As much as I love everything about being gay and enjoy ultimate gay love and sex. As much as I want suck a cock, take the load, rimming getting fucked or fucking him, or anything else ….what kick starts this amazing love and sex ….is the kissing! For me even when I started this journey kissing was important…but now kissing is vital in my hooks up…majority of the men I hook up ..we jus don’t jus for few sec or minute…majority of the times good 10-15m or longer ….I have began to enjoy the love making and taking easy and making love intimately…when we kiss and look in the eye ..that sense of love , bonding and intimacy makes other sexual experiences even better ….majority men have been on this side with me….I turned off by guys that are not into kissing …. Worst case if I’m desperate…I have taken few guys that lights kisser but only into sucking and fucking … i find when we talk and look in the eye how much we are enjoying sends many positive signal in our mm relationship and future of how we trust each other ….trust is key in opening up in this journey…
Same for me. I am married and bi. When I make out with my wife I drip precum. Making out with a guy is so hot and gets me turned on.
I'm not a real big fan of kissing another man but have found myself doing so very passionately while riding his cock in my ass, leaning down and kissing him with his cock in my ass just feels so right.
The ultimate feeling of kissing a man and let him know how much enjoy his company and presence making love….looking each other in the eye and saying how much satisfy each other by kissing and showing affection for each other is priceless…. I feel the way you kiss a wife or your gay lover …defines how much you want each other…making the hook up that hot and the relationship stronger …
I like kissing it’s fun and very sexual I need it, it’s so primal. I had a guy fuck me once no kissing , sex was good but I felt it lacked something and it was definitely not getting kissed. Need that in sex
Desi, you are so right and I totally agree! Passionate, loving and sensual kissing is essential, and also why I mostly avoid bi guys. Sex is so much more than just sucking and fucking. Developing a real connection with the guy you're with, even if it's just casual and first time together, kissing for a long time, looking deeply into each other's eyes, holding each other, connecting soul with soul, caressing each other's bodies, really worshipping each other's cocks, orally making love to each other's assholes, is all so very important to making the experience of having sex together more like making love, and more profoundly pleasurable for both of you. Anal penetration can be gentle and soft, but you can even end up pounding each other's asses with uncontrollable passion and it's still lovemaking if kissing etc. starts it all, and continues throughout fucking (which is why missionary position is my favourite). The orgasms are way, way more intense if you make love like this. This is how I want all my sexual encounters with guys to be like, but I don't get it near enough. It's why I hope to one day find that special fuck buddy or boyfriend to continually make love like this together.
Cant do it, nor do I want to do it . I will suck my friends swollen cock happily, but kissing makes me uncomfortable. He feels the same.
When a guy is a good kisser it can be a very erotic, passionate experience. I especially like it when he tastes like my precum.
I've rarely found a guy that I liked to kiss. My former boyfriend was an amazing kisser, and he would kiss me like he was feeding on my soul. Lips softer than a lot of women I'd kissed but then again, he always said that he was one of the girls...
If I really like a male lover, I will kiss him whenever he wants to, whether during sex or just casually.
It's interesting that you say, "just casually", too, @BiGuySW. In the last few years, since coming out to myself as gay (I've also come out to a few close friends, though I'm still mostly in the closet), I've actually kissed other gay friends in public when just gathering socially, something that I would never have considered when I was still bi-confused. And the kisses are not just a quick peck on the lips, but a little bit deeper, softer and fuller, without any tongue, just this side of sensual, but still casual. And I didn't have a care in the world of doing it so publicly, and it felt totally natural. And I've never had sex with these guys. Is this a thing in the gay community? I certainly feel closer to these men who I've done this with, a very satisfying feeling of closeness, casual but maybe with a hint of sexuality? Certainly a shared homosexuality. I was even on a dinner date with a guy recently, a friend from my gay social group, and he reached his face across the table at one point to give me a "casual" kiss on the lips. And again I didn't care even though it was in public and I'm in the closet. We did end up having sex the next day though.
Regardless of gender or sexual orientation, most people really need love and affection. When I quit limiting my affection to just females, more females actually started opening up their inner life to me, as did more male and non-binary people. Worries about being strictly monogamous or adhering to traditional gender roles keep most people bottled up, but if you can detach affection from the expectation of sexual activity, you can have more close friends and confidantes. The paradox is that if you are willing to love people without the EXPECTATION of having sex, you tend to have more sex. However, if you have more than one lover, this paradox requires being responsible for engaging in safe sexual practices. With freedom comes responsibility. I'll engage in mutual masturbation with just about any considerate and willing partner, but penetration type sex requires vetting.
