Alright, this may turn out to be a bit lengthy... I'm in a bit of a pickle. I'm involved in a LDR, where he and I will not actually meet for almost 5 months. Yeah, I know. It's crazy, but I do consider it to be a relationship. We have talked, Skyped, chatted for a couple of years. It's only recently that it's become serious...feelings declared and whatnot. He says, he is waiting for me...not seeing other people, etc. I agreed to this. The thing is, I have an almost insatiable desire for sex. I need it. I need the release, the close intimate contact with another person, everything. So, I met this amazing Brazilian man while out recently. He expressed an interest, we exchanged numbers and the next thing I know...I'm straight up asking him for a NSA. He agreed. I was completely honest about my LDR. Here's where things get sticky. I've been with this guy twice now. Both times I spent the night. The second time we met, we had pretty much what you would consider a "date" beforehand. He texts constantly. Good morning, beautiful. Goodnight, sexy...and everything in between. He's totally enthralled with the sex. Ok, great...so am I. Constantly going on about how beautiful my hair is. How he has never had a pussy like mine, etc. Also, after sex he is very cuddly and warm. I'm kinda tripping bc while he SAYS he's seeing other women and he's not a boyfriend...he sure is acting like it. And my dumb ass is getting confused because he's acting and sort of taking the place of all the things I wish LDR boy was doing. I'm liking Mr. Brazil. I'd like to keep him around, but how do I put on the breaks...slow it down? Keep him and I from going where we said we weren't? And as for the cheating on LDR? I feel bad about it, but realistically...I have no idea what he's doing and that's a whole other thread. Thanks
I wouldn't be concerned about Mr.LDR until he is actually in your life. until then he's just a name, maybe a face, typing words to you. Mr. Brazil sounds like a FWB keep it that way, the pet names are sexy to him most likely. I am young but have just gotten out of and cleared my head from a fucked up long distance arrangement with my girl from high school. PM me if you wanna talk about it more privately.
Sounds to me like you need to make up your mind. You can't have it both ways without a lot of lies and hiding, and if you can live with that go ahead. Not saying this makes you a bad person, just saying that maintaining two relationships, one just sexual, and one long distance nut possible serious is not as peachy as everyone thinks. Pick one and let the other one go. Or talk to the ldr, who knows maybe he's cool with you having sex on the side.
I'm sorry to say but there's no way you can commit yourself to someone you've never met. You may feel like you know him and you may like what you know, but you have no way of knowing if there is chemistry until you meet him. Without chemistry he's just a friend. In my opinion you should tell him, and not Mr Brazil, that you want to put the brakes on until you actually meet. Then enjoy this Brazilian guy.
I thought this question was about Facebook!? Well there's only one answer I see fit.. Don't use Facebook!! As for the LDR thing, if you're going to cheat on this guy, at least break up with him. This way he isn't faithfully waiting for a cheating and lying girl. You can't have your cake and eat it too; you want to go get dick, let the poor guy get some pussy.
How old are you? U agreed to this so I feel like you shouldn't cheat but if u were my friend or like my sitter or daughter I would tell u to get urs cause life is too short and you two are not married
Thanks for the input. As for LDR guy...he's not 50 and living in mommy's basement. We Skype regularly. I did not ask him to be faithful or for him to wait for me either. However, once he brought the whole issue to my attention...I did agree. I'm really not a bad person either. And definitely not a cheater. The whole LDR thing is a new and foreign concept for me. I think I made a mistake in being quick to agree to be faithful to a man I have not met in the flesh or had any intimate dealings with. I will have to talk it out with him. I'm fairly certain he is no angel either, but I'm not overly concerned because I do not know what our real life chemistry will be. I have some thinking to do for certain and I appreciate your responses. The reason I came Thanks.
Communication! If you guys are getting along really well, and NSA is what you want talk about it so you both know where you're at. I have a "NSA" playmate. But it didn't take long before we realized we were most definitely "friends with benefits". Our situations are such that a romantic relationship can't be had. And it's freaky just how well we mesh, even with the differences we have, we just have this spark. Right from the start the more we realized there's something more between us, we made it a point that we stay open about our feelings. And we're agreed that if it came down to it we would rather go without the intimacy and sex, to just be really good friends. If you both still want to have it NSA and enjoy being close like that, you have to talk and make sure you're both on the same page. If that's just how he is, enjoy it. If staying over and the more "relationship" things blur the lines mention it. Me and mine, we realized that as much as we would have liked it, it we were better off not staying together when we had the chance.
