Ladies..How Do You Keep A Man Interested???

For those of you who don't have trouble attracting a man, what are some of the things that you do to get and keep a man???

 

I never really worried about getting or "keeping" a man interested. Either you are interested or you're not....if not then buh - bye. *waves*
I'm just myself all the time and if just being who I am doesn't keep someone interested then they are not for me. That method actually works pretty well for me

 

I don't have to keep men interested, if anything it's the other way around.

If you "have" to keep a man interested, then he's not worth it.

 

i'm awesome at being coy and flirty and haven't ever had a problem not having dates but as soon as i get an invite i'm myself take it or leave it. every relationship i've had has been love at first sight and dating someone has never turned out to be more then that

 

Well said Elle. I couldn't agree more!

 

I don't do shit. This is me, take it or leave it, just make up your mind! Most guys aren't attracted to me because I come on really strong and I'm upfront about life. Some are though.

I would say it's the guys that have to keep ME interested!!

 

There is nothing to do... If hes not interested he can leave... Why should I try to be something he wants me to be... Im me and if you want to be with me you have to want me for me.... If not see ya, dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out

 

Well, I dont' know if it qualifies as something to keep him interested or is a romantic gesture. I mean, in a good relationship, what's the difference really? Romantic gestures show your appreciate and love of that person, which in turn keeps them interested.


Anyways, I think the coolest thing I ever did as a romantic gesture was I built a fort in my basement for my first bf and I to go cuddle and makeout and such in. It was so much fun! I hadn't built a fort in like 5 years before that, and he reeeally liked it, thought that it was awesome and unique.

I understand the whole "He should be interested in me because of who I am, not what I do to keep him interested" thing, but make sure you aren't turning that into a double standard where you feel the guy needs to do things to keep you interested in him. A relationship involves two people, and they're both responsible for what happens in that relationship.

Keeping him interested doesn't mean that it was the only purpose behind your action. Even a hug every day can be what keeps him interested in you. Being genuine to yourself, or not doing a complete 180 after you guys are dating can be what keeps him interested.

 

I was just joking. man, I can't say anything around here without being taken 100% seriously. oh,well. yay for hipforums anyway!

I don't turn it into a double standard for goodness sake. I love my man. Just being him is good enough. If is wasn't I would have left him a long time ago!!

 

I have never had a problem finding a man, but I honestly don't know the answer. I guess just being myself, I'm not fake, I'm just me.

 

Perfect explanation.

 

I am myself. I'm outgoing and ask a lot of questions. I, like a previous poster, love to do little stuff to make that person feel special. It makes me feel good to see my guy feel good.

I think for the most part, I just treat people how I'd like to be treated...I think that gets a good rap.

 

I brush my teeth and try not to pick my nose around him. Seems to be working out quite nicely!

 

I thought this post was GREAT!!!!

As for the question itself............{Maggie runs from the room clutching her breast and rending her garment, ARUGHHGHUGHGHGHGHGHHHGHGHG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!}

 

Yes, no nose picking until at least the third date. I agree.

 

LOL!!! Just be yourself. That has always worked for me. I am happily married with 2.8 kids. LOL

 

Maggie, I love your responses...just crack me up!! I agree, just being oneself is enough...that tends to separate the people that don't need to be together, and bring together the ones that do. And nose picking....well...they had better be able to handle my nose picking...(smile!)

 

Thats exactly how I feel! I'm not saying I go out of my way all the time for my bf, but every once in a while I feel he deserves something special, b/c he is so good to me! We've been madly in love for a yr. & half, so I guess somethings goin ok.

 

I am what I am and that's all that I am. Mmm, spinach.