hi guys, washed my hair this morning,and my sections r in pretty bad shape,there all loose and yuk.im no sure what to do.the ones at top of my head are fine,its the bak and sides im having trouble with.should i backcomb again,or just leave em be?? any help would b appreciated thanks ali
Leave them be. Mine did that too. I've been going for about 2 months and I can't remember who said it but someone said they have to get loose before they get tight again. I started with a bit of backcombing but haven't done any since. MOstly what I do to help the back bit that's all loose, because of sleeping I guess, is rub it in circles, for example after I get out the shower. That's helped a lot. I keep my hope up by telling myself everyone has to go through this stage before you get awesome dreads and I kind of think it's like paying your dues, you have to earn them! Keep up hope. xxxx
Hey Ali, don't lose hope and listen to the words of hippy shake. I am in the same place as you right now (obviously in a dreadlock kinda way, i'm not like in ya house or anything like that! Ha). I am at about 2 weeks now, soooooooooo early on and mine are getting loose as hell also. Infact I will post you a pic in a while, thats sure to give ya hope! How far are you in Alisha?
finking i maite take em out and start over,the left side of head the hair is a mess,snd is seriously upsetting me
Man I just seen Vermonthippy's (I think its them!) 17 day old dreads and they are awesome. I am only a couple of days behind them and mine look nothing like theirs! BUT I will continue on my journey regardless. If I get to 5/6 months in and nothing is happening I will then start to get a bit pissed off and concerned that maybe it ain't gonna happen. A word often used round these parts is 'patience' and its sooo true that you must have just that! Good luck gal.
just leave em alone they'll work out but they will always go through a essy period thats just part ofthe process wear a wool hat a couple weeks and see what happens they gotta loosen upo b4 they tighten backcombing is not dreading dreading takes time and takes committment u gotta commit to getting through the messy period tiull they start to tighten and look better be p;atient
you need to realize dreadlocks take a long time to form...a year or more for most people before they actually start looking good.
If they're looking really messy just put on some temporary hair wraps, that's what i've been doing, now the smaller ones are fine when the wraps fall off the bigger ones are still loose, but i'm in no rush, they change every day so its exciting, its like having a new hair style daily.
hya,well ive decided to not take my sections all out cos it is 8wks since igot em in,just guna backcomb the really loose ones and shove my wollen hat on. hay guys thanks for the support x
I don't have personal experience with this method but wanted to agree with the sentiments of "backcombing is not dreading" and patience.
^^^^^^^ yea dont redo it! i did that thinkin it would help and it ruined my little babies i did it to. no good at all. advice-let it grow and mold into locs. i know you've heard this a lot but be patient! it pays off and its a wonderful thing. if u can b patient enough for dreads u can b patient enough for nething else IMO
stick it out alisha, maintain your dreadhead spirit and reject vaniity, embrace the natural self and let be.
im hearing loud and clear,i wont bk comb again,i promise lol. and thank you for the reply's good to know other folks have or going thru same as me.cheers x
Yay don't take them out! I think the whole idea is letting go of control, letting your hair do it's own thing. I think soaringeagle said on a post that backcombing just helps people believe they're in control and feel like they're doing something, when really all you need is time and patience. Message me if you need some inspiration, I'll be glad to help. x
well, if you use some wax(which is a very no no), well, you might solve yer problem. haha. which i suggest you shant do. xD
ok... I have tried to just go with it but, I must say that I am getting quite upset at posts like this... backcombing is not a mature lock, obviously... but it is a good building block for those whose hair does not lock up well. I had my hair backcombed once. I have not put any chemicals in my hair(other than a mistake of using peppa in my first days) and never used wax. I consider unnatural locking "dread perms", extentions chemically "pre dreading" salon crap and fake hair dreads. I am very much on the same journey as you all and feel a bit slighted when journeys are compared. this is not a contest. Everyone's journey is different, as much as all of our hair is different. Isn't one of the points of locking your hair to rid yourself of the need to be vain and to be out of the" I am better than you" typical society false sense of self shit? I am no lock scholar, nor do I pretend I know it all about the lock process. But what I do know is that I am loving my locks, my journey and all the new changes and transformations my locks are going through( hell its almost a month already) and I wish the same for all people who want to start this journey and learn about themselves and others in the process! eace: Sundari PS alisha never give up!!! just when you think you should your locks will transform and prove you wrong!
I'm feeling like this cannot possibly be directed toward me but am confused because one quoted sentence of mine inspired all those from you. Regardless, I'll answer like you really do think a few of my words say everything you seem to think they say about me, my views, beliefs and judgement toward others. I wonder if those who have done things in your list of unnatural locking could and would and should say the same to you? That's something to think about. But whatever, I'm not judging you. I actually don't care what anyone does with their hair. I'm of the opinion that it's hair and not all that important in the big view of things. It's motherfucking hair! I'm not gonna rip someone up because they made a different hair choice than me as that is sad and sorry. I am also not comparing myself to anyone or holding myself above what someone else chooses to do with their own hair. I'm not into contests. I don't care if you (in general) are way cooler than me in the hair department because my only concern is that my own hair is actually quite awesome. My "point" in locking actually doesn't have anything to do with what you mentioned - lack of vanity, etc - but more along the lines of honouring my own hair which is why backcombing ain't my thing. I am happy everyday that I didn't do it, that I left my hair to be what it is, to section where it does naturally, to clump knot and tangle on its own. I feel like it's more my hair than a hairdo I forced or coerced. But that's me and that's my story. Hopefully I answered some of your concerns about me. As for anyone who may judge you I say fuck 'em. You'll always be judged, there is no way to avoid that so do what you've gotta do and fuck what other people are thinking.
Don't lose hope. Dreadlocks ALWAYS get worse before they get better. When I got my dreadlocks, I had images of what I wanted, big thick bob marley dreads. The fricking loctician didn't even bother to ask my what thickness I wanted so I ended up with some dreads that were 3mm thick and some that were about an inch thick. I was absolutely distraught and needless to say I never went back even though they said I needed to come back in two weeks for a "maintenance job" so my husband kept back combing them for a few months. They looked really good then a week later they'd always go back to being like rats tails. So my husband fused them all together in twos and I have the locks I always wanted.
