Ive lost my virginity and am really confused...What should I do?

You see im 18 years old this year, i have a boyfriend who is the same age though he's very immature and average looking, but his been with me for a long time. However, he doesnt know how to make a girl special and i think i might be clinging onto him for the sake of it.

However, recently i met another guy through a friend. He's a successful guy, 27 years old and very charming and good looking. He asked me out for a date and i was just too tempted. On the date, he showered me with gifts and stuff. I went out with him a few times and he would always pick me up from school with his car, making my frens envious. Hes a very sweet talker too smth my boyfren doesn’t have.

Ok, after sometime,he asked me to his apartment as it was his 28th birthdae. I went up and we had a candlelight dinner and drank wine. After awhile, I started to get tipsy and he brought me to his room and then did it with me. It was my first time.

Ok now back to my current boyfriend, actually his been pestering me for sex for a long time, but I refused. This time I gave it to him cause whats the point of not doing so when I already lost my virginity. Now im afraid I might lose both of them.

 

hmmm dunno what to say ya very well might lose both or might not..i always stress honnewsty in all relationships but i think b4 u be honnest with either u 1st gotta figure out what u want yourself

gifts and sweettalk dont make 1 guy better then another neither does a car
but if the 1 kid just isnt treatting u right then i understand wanting more

just..be absolutelky sure

u xcould lose alot for nothing if u malke the wrong chpoice


but once u make it..honnesty may hurt but in the long run its best

 

hmm yea tough situation

you need to pick one and go for it!

 

The reality is that, given the age gap, its probarbly not too likely to last with the 28 year old. Especially if he had sex with you after a few drinks, when you would be most vunrable. And at 17 ,as grown up as girls think they are, they are still just that, vunerable (yes i am 17 myself and hence you i know how silly a great deal of us are!). So you have to question this guys motives. I personally would be inclined to say you should end that right away, but thats your decision.
As for your current boyfriend, well you are still so young and if the relationship has already lost its spark then why continue? I know its nice to have someone there, but if you would go off with someone else, you need to consider why you are staying with him?

 

So... you cheated on your boyfriend?

Champion.

 

Well this 28 year old very smoothly lured you, a young girl, by sweet talking, giving you gifts, getting you tipsy and being an arrogant, charming whatchmacallit.

You fell for the oldest trick in the book... if you're looking for your 18 year old boyfriend to make you feel special, you're looking in the wrong place, for one thing you're looking for the wrong things, you're looking to feel special based on really superficial things; making your friends jealous, gifts, good lucks, sweet talking, that is all very fake and not something to hold on to. If you believe in karma, I would suggest forgetting about this older guy, lose him, would you like it if your boyfriend was with someone else without you knowing? You need to find strength and comfort in yourself, don't be so easily swayed... do want something that's really nice or something that looks nice on the outside?

 

I tend to agree with most on the post. The other guy wanted one thing and one thing only, sex. He duped you with gifts and money and you fell for it, then got you drunk and took advantage of you.

The decision is entirely yours, but being honest with your bf is the best way, though you would more than likely lose him. You need to decide whether a relationship is more imprtant to you or is superficial things like gifts important to you.

The choice is yours to make, but I really don't think you are ready for a relationship with either. If you could cheat on your bf, you can on this other guy too, specially if someone offers more in terms of money. I may sound harsh but thats the truth andit normally does hurt.

 

Didnt your bf know you have cheated? I mean if youve had sex with the older guy and then did it with your bf, you wouldnt bleed or be in any pain, so isnt it obvious to him?

 

Not everyone has pain on there first time.

 

You already ARE special. don't go looking for some GUY to make you feel that you are!

No point in dwelling on what you've done. You're only 17 and you have your whole LIFE ahead of you - decide for YOURSELF what makes you happy... and go for THAT, and accept only THAT.. there are more than these two fishes in the sea... don't settle for LESS than what you want and DESERVE.

Just one question.. in my part of the world, a 28 yo having sex with someone under the age of 18 isn't legal....i'd stay away from that one...

 

Well, sucks to be you. *sips drink* You just got played like a harp. Not much you can do. Keep your guard up, use common sense.

 

I am 28 now. Let me tell you a few things. You can be treated good. You do not deserve to be treated that way. I put up being treated like CRAP for 11 yrs. Not all those years were bad. But most of them. At times I would cry because I got NO Birthday card, Valentines, some anniversary, Sometimes I got Christmas. Let me tell you something. You deserve to be HAPPY. No matter which one it is or who. The age is alot but I have seen relationship work with that age difference. I have found out. Us as woman and ladies deserve to be treated like princesses or queens. We should not allow our mens to treat us bad, But when your in love you look over things. As I did. But not NOW I am not going to have it. I want someone to treat me with RESPECT. I will not settle for less now. So you should not either. You do need to be honest and talk to your parnter about how you feel. Don't hide them. It only going to make your life miserable. Life is to short.

 

Imo she deserved getting played and more. This older lad didnt care how you might feel just like you didnt care how your bf might feel if he found out. Its disgusting, i'm just glad im not your bf.

 

oo smth my boyfren doesn’t have.


you are both functionally illiterate and b.s.'ing.

 

wow.

charming guys don't get girls 10 years younger than them a few drinks before they charm them into some sex. haha. wow.

wow. do you make your bf feel special and appreciated the same way you want him to do for you? have you thought of it that way? your bf has been "pestering" you for sex for so long and you guys have been together for a long time, yet you give it up to a guy on the first date, who is 11 years older than you, and you cheated on your bf? I'm also glad i'm not your bf haha

I'm with Raul7 on this one.

Champion.

 

Geez, she shouldn't have cheated but that^ was abit uncalled for.

 

Im with soaring eagle on this one... Honesty is the best thing in a long run...
Well the golden rule is do not do to others what you dopnt want to be done to yourself I bet you wouldnt be too pleased to find out that your smooth talking boyfriend has several fuck friends on the side... Because thats what most one nite stands are reduced to in the adult world... You should appreciate a long lasting relationship way more that you appreciate a short lived flirt, long lasting relationship is hard work but it always pays in the long run... Guys usually dont want to be tied down, from my experience. On the other hand I wish you all the best and I wish for you that you find someone "attractive" and someone who will treat you with respect who wants more that sex, and thats tough to find

 

You fascinate me, crueluserboy.

 

I didn't mean it how you are taking it. I just find you interesting, fascinating like I said. You seem so angry, I didn't mean to make you so upset.

 

17-year-old dumbass brats deserve what they get. Especially if they're the kind that think they're "mature".

You won't be able to get with the 28 year old, at least not anything beyond random sex. Trust me, the age difference is too great, I've attempted dating girls younger than me but EVERY ONE was seriously lacking in personality. I can tell from reading your post that you're no different from them. That can be a relationship breaker, when all you have to talk about is high school drama the 28 year old MAN (you're just a little girl) won't want any of it. You won't know the difference between 17 and 28 or even 17 and 22 until you grow older. Don't go back to your current boyfriend either, you obviously don't appreciate him so why stay together?

Other women on here, yes you saw a couple guys got angry because of her post. There is no excuse for what she did, besides possibly immaturity. Yes, an older man played her, but she wanted to be played.