Lad making me angry at college

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All bullies want is a reaction. If you can laugh out loud at his foolishness instead of getting angry, he will leave you alone. Think to yourself, "what a fuckin' loser, he has to pick on people to make himself feel better" tell yourself that it must really suck to be him, because it most certainly does. ...or you can make him think you are crazy. People will leave you alone if they think you're about to go postal on them.

 

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having fun at someone else's expense IS bullying. no doubt about it. He's a miserable person who must really hate himself if he feels he has to knock you down to feel better about himself.

 

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kids who are bullies in grade school end up being bullies in college, and eventually out in the grown-up workforce as well (and on the internet we call them trolls). They don't just grow out of it, not if it works for them. People don't change unless they want to, and I've never known a bully who would admit there was anything about him/herself that needed to change! They just find new ways of intimidating and irritating people. And they are always real good at making the altercations look like the other person's fault. They know how to play inside the rules, but still push the right buttons to make you break the rules and then you're the bad guy.

 

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I never got bullied but have had people desire to fight me becuase of status. If they can beat you up then likely you will only do further damage to yourself and make them feel better and the abuse will likely get worse. In America you can file harassment charges against them, 4th degree assualt in our country is an unwanted touch so it does not have to leave marks.


Another option is if he does this in a crowded room walk over to him and just put him in a put up or shut up mode. You tell him to stand up and basically hit you, dont hit back, (I hope you have a bit of grit) and if he does, ask him if he is through and got it out of his system yet, does he feel better for doing so. You will basically embarass him infornt of everyone.

No matter what its ashame you even have to worry about it. I mean some people never grow up and as for you feeling weak or whatever, your not, your far braver than he is becuase everyday you goto school, do your work knowing that some asshole will likely mess with ya so you are a very strong man, it takes alot of heart to deal with this. Wish I was there, I could assist in the problem sending him a reminder that being a bully can create pain.

 

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Stop being so hard on yourself man. Everyone gets that occasionally (i used to get it at school). I know exactly how you feel, lacking the confidence to stand up to them etc. The fact is that they are really insecure with themselves, is it ever one of them on their own picking on you? I bet its always at least 2 if not more. Thats because they feel safe with thier friends. If you attack back it could only make things worse, they could get really sly and all beat you up one night on your way home, or vandalise your car (if you have one) etc..

So you cant try to beat one of them up. And you cant just carry on like this as obviously its really affecting you (as it would with anyone). Yanknburn's put up or shut up is a good idea id say, it basically puts the spotlight on him, and it will show how much courage he really has. You need to be able to stare him in the eyes. Youd also need to be ready for the possibility of taking a hit, and not flinching. Then you could announce "that was a weak punch". This way he will be ashamed and everyone will respect you. It will take some guts but id say thats probably a good option.

Im not an expert though, and anything you do could have bad side effects, they can be really sly. Id say just try and take it and dont back down. If they have a problem with you being in the same room at lunch or whatever stay there, dont walk out - thats what they want. The more you let it show that its effecting you, the more fun it will be for them and the more they will do it.

As for long term, you could try taking karate or kickboxing lessons, or start working out.

 

all he needs to do is ATTEMPT to fight him or call him out. most of the time they will back down and you got your rep back and he wont fuck with you no more. but if he is like twice your size then dont even bother.

 

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don't go telling on him. nobody likes a tattle tale. If he thinks his taunting is not bothering you, he will stop and find someone else to pick on. It's all about your reaction. That's what he's after. If you stop reacting, he doesn't get anything out of it anymore.

 

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man... alright. if nobody is going to mention the elephant in the room, I will:

Stop being such a putz.

Realize that you probably don't need to scrap this guy, but if you want to, then do it, and quit being such a bitch about it.
Quit caring about how "hard" you seem (you really come off like some stupid fucking chav).
Go out and talk to people. Change your clothes every once and a while. In short, be a fucking man about it.

I know you have AS, and I know it sucks. But there is dick all anybody can do about it, so learn to live with it as best you can. Because right now, Helen Keller was more of a man than you are.

 

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With what - getting up the balls to fight someone?

I can't do jack shit for you. If you really need someone to talk to, I'll PM you my MSN address.

 

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