Is it very important to you that men and women dress differently?

I have come to realize that almost all of my relationships and crushes have been with women who do not dress according to gender norms. They didn't cross-dress, or anything...but were regular jeans, T-shirt, and sneakers chicks.

I used to think that I related better to women who defied gender double-standards but fantasized about "girlie" women, as an unattainable fetish.

Almost all of my fantasies also give rise to an opposing fantasy ---like my fantasy for black women...and blondes.

But now I realize that even that is not true, and there is actually no contradiction. My fantasy for "girlie" women actually only had to do with the fact that I like women with scant clothing.

E.g., I hate long dresses. But I love how prostitutes dress, etc. I also love women in men's wife beaters...especially, if they have supple breasts.

I woke up this morning with the insight that I wish men and women dressed the same.

 

I guess if they wanna wear boxer briefs gym pants and an XXL white T-shirt it's all good

 

I am wearing a push up bra and stilettos, so I hope no one has a problem

 

I like girly girls in dresses and skirts and the like. Though at home I like to have a beer with my gf while we watch the Simpson, and find it sexy when she grabs a pair of my boxers, as she finds them comfortable. So I slide on both ends of the scale. But exclusively towards the former in public.

 

it's just clothes.

 

Of course not darling!

 

I did not vote as I would have to say sometimes it is important.

When kicking back, dress code is about the last thing I would consider important. In circumstances that require a semblance of dress code, then yes it would be important to me. Like it or not we are judged in those situations for conformity.

 

i wear boxer sometimes lol like at home
but it dont bother me

 

I think we're gonna need some photographic evidence.

 

Agreed

 

"Are judged" or "judge." The question is not about other people, it's about YOU.

 

Both. Not only from a personal stand though as I do not just wear clothes for me. I judge what I wear to either be appropriate or not. I am judged by other if they feel it is not appropriate. We all judge others on what is not appropriate. There is not one person who could not say at sometime or another that they did not see the way someone was dressed and think something.

Dressing is for show.

 

Dressing is partially for show for me. But it's pretty obvious to me the limit of what I'm doing to conform and what I am doing to please myself with my appearance (some of it conformist, some not).

In many cases, I'll go against my own taste and comfort in order to conform to social practice. In many cases, I will break with the rules of conformity and pay the price, in order to please myself.

What I am saying though, is that:

Were society composed of a bunch of mes, people would not feel pressured to conform in dress according to gender. And probably not in many other ways, either.

And conformity in dress according to gender actually goes mostly against my personal taste. I don't like ties, I don't like dresses. I don't like heels...I don't like make up.

 

We can all dress the same by wearing our birthday suits.

 

Thats why we should have ourselves an apocalypse

Because, well according to hollywood anyway, brown is the only clothing colour that survives WWIII, and we all start wearing the same rags

 

Well I am such a girlie girl, and my husband seems to love it. I love dresses, and skirts, high heels, jewelry, makeup, doing my nails...i love anything pink and purple...proud to be woman and don't wanna pretend to be anything else!

 

Okay, I voted that the sexes dressing differently is important to me. It's not a chauvinistic thing, just what I like. Okay, around the house, I have no issue with both my wife and me running around in t-shirts and gym shorts, but when we go out for the evening, I love seeing my wife dressed in a sexy skirt, blouse, and heels. At the same time, if my wife gets dressed up for the evening, I put on a nice shirt, slacks, and dress shoes. For more formal occasions I'll even put on a tie and wear a coat!! It's just the response to the primitive urges that you want your mate to be attractive - whatever "attractive" might mean to each individual.

 

Yes. Especially if my boyfriend starts wearing my outfits.

 

Don't care and sure as hell am too old to have anyone telling me how to dress. Nice suggestions are accepted. Grouchy ass "I hate ____," will likely win no points.

 

dressing up always feels so silly......until I start getting complements.