Life long dilema !!

About love...
I have been fond of this girl for 5 months and finally 2 weeks ago we went out on a date, we went to this small rock concert in a bar, drank, talked a lot in general had a great night we still had not made out because the situation was not favorable !! When i was dropping her home we started to kiss in the car, it lasted exactly 4 hours from 3:30am till 7:30am it got pretty intense but we kept our clothes on, of corse i slipped my had down ocasionally because she seemed to like it, but maintaining respect at all times, she even invited me in her home because there was no one there so we contined all those "verbs" indoors
We used to e-mail ourselves daily before the date and now not a word is said, i have called a few times but have given up because i don´t really get the answeres that i want.. i mean i would love to go out again but she does not invite me.
Why do humans at least young humans have to play the hard to get game, why is it that every time you express your feeling to somebody the relation seems to die... Its like when you finally get together the challange is over do whats the fun ??
So i have this doubt in my mind. what the fuck is going on...

1) did i not satisfy her... No we had a great time, i payed for some drinks i was a gentleman taking her home, we had a great time we did not have one moment of nothing to say... and if she was not having fun we would not have made out for 4 hours....

2) was she just looking for a one night stand ?? I have no idea.. and prefer not to speculate about it

3) did she lose interest because the mistery and challenge were over ??

4) does she want to go out but expects me to do something outrageous like surprising her, showing up at her door during the week ??


So can anybody clarify my mind ?? I will really apreciate the help.

 

I still have not found a solution i put myself in her position wow a nice guy took me out he was kind gave me pleasure, bought drinks avoided smoking as much as he would because im not a smoker.... We know each other for so long....
so what the fuck do girls want the complete oposite... a fucking asshole ??

 

May that is what some girls want... somebody not as nice
Or does she only want to be friends, which i doubt because she does not keep in touch as much as in the past.

 

she probably just doesnt like you anymore.

women can be like men too.

 

after 4 hours of kissing in the car, if a girl invites you to enter in her apartment, i'm pretty sure that the last thing she wants is "respect".....the instant the door closed behind you "Mr. Chris" had to be out and ready for action..............if you have done this, I'm sure you would be hearing from her everyday................
hope she gives you another chance.........

 

maybe she wanted more than you gave her? she invited you in her hosue in the middle of the night after you had been kissing for hours? and you didn't go any further? you just kissed and kissed and kissed and kissed? how many hours do you need to take the clothes off? I mean, it kind of seems as though that the girl wanted to go further, and maybe was dissapointed that you didnt?
But I also dont think that's a reason for her to be annoying and distant to you, if she is into you, emotionally. Maybe she only wanted ass?

 

But like i said i ocasionally caressed hey p.u.s.s.y... (over her jeans) )she always left me fool around there for a while then gently pushed my hand away !! So I am wrongly beeing acused by you guyes of beeing slow... I was not !! I was moving along perfectly acording to the moment.. i was even going faster than i generally do !!!

 

Hey,
haha, I didn't mean to make you feel uncomfortable, sorry man.
Hmmm, if the case is that she pushed your hand away from her pants, maybe then she just isn't really interested in you. I don't know her enough to say though. Is she more of an emotional, attached girl, or does she like to "get around?"
But what do I know about dating women? I'm gay.
haha
Cheers and Love,
Dylan

 

But if it was such a great deal to have my hand up on her private parts she would have immediately taken my hand away but she always left it there for a while: aprox (3 mins) at a time. So PIANOPERSON answering your question, i have come to the conclusion that she just wants to have fun so well yes she is a little tilted twards the getting around town girl !!! To bad, put 5 months of hope in her !!!

 

over the jeans?

what a chump.

 

3 minutes of that shit? would you want a woman rubbing your dick for that long?
you shouldve started to unbutton her jeans before 30 or 35 seconds had gone by. if she had kicked you out then at least you'd have some dignity left.

 

it goes better saying "pussy" than "private parts"..........after all, wich parts of her body are public ???

 

a go fuck your self !!!
I asked for help not opinion coming from a bunch of losers....
Im sure you are going to reply "i would have fucked her"
Hey POLITICSAREAWESOME what a dumb ass, you think that going to quick and getting kicked out is better than having maintained respect and taking it easy... what an ass you are...
I have just spoken to her, she told me that she had been acting a little strange because her uncle had just died so she is going through tough times at home... so keep your opinions ans lies to yourself !!!

 

and you're a 23 year old who has a 12 year-old's knowledge of chicks. i wouldn't be criticizing anybody else.

 

youve never been with a woman before, have you? ()

 

what the hell is wrong with you guys, so what he didnt push himself onto her, if she wanted things to go further she wouldve moved his hand inside her jeans not pushed it away, not every girl wants sex on the first date i believe id call that tarty, and he was looking for a relationship not a one night stand

 

Thank you, your the only member with a bit or sence and maturity in this place !!

 

take it easy......you asked for opinions (what kind of help could we gave other than an opinion??), you had opinions....if they don't please you that is your problem.....but i have to say that the only looser around here seems to be you....not us....

 

this is therapy. you're lucky i don't send you a bill.

nah, i would put a lot of money that this chick wasn't that attractive.

 

okay guys, lets not be so nasty.
I didn't mean to make you out to be slow, yet at the same time, you were asking for our opinions, and by what we knew, we felt she might have wanted more. We had no way to know that the real problem was her uncle's death. I'm sorry to hear that.
Cheers, and Lvoe,
Dylan