is that cheating?

I went out on saturday night and some girl was flirtin' with me,I couldnt help it but I flirted back, we danced.. and by the end of the night she kissed me and that was it, no phone number exchange , I dont even have her name, plus i was wasted so i dont think i would remember her.. so,yes..i have a gf, did I cheat on my gf.. cuz i've been feeling guilty about it, but just a little bit.

 

cheatting no, but slightly dishonnest if u hide it from her
however, snce it was so innocent, u needto decide wether she would be hurt more by knowing or not knowing\

 

I agree with soaringeagle... very borderline... If you feel guilty about it, then that tells you your answer. You shouldn't have done it. But now, you have to decide, is there more harm in telling or not? Is this kind of behavior going to be hard for you to resist in the future? Think about it.

 

I agree, borderline. However it is leaning more towards cheating than not. If your girlfriend did the same exact thing how would you feel? Would you be pissed and not trust her, or would you chalk it up to "she was drunk"?

Unless you are 100% sure that she will NEVER find out I would tell her. If she happens to hear it from someone else it just isnt going to look good for you.

Next time don't get so wasted that you forget about your girlfriend

 

Cheating is cheating. No matter how small of a cheat. If you were old friends and shared a drink and a hug and kiss followed it would be different.
Sorry man, Cheating is cheating if you are in a committed relationship.

 

Tell your girlfriend. We don't like cheating, but we appreciate honesty. The fact that you didn't exchange numbers and there wasn't a real emotional connection will help you out a little bit.

If you don't tell your girlfriend, then just make sure it doesn't happen again.

 

I think it does matter what your response was. Did you initiate that kiss? What type of kiss was it? Some people don't think kisses mean anything. I was at a party, wasted with a few friends and one guy kissed me in front of his girlfriend! I was shocked, to say the least, until his girlfriend kissed me too! Then I was speechless, like "Did this just happen?" To them, kisses are just part of socializing with other people. However, not everyone is like this.

I think the best bet would ask yourself how you would feel if the EXACT same thing happened with your girlfriend, ie. a guy flirted with her and she danced with him and he kissed her but nothing else happened. Would you be upset?

Personally, if my fiance did that, I would be a little perturbed about the situation, mainly b/c we have an agreement not to consume alcohol and I would be pissed about his drinking, so a girl dancing and kissing him (he can't control her actions) wouldn't bother me if nothing else happened (no exchange of numbers). If he kissed her I would view the situation different, but otherwise, I wouldn't consider it cheating.

Peace and love

 

I don't see how kissing isn't cheating.

 

To me it depends on the kiss. I have friends that I kiss when I see them and my husband and I do not view that as cheating. Now if it was done with passion, oh would I be in trouble!

If she snuck a quick one on him is entirely different than play tonsil hockey in the parking lot. His reaction to the kiss is what really matters. Was it "what the???" or "I have been waiting all night to do that!" Huge difference....

So, it depends on the kiss.

My issue with the situation was that she flirted and he reciprocated. Yeah, it's great for the ego, but at some point "I have a girlfirend" needed to be said. By not saying it he has implied an interest in the other girl.

 

If I tell my girlfriend, I will hurt her so much.. so I won't. it was a small kiss anyway.. she was really hot so maybe my macho ego didn't let me stop it from happening.. I love my Gf and I'll make sure it wont happen again but I cannot risk my relationship by telling her,maybe I would if there was a way she could find out.. but the girl lives in california..far far away from me and my gf.
thanks for the replies , peace everyone

 

As long as you feel sufficiently guilty about it and make a firm commitment to it not happening again, I think you can count this as your first and ONLY strike... one more and you know that something is wrong. Not to be preachy, and not that you would do this anyway, but if you start to get bored in the relationship, just be a man and break up with her. Don't break her heart by sneaking around.

 

i'd say that's cheating. no matter how wasted you were, you still flirted with and kissed another girl, which is, for me, against the rules of being in a relationship. i hate cheaters, guys who assume they can do shit and get away with it. and it's sad because most guys do, and girls can't see through their lies. i'd tell your girlfriend, and she has every right to be pissed off and maybe even dump you. it might sound harsh, but how can you be in a relationship when you can't trust your boyfriend. anyways, that's my advice, i've been cheated on and it's the worst thing ever, so that's why im so against it.

 

Nah, it's pretty healthy too, except for the kiss, if it was on the lip, ok, not TOTALLY appropriate but if you didn't initiate it you're in the green, bro.

I think a lot of people are seeing this is a very black and white way. Not good.

 

face it, you cheated, you're a dirty little slut, and now you must be spanked!

 

people flirt all the time, I don't consider flirting cheating. Sounds to me like more of a flirt to me, you didn't have the intentions of taking it further than that from the way you said it, so I wouldn't consider it a cheat. How many women do you think actually don't do the same thing when they have a girls night out? Also, on another note, its always good to know that other people are attracted to you, for one thing I think it makes whoever you are with appreciate being with you more, because you are 'more of a catch'.

Its natural to be attracted to more than one person, even if you love the one you are with.

I really don't mind if anyone I am dating is flirting with another guy, doesn't bother me, unless they are being shady about it, then thats another story. Exchanging numbers, passionate kissing, and anything beyond that, thats where I draw the line.

 

You cheated, no doubt ! Even you know it by not wanting to reveal it to your GF.
I have just ended a relationship with one of the few people I truly love, you people have to value more what you have and not risk true love for a quick fisical adventure !!

 

At least thats my opinion.

 

"most guys do, and girls can't see through their lies. i'd tell your girlfriend"

You know a lot of girls cheat too, actually the number of cheating cases im aware of have girls as the authors !! I think you post is a little off..

 

Thats bull shit to me, i would never like to discover that a person im involved with kisses at any level another person, I categorize that as pleasure and its happening outside the "circle" and to me that is very wrong !!!

 

Only you know how she'll react.
Are we talking a peck on the cheek or tongues down throat?

Mucky dancing isnt cheating IMO , but maybe not altogethre right .
One kiss on the lips a peck , isnt actually anything in a lot of countries but here its
silly.Multiple kisses - well yes youre overstepping the mark.

Your gf , I dont know her( altho I have screwed her a few times last week)but I think youre best not telling your gf any gory details.Call it , your own personal warning shot.INFACT PROBABLY DONT FUCKING TELL HER!
And yes , as said earlier , dont sneak around.If you arent happy -say so , sort it , or leave.Good luck