lack of respect or low-life?

If/when people have backstabbed you, betrayed you - how have you taken it? What do you think - that they're low-lives, or that they totally have no respect for you? Evil.. or pathetic loser? Jealous maybe? Vengeance? The latter 2 kinda come in the pathetic loser category though..

I don't think anyone has ever had much respect for me.

I have also been a victim of jealousy since birth.

 

I've never really been betrayed/backstabbed by somebody close enough to me, for me to have any feelings towards them other than pity.

Guess I'm lucky.

 

i live in a very small town...2,500 people roughly...full of biggoted, redneck, gossipy, backstabbers...people who wont vote for obama because hes black...too many people with the same last names(if you get my meaning ) 45 year old men knocking up teenagers in highschool still...and its all acceptable apparently to almost everyone...i cant wait to get the fuck out of here

 

I never hesitate to cut people out of my life and never think about it again.

I don't think it's something to be taken personal. usually when people feel the need to be assholes, it's a problem THEY are having with themselves, or with their lives, and well... that's their problem.

anything in particular penny? or just in general

 

i don't dwell on it; there's generally nothing i can do anyway so i just get on with my life, with them no longer a part of it.

 

Same.

I do get offended with all the bod jokes some of my friends make, and I have no hesitation in pointing out why its good, but thats hardly betrayal. More annoyance.

 

everyone is against me *points finger at you*

but i try not to think about it

im probably just paranoid but it almost seems true

 

I'm too nice.

People think they can step all over me.

 

I don't get how you can think any one thing, or that everyone betrays or backstabs for the same reasons. it really depends on the circumstances.
did something happen?

 

One of my friend's used to have a great little phrase.

'I hate when people mistake my kindness for weakness.'

 

I've always reacted by thinking that I didn't mean as much to them as they meant to me. I'd get really upset and think lots of "fuck you" thoughts.

Now, I realize that people are people. They are lost and confused in their own dramas and interpretations of the world....so I don't take it personal. Or that its a misunderstanding....that is often the case as well.

 

I've heard that before and I think it's very valid.

people tend to think there's a reason you're being nice.. when in actuality, some just have good intentions.

 

this is very true...

 

It is extremely hard for me to write people off, this is something I have a real difficult time doing... I have had people close to me do things to really hurt me, things I never thought they would do, but they did..And I have forgiven them and still have them in my life.. Now before someone says, oh than it must not have been too bad, and yes it was but I don't put my business out for you folks to read, but with that being said.. We are all humans, we all have major flaws, we all make mistakes or do things out of character and have our weaknesses, I am just a very forgiving person....

And if someone doesn't care for me or hates me, I never think it is because they are jealous of me ever...It's easy to say that, it's easy to say well they are just jealous of me, than it is to say hey they might dislike my personality or maybe I said something to upset them or offend them, it's easier to look at other's and fault them than it is to look at ourselves and our flaws...I just live, I mean I don't get into all complicated stuff, I leave things in the past and just move forward and forget and forgive and continue each day as a fresh new start and I don't dwell...I just live, it's simple really...

 

If it's an accident it's not betrayal.. betrayal is always conscious.

 

I sometimes wish I had a heart of stone like the assholes who hurt me. Or that I was completly insane so I wouldn't realize the harm I've done.

 

lack of respect.

 

Oh I can tell when people truly dislike me or when they are jealous.. it's quite obvious.. I'm not paranoid. Some people wanna think I am but I'm just very perceptive if that's the word.

It's hard for me to forgive. I would never try to "revenge" or anything like that though. No I just hurt forever though.

 

I am not saying you are wrong or anything like that, I was speaking for myself personally and my situations... Everyone works differently and I don't think you are paranoid...

Just like how everyone handles situations differently, like with someone betraying them, it is not wrong that you cannot forgive and let go, again people work differently, it's easier for me to forgive and forget than it is to harbor feelings about it and to keep letting it interfere with my life and my feelings... In the past I've had to forgive and forget a lot in order to truly be happy and content with myself and life in general... But I understand that not everyone is like that, trust me, there is a person who I did cut out of my life because they did do something that is unforgivable and they truly are a bad person... Everyone is just different.. I keep saying that, which I know gets annoying..

 

No no it's not annoying.. I just really admire you for being such a forgiving person. I wish I could forget and move-on with my life a lot, it just doesn't happen.