I've really fucked up, help?

Right cut a long story short I need urgent advice. I am Gay man 27 year old and my best friend of 12 years is gay too and my age. He has a little sister who is 15 but identifies as a lesbian and she has a girlfriend. He also has a brother called M who is 21 who is straight. I have always been attracted to but obviously never did anything about it.

Recently M has been very interested in gay life coming out clubbing and being very defensive of gay rights and I didn't think anything of it. However few weeks ago we ended up in same bed after heavy night and we cuddled. It was weird because I try so hard to fight feelings for him but it felt so nice.

Anyway few weeks pass leading to last Saturday night where we partied hard again and yep you guessed it ended up together again but this time it got sexual. I left in the morning but now I find myself really stressed out, and conflicted.

A - Don't want to hurt friendship with my best friend.
B - Not sure I should be getting involved with a confused guy but also don't want to make him feel bad. I should have not let it go so far but have strong feelings and it felt amazing too!
C -My best friend has never thought M was gay and now I'm really worried he will somehow find out and blame me. I don't know Ms sexuality but maybe he feels like he can't come out being the third gay child? Or maybe he's not gay at all and just had an itch to scratch?

Please help, I'm going mad here, do I keep quiet? So worried.

Thanks.......

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

That's very helpful thanks.

 

So I'm clear I don't expect or want to engineer any sort of romance with M. I just want to go to through this without hurting anyone. I'm not an idiot. I don't expect to run off into the sunset with this dude. A little more understanding would be appreciated.

 

So Why Did You Choose The User Name "Italianidiot....???



Cheers Glen.

 

A:
Your best friend, gay or not, does NOT own his brother, gay or not. You guys landed twice in bed which clearly shows that there has been a degree of mutual attraction. This is really between the two of you. His brother is simply not a part of this equation, best friend or not.
B:
This is really your call. He may or may not be confused. The usual course of action would be to let everyone have a cool off of kind, and proceed from there...
C:
It would be very naive for anyone to blame you for their brother's being gay (or not)? True, M may be gay? Or he may have just been a horny dude willing to explore with someone whom he has good reasons to trust. All of this notwithstanding, you cannot be blame for other people's actions. Equally so, you must not share the indiscretions of your sexual encounters with other people without their express permission to do so.

Good friends are good because they understand where certain lines must be drawn. Challenging them is NOT what good friends do!

KD

 

Well, step one would be acknowledging you are an idiot.

But if you only want people to say things you want to hear and get sooky otherwise, then we cant help you

Reasons you are an idiot:

He's the confused one?

Where the strong feelings located in your pants?

You'd have no idea what your best friend really thinks of his brother

Cos what gay is contagious or something?

You dont know his sexuality.....he's not gay at all.....you are talking about a guy who I would assume by "things got sexual" had his mouth around your penis

 

Ok yes I did call myself an idiot in the username so bravo for pointing that out.

I know this is my fault. I am also too old to be fooling around with confused guys but in reality the driver is not my pants. I actually have feelings for this guy which is really annoying and I blame myself for letting it happen. But I think will kill it now and try and forget it.

Thanks for the advice on the whole although Glen you are a massive cock.

 

Indeed I Do...



Cheers Glen.

 

So predictable....

 

Didnt I say something about getting sooky.

Anyway sounds like its the little sister you should be talking too, not actually about doing her brother, but she'll fill you in on a few things

 

Excuse me I'm not being 'sooky'. What a rude thing to say. I don't only want to hear what I want to. You are the one picking apart everything I've said.

I care about my best friend and I know I might find it difficult if I found out my brother got physical with him if roles were reversed. I came here for advice because I feel stupid for letting it happen and you and Glen have both pounced on me. So thanks a lot.

 

Oi Vey

 

I smell group sex

 

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

 

Wow, this is a rough room. Tip of the hat to all those who have it so together.
Hi Italian Guy,
Things work that way they work. "M" wants to experiment, you actually did him a favor.
He can now start comparing what he likes or doesn't like. Hopefully, he'll try lots of things before he realizes what he actually prefers. He'll never know unless he tries things. He obviously wasn't molested. Two consenting adults is just that.
The fact that your friend doesn't think his bro is gay isn't really in the equation. He can't decide for "M" any more that the man in the moon could. No one decided for your friend, and no one will decide for the brother.
Best wishes!

 

Italian meatballs are never gonna be the same after this thread.