rather than worrying about holding your upper body up while also giving performing but that's just me. There should also be a thread floating around in here called fellatio tips, but it may be a few pages back now.

Just remember, you don't have to deep throat him the first time ya go down on him. Hell, I've never deep throated anyone and I've still been told good things about how I use my mouth on someone.

 

I love your approach to this "dilema." Its really not all that hard to do.

First, guys dry jack all the time, so don't be so worried about spitting on your hand...here's why...

When you first start, lick him, and let your mouth water and lubricate his shaft. I've heard it said to allow copious amounts of saliva lubricate him. You'll have no problem if you do that.

Remember that its a part of love making, so enjoy yourself as you do it. A guy loves to hear a girl make noises as she's giving him head, and the vibrations on your tongue will send him over the edge very quickly.

As for gagging, all you need to do is put your hand at the base of his cock or about 4 inches from the head to remind you that you don't want to take in any more of him than that. You'll know when to stop with a little practice.

More than likely, he'll put his hands on the back of your head and help guide the speed that your head moves. putting your hand on his shaft at that location won't let him jam it in any further.

A guy loves it when the girl swallows his cum. He'll probably tell you when he's gonna cum, and if not, you can pretty much guess from his reactions. If you don't want to swallow, just let it run out of your mouth as you continue to move up and down on him. Breathe through your nose.

Don't feel pressured to do any of it cause he wants you to.

As far as him going down on you...enjoy it and let him know what makes you feel good. If he hits your sweet spot, let him know and he'll likely stay there. Don't be a back seat driver and give him a lot of directions; just enjoy.

 

The only thing that I can think of as I guy for advice would just be to watch your teeth on him. That kind of hurts, but it all comes with practice. Just relax. He'll let you know what he likes/doesnt.


As far as spit/swallow I could care less. My now ex g/f wouldnt ever allow me to cum in her mouth. I wouldnt care if she did spit/swallow, I just wanted it to happen in her.... know what I'm saying?

But relax, have fun... And guys like just about anything when it comes to sex...

 

the guy is going to like it no matter what, he doesnt care what you do while his cock is in your mouth, just that HIS COCK IS IN YOUR MOUTH!

 

Giving a good blowjob isn't about just sucking, its about being sexy and having fun. If you're worried about gagging, etc., just take a break and lick his weeny and kiss it all over. You can also kiss his thighs and (if you've brave) his balls. Don't forget to look up now and then and say something sexy.

If you're worried about swallowing the first time, let him cum over your chest (don't worry, you'll know he's about to cum). You can then take a little bit of his cum on your finger and try it. This can slowly introduce you to the concept of having this stuff in your mouth, and (based on my experience) he'll find it hot. Also, you may want to continue sucking him a little after he has cum. His erection will be going down, so he won't be as hard and it could help you get used to it

 

Perhaps, it would be prudent to pospone your planned fun activity ?

First you practice, then you should practice some more,
:drool: Before you move onto the real thing

 

i would have to agree with dutch. just relax, have fun, and listen. if your really lost just ask him to guide you...sometimes its a real turn on to have a guy tell you what he likes while your in the moment.

 

Interested - one of the posts in the love and sex forum recently posted a clip of an Asian woman lovingly giving a blow job to her lover. She spent a lot of time stimulating the head with her lips, blowing on the penis, and taking the head into her mouth and wrapping her tongue around it, especially the frenulum and inverted "v" on the underside of the head. A thread I posted seems to show that that area is the sweetest spot of the guy's dick and I agree, from personal experience.

She then tenderly stroked the penis on the underside (the guy was lying on his back), and gently stroked his balls as her lips touched the head, and then she took the whole penis into her mouth slowly (it was not so big that she had trouble doing this.)

Check out this post, if you can find it, and try it out on your lover.

 

1. Have fun!
2. You don't have to spit on your hand. I've given more than my share of blowjobs and have never spit on my hand. It's kind of gross.
3. Guys often find gagging hot. BUT... if you feel a gag reflex coming on, just don't go down so far.
4. Swallowing might be awkward for the first time, but it kind of feels normal.

Don't sweat it. Relax and remember that the guy is going to be enjoying this. Ask him to tell you what he likes or guide your hands while you're going down on him. It'll calm you down and when you get into it, you'll be totally fine.

 

Wow...thanks for all the tips, advice and "just relax's"...looks to be as if this Friday might be the "Mighty Night" where I test out my skills. And yes, I know this guy well enough to know he is clean...he's just as nervous as me so he's said, which makes me feel a little bit better, but also nervous enough to think he might not guide me as much as I might like. Although I'm sure my nerves won't calm down until he cums...oh well. My best friend just keeps telling me to "suck it up!"

 

Interested - another thing you can do is take the head in your mouth and put your hands around the lower half of the shaft and move the loose skin up and dopwn as you suck on the upper half. This way you will not have to gag by going too deep.