Just a note to all you ladies and fellas who

have preconcivied notions of us high0matience girls. Recently, a very wise man told me that the reason some are adverse to high mteinence women is becuase it's the one thingyou cannot buy. You cannot go to target and purchase 3 hours of coddeling and affection or stop at pavillions and buy two hours of talking your lover into what is best for them. High-matience is high standards and not setteing and if you are setteling becuase you don't want to be percieved as wrong or bitchy or picky you are selling yourself short and since we cannot be bought anything besides the best partner for our psyche, void filling and inspiration,s omone who takes the time to mold us into our personal best-anyone who does not posse these qualities is not worthy.
so how's that for high matienence? And all this time ya'll thought I was a gold digger...Myslef anf Kanye would be very disspointed in you.
Coddeling, standards,eomone domeneering and caring enough to make me my best and humor are all I require...and the occasional orchid
I obviously came of wrong in previous posts...which shows YOUR GUY"s mentality and preconcienved notions and has no refelction on me.
I hope this has cleared some things up for a lot of you on how you think, view me or perhaps you don't give a shit regardless I felt the need to share this wonderful philosophy with the world
goodnight

 

Is there something wrong with you? Are you on lots of drugs or something? You never make any sense, just sound like a damn raving lunatic.

 

I agree partly, you were rambling... what was the purpose of this thread again lynsey?

THere is a difference between high maintenance, and emotionally demanding...

YOu sound like the latter...

 

erm..come again?

 

Nothing like reading 'you had the whole damn thing all wrong' while listening to Aqualung...... 'Wind-up' specifically...

*eating Humble Pie while reevaluating*

 

umm... you've always seemed pretty kick ass to me, iunno about other people

 

standards are a good thing
not having them lets your heart get stomped on again and again

 

haha yeah that definately is a one of those timing things, jethro is awesome.

 

Definitely.

 

...

 

I am and there's nothing wrong with it. I am not a china doll on a shelf. I am a human being. I'm a S (in a healthy self-improvement self-empwerment wy) so if I get in the right relationship I don't think I would ever really be ignored

I need to edit this but I am too tired. It has a lot more meaning to it. will edit tommorow or Monday

 

*C*

 

Lynsey,

I've never had a problem with you.

 

SOBER EDIT LOL-
Just a note to all you ladies and fellas who

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have preconcivied notions of us high-matience girls.
Recently, a very wise man told me that the reason some are adverse to high mteinence women is becuase we are the one thing you cannot buy. You cannot go to target and purchase 3 hours of coddeling and affection or stop at pavillions and buy two hours of talking your lover into what is best for them. High-matience is high standards and not setteling. if you are setteling becuase you don't want to be percieved as wrong or bitchy or picky you are selling yourself short.
anything besides the best partner for our psyche, void filling and inspiration,somone who takes the time to mold us into our personal best-anyone who does not posses these qualities is not worthy.
so how's that for high matienence? And all this time ya'll thought I was a gold digger

Coddeling, standards,somone domeneering and caring enough to make me my best and humor are all I require...and the occasional orchid
I obviously came of wrong in previous posts...which shows YOUR GUY"s mentality and preconcienved notions and has no refelction on me.
I hope this has cleared some things up for a lot of you on how you think, view me or perhaps you don't give a shit regardless I felt the need to share this wonderful philosophy with the world
Is this readable now? I am still very tired

 

A high matinence woman is a woman who demands that you buy her lots of expensive things and spends a ridiculous amount of time and money making herself look good.

An emotionally demanding (assuming you find those things demanding) woman is a woman you need to spend a large amount of time with.

If you think that spending time with your girlfriend is maintaining her, then you view her as an object and are an idiot. If you spend a large amount of money on a girl because she wants you to, then she views you as an object and is an idiot.

To make your relationship a relationship, you need to spend time together and talk. You don't get a girlfriend or a boyfriend to have sex and/or meet their financial desires.

When you hear men say they have a problem with high matinence women, they are referring to women who need large amounts of money and spend large amounts of time and money obsessing over their looks. These women are usually insecure so they are precieved as being full of themselves (all people who are insecure are precieved as being full of themselves when they act insecure). Wise men don't want to give all their money to these insecure (precieved as bitches) women or be with them.

High matinence women are just insecure and confused as to what men really want or what kind of men they really want and why they want a man. They believe that they need to appear attractive in order for men to like them (which attracts the worst sort of men, the dumb ones). They expect men to treat them a certain way because of their false peception of men. They assume men only want them for sex, and the men that actually do date them usually do only want sex, though those men don't represent all men or men in general. Those men are the men who are in general stupid and choose their relationships based on the woman they find the most sexually attractive. Since their relationships are based on attraction and sex, the relationships only last as long as the attraction does, sex is used as a weapon of control, and once their relationship inevitably bombs they try to ass rape each other in divorce court. By this time, they usually have children who suffer from their ignorance.

You can all thank the media obsessing over how we look for people's screwed up mentalities.

The person you find the most sexually attractive should not necessarily be the person who want to have a relationship with. You should find a relationship with a person who you find emotionally attractive (whose personality you like). Then your relationship might have a chance at lasting.

Looks aren't everything. Don't become a supermodel.

 

(1) I spend a ridiculous amount of MY money on my looks because it is required job wise and because I am a product of my geographical enviorment. Nothing wrong with looking the best I can.

2) perfectly articulated.

3) I keep my looks up for myself-not for men because I try and take pride in every aspect of my life. I am not going to turn in an article that is less than my best and I am not going to go to work or go to a club looking less than my best. why should I? It goes beyond spending money too I workout, eat right, take good care of my skin, am always manicured/pedicured etc. Why present anything less than my best to the world?

4) I agree I live in that enviorment and I am finally coming to terms with being me.

5) LOL I am an average looking girl who takes good care of herself. I am not anymore attractive than anyone else when I roll outta bed.

 

I do not believe I have read such utter rubbish in all my life, woman! A relationship is not about maintenance....in either direction. Go sit in the corner and sit still till class is over!

 

Just what i was thinkin'... high maintenance? some people are... kids... the infirm... elderly... mentally dysfunctional.... people who are high maintenance are by necessity.

"high mainenance" is a term coined by adults, and when used in the context of a relationship, it's just a cop out..... a way of denying responsiblity, and usually a lot of the work....

you only get out of a relationship as much as you are willing to work putting into it...... the rope pulls both ways...... sounds more like you are looking for an emotional sponge, than an equal partner actually it sounds more like you are looking for a father figure (makes sense i guess, parents of course help us when we really do need hight maintenance, and they are usually the first and last to really do so)...... creepy

 

I like girls who let you get them drunk and do them in the butt every once in a while.

 

hah as sexy as that sounds you are going to need to log in a few hours first d: