Little kids that LIE too much

So the middle child has a problem with his twig and berries. They're all red and in pain because he keeps pissing his pants and lying about it.

Woke up screaming last night cause his thingy hurt. Found out he was just laying there in piss. Told him why it hurt and that he had to stop sitting in his pee clothes like that.

First thing this morning he's screaming and screaming about his pee-pee again. Ask him if he peed himself and the answer was, "No."

Starts screaming again so I go to look at him, and sure enough he's soaked in piss. Lying about it.

I'm sooooooo fucking frustrated I don't know what to do. He doesn't get in trouble for pissing himself, he's just fucking lying to do it. Which is dumb because it's his fuckin junk that's sore. Not mine. WTF does he think he's proving?

Kids make me want to kill myself. I swear.

 

maybe it is something more than just pissing himself... Maybe he needs a doctor visit to rule out something more ,,, if there is nothing wrong then have the lying/ honesty talk til yer blue in the face...

dunno how old the rug rat is so hard to say anything more specific about it...

 

He's 3 years old. He was fine until yesterday when he peed in his underwear and just sat in it til somebody smelled him.

Now he's only complaining about it when he's soaked in pee. If he's dry, he's ok.

But he's peeing his pants and lying about it even WHILE it's hurting him.

Him: """"OWWWWWWW. MY PEE PEE HURTS ADAM!!!"
Me: "Did you pee your pants, Robbie?"
Him: "Noooo. My weenie is hurting bad"
Me: "Robbie your pants are soaked. Did you pee them? We need to change them so your wee wee doesn't hurt"
Him: "I didn't pee"
Me: "What is that?"
Him: "I dunno. I didn't pee"

I mean he's been told more than once that that is the reason his little ding a ling is burning and he keeps just sitting in piss.

 

Maybe he's embarassed that he's been peeing himself and is trying to hide it from you by saying he's not doing it?

I have a difficult time saying that he'd be lying at that age. He's still pretty young. I'm thinking he probably feels embarassed or is afraid you'll be disappointed with him.

But yeah, what Dilli said, if he's not done this in the past (my almost 6 year old twins STILL have nighttime bed wetting issues!) then I would maybe think about having him checked out to see if he has some type of bladder/urinary tract infection.

Another thing to consider is, has there been any major changes in the home lately? When my twins were born, my oldest son was 3.5 years old and had been potty trained for quite a while beforehand. But after the twins were born, he regressed, and starting peeing and pooping his pants again. Thankfully, it didn't last long, but I realized it was because he was having a difficult time adjusting to the changes that were taking place.

Hope some of that helps. Hang in there.

 

you should get him nighty sleepers and some borafax or powder for the redness... he may be having bad dreams that make him go during the night, or you should make sure right before he goes to bed he uses the bathroom. even though he's young he's lying cause he thinks he'll get in trouble for it (that's how lying starts!)

 

You are pushing him too much he is only three dont be so tough on him

 

The problem isn't just the bed. Yesterday he peed himself in the middle of the day and just hid in his room soaking in it. I didn't notice he was wet when I'd check on him, but I also wasn't checking him for being wet. He usually changes his pants when he pees. I just don't get why he's being like this?

Edit: @ dilli: You think I should put him back in diapers and go that route since he's obviously not got the potty training down like we thought? I didn't want to do that to him because he gets really emotional if we tell him he needs to wear a diaper to bed, etc..... dude, I'm not cut out for this....

 

Like I said, maybe he's going through some type of regression phase? It happens.

When my oldest was doing that, it wasn't just at nighttime, it was throughout the day as well.

 

I mean..... I'm so lost. I'm sitting here crying because I don't know what to do. Seems like if I don't treat him like a big boy he just acts out does bad things a lot. But if I do then I have to deal with this, and

I dunno.

I'm sorry.

 

i think you should put him in diapers but make him known that babies wear diapers... my 3 year old nephew is still in diapers (but he's autistic) my 8 year old was in diapers until he was about 5 (only at night when he was 5) because he was wetting himself, he knew diapers were for babies and felt bad but he couldn't help himself from going to the bathroom his senses weren't ready

 

i wouldnt put him back into diapers,,, he will get it eventually... its just pissy pants,,, dont be so hard on yourself either...

maybe a bit of bribery for a few days,,, like if he makes it through a day do something fun that makes it special,,, then make it two days etc...

seems to me like he is being a bit rushed and as HCM says it could be lots of factors,,,

 

See our 5 year old wears diapers to bed at times because he does wet the bed a lot. But he also is ok with it. He knows he has a problem and that a diaper is the fix. He doesn't like it, but he likes it better than waking up soaked in pee.

If I put the 3 yr old in diapers he'll scream and cry and tell everybody that he's telling on us because we're hurting his feelings with diapers. And he'll act out something awful. Now, don't get me wrong, I can handle kids acting out way easier than this shit. But I can't afford to have him punching the youngest in the face and hitting his older brother in the face with toys... which he'll do.....

 

my sister used rubber pants on my one niece... you could always try that because it'll be less clothes ruined ! just trying to help you out.

 

thats two separate issues,,, the hitting n peeing need to be dealt with separately...

 

I know he'll get it. That's why I've dealt with it for so long. He kept wanting to be a big boy right after his second birthday, I believe. We took the diapers off basically at his request. He's peed himself off and on the whole time. He'll have spells where he wont pee his pants for days. Then he'll pee every day for weeks. Normally he just changes his clothes without even being prompted, and goes about his day. Lately he's apparently been trying to hide it. He really never gets in trouble for peeing his pants. I mean we knew it would happen taking the diaper off, and laundry is cheaper than diapers anyway.

Even with this little rash he's got, he doesn't want to tell anybody when he pees. I just can't understand.

The only thing that's changed over the past month is that his dad has actually started picking he and his brother up again... but you'd think that'd make them happier? Seems like it does.....

Maybe trying to figure out "why" is my problem?

 

Right. I know that. And I can handle the hitting. But I was just giving an example of how he acts out if we try to step him back a bit. He wants to be big like his big brother and saying or doing anything that shows otherwise, is a cardinal sin in his eyes.

 

Thank you. I've never heard of rubber pants, but I'm about to look them up.

 

What'd you do for him as far as the peeing issue? I mean I thought I was being pretty supportive. Just told him to come tell me if he had an accident and I'd get him fresh pants. Even when I caught him hiding it I didn't put him in time out. I just told him that his rash wouldn't go away if he didn't keep clean pants on.

And same result.

 

So if I'm reading this all right... this is a relatively new problem, right? Out of curiosity how long ago was he potty-trained? If it's only been a few months, maybe he just hasn't got it figured out yet. Preschoolers are notorious for learning something new - and then just as you think they've got it for sure, they forget again. Yeah, even with potty-training.

Since this seems to have come up all of a sudden, I'd definitely suspect something could be wrong. Everyone thinks that UTI's are a "girl thing" but they're not - it's rare, but boys do get them too. My son got a nasty UTI while on vacation once and had some temporary problems as well... he was 8 at the time & wholly mortified! Just for arguments' sake, I'd try giving him several glasses of cranberry juice as well as plenty of water over the next few days, maybe make sure he gets a bath a bit more often... and try to remind yourself that he's three. Preschoolers ARE put on this earth to teach their parents patience, I'm quite convinced!
love,
mom

 

The peeing the pants isn't recent. He's been having accidents off and on for a year now, I'd say. He's recently started hiding it though. That's the new part. And because he's been hiding it, he developed a rash. It's under control but it stings him pretty good if he pees his pants and hides it. Yet he keeps hiding it.