As long as it's an equal give and take, you help them, support yourself, and have private space then I see no problem with it. In some cultures this is glorified, not looked down upon.
Ditto to every single word.... Why should anyone be shamed for having good parents and wanting to share more life with them.After a certain age,I believe that we cease to become parents and children...we evolve into brothers and sisters,whether we be 20 or 80...we are all the same...just my .002:cheers2:
Maybe youre soul mates, naw i dunno yea i think the negative connotation on children still living with their parents is lame. As long as its a symbiotic relationship and you still want to be with your parents then go for it!
I completely understand why its looked down upon. Your parents raise you so that you can be an independent person. that is their entire goal in life. By staying with them, your depriving yourself and them of an intrinsic part of life. Basically you will be a child forever. Personally, that seems like a bad thing. Let me ask you this, why should you live with your parents as an adult?
Well a lot comes into play, first of all how old are adults? Do you mean 18 or 30? Technically you are an adult at 18. I am 20 and living at home and I see nothing wrong with it at all. I save a ton of money, still get to see my parents everyday which I enjoy because they are very laid back, eat excellent meals.. I could go on for a while, but I mean it depends on the situation, 80% of my friends hated living home and being around their folks, or had very small homes with no privacy. I am lucky to have a larger home and this to me is a big factor. As I find and pursue better things I'm sure I will move out, like most tend to, but right now there is really not the need for it as the pro's of living home outweigh the con's of being on my own. Maybe this thread was for adults way beyond my age, but just my .02
What Im really wondering is how do maintain a personal life? Are youre parents cool with you inviting friends and partners over to their house? Personally that would make me really uncomfortable, I need my own space.
As long as the kids are equal particpants in the home.. well then OK. A big problem these days is when parents are enablers in their children never taking care of themselves.
Living with parents as an "adult" (over 18) can be tricky. While it does have its perks, you are still living under your parents roof, and their "rules" need to be respected. If you want to know about bringing a partner home, ask your parents. They may have some "ground rules" or concerns that they would like to discuss with you. Just remember, just because you are an adult it in no way makes you an "equal" in your parents home (they are the parents, you are the child). Unless you are paying for your portion of living expenses of course and even then, its still their house their rules with possibly more freedoms for you. Talk to them, lay out the house rules, negotiate with them if needed. FYI I have yet to meet a parent that is understanding about being woken up at 2am because their adult child has a friend over. Be respectful and be responsible. Remember while it may be your home now, your parents have invested years of hard work and money into the it, and one day you will leave. It is ultimately their home, respect it.
sometimes people live with their parents because their parents need them due to healh issues, financial issues, etc. people shouldn't make kneejerk decisions about why that's happening.
This is very true. I'm currently homeless and doing my best to scramble for a home... but I have to say if it wasn't for some VERY good friends letting me live with them until I do find something to live in, I'd probably be staying with my mom. I'm 28. Unfortunately she has always been pretty abusive and still is, just in different ways, I haven't lived with her since I was 18. I'd rather sleep in a car than live with her again. But my point is, I am disabled and unable to work, so I could have easily ended up living with her and it would suck if people automatically made assumptions about me or my character just because of that. I have a brother in law who is about 30 or 31 or something like that... he has never even moved out to begin with. He still lives with his parents in the same bedroom he's lived in since he was a baby. That is one of those situations for which there is no good excuse other than he is lazy and too afraid of change to get himself out... he has yet to meet a girl who stays with him for very long and I am pretty sure a big part of that has to do with the fact that him living with his parents at the age of 31 for no good reason other than it's convenient and allows him to have fancy cars puts any potential girlfriends and wives off. I know I wouldn't date someone like that. So really, no one should judge an adult living with his or her parents unless they know the full story first. But I do think that in situations where the parents enjoy having the adult child at home and the adult child enjoys living with the parents and pitches in his fair share as if he were a roommate, there isn't anything wrong with that.
some people get along better with their parents, my cousin was a few years past 30 when she moved out, she was not a bum or anything, went to collage, and stayed out of trouble, she just never moved out. I agree that at some point it is not a child parent thing it is adults living together.
