Losing Interest in People.

Within the past year, I've basically ostracized myself from my circle of dear friends. I kind of had a epiphany about the role in my relationship with them and I didn't like what I saw and suddenly they didn't seem that "dear" to me, or I to them for that matter. The thing that concerns me is that despite some initial pangs of loneliness, I haven't really missed them. I hear things about them, but nothing about them interests me anymore. The other thing that troubles me is that I don't have much desire to meet new people. In the past (and on these forums), I've pontificated on the virtues of solitude, but I never expected it to be so easy for me to be so solitary. I'm not discontent, but not content either (never have been content in any case). Is this state I'm in unhealthy? I don't want to develop into some kind of psychopath.

 

I'm kinda going through the same thing. I've lost a few good friends in the past few years and burned some bridges with other friends. I've been a hermit for the past year or so.

I don't think you are in an unhealthy state...I think you need to realize who you are and what you want...especially when it comes to other people in your life.

 

You're just going through some changes.
But, if you are thinking about killing some people and eating their livers, then you might be turning into a psychopath.

 

Well I haven't thinking of killing people or eating livers, so I guess I'm in the clear. Phew. I have an idea of the kind of friends I'd like to have, but it's just not realistic. I've been aware of this for quite some time, but I find that in order for me to have an active social life, I have to tolerate things that I've grown increasingly weary of tolerating. I can't seem to find a balance, so I guess it's hermit time.

 

I'm a loner for sure and most of the time I don't care and am comfortable with it. Sometimes tho--it might be nice to have some friends. I can see where you're coming from,I guess.

 

I don't think u should worry too much. It's actually a good thing that u realize your friends did not correspond to what u need in your life at the moment.



^saw this today, and i though it summarizes my current feelings quite well. U can feel confused cuz u don't need others as much as u thought, but it doesn't mean u are selfish.

 

Honestly, If I thought I could actually find people near me like some of the people on this forum, I think I'd be less solitary (like scratcho, Crayola, daisymae, lovelyxmalia) - but then again, I'm probably projecting here. In any case, it's good to know that there are other people who feel the same way. So I'm grateful for that. Thank you.

 

i'm in the same boat somewhat... i find myself just mostly spending time by myself and with my wife lately. it's enough for me.

 

Yes it's unhealthy. Nothing is ever content-providing and an end to all means, so one shouldn't dig themselves in too deep of a hole in search for that, imo. In the meantime, Yoouuuu're gonna regret it. Just because you don't feel pains of agony and memories of your buddies don't come rushing into your mind, like a movie, doesn't mean you don't like them or you're a bad person or whatevs. It just means you're very good at rationlizing solitude, at least for the time being.

I used to think knowledge, intelligence, being 'true' to yourself and your mind were parallell with finding peace, chasing contentness and unsolving the mysteries to life but I find most cases the mind sucks arse and isn't someone I wanna depend on for me happiness.

 

aww thank you...but trust me, you don't wanna be my friend - haha!

 

I lost interest in people gradually over the course of 10 years. Now I would like to gradually start to include people in my life once again. But then when I am around people I am reminded why I decided to cut myself off from them in the first place.

They are a funny bunch.... people.

 

just take some mdma, liking people always makes more sense.

 

Well, E definitely helps. That is for sure. Then again so does alcohol, and look what does in terms of interpersonal relationships.

I like people. I simply prefer when they're not around.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2rgKAOdPx58"]Barfly - I Hate People - Charles Bukowski - YouTube

 

last time i took mdma i decided that i was going to include so many more people in my life and reconnect with lost friends... and then i came down and remembered that there were reasons i don't talk to certain people anymore.

 

something like this happened to me recently as well.
it was like it happened over night, all of a sudden I just stopped caring about my close friends and people that I used to love.
it was surprising because it wasnt hard at all to remove myself from them after so many years. it wasnt a conscious choice, it was like I woke up one day and just wasnt feeling it anymore. So I kinda just stopped coming around.
but I'm at the point now where I don't even pick up my phone when people call me, so idk.
I think it's just a phase.

 

It's odd to care for some folks in here more than in "real" life. I seem to.

 

I'm going through something similar. It stemmed from a breakup that I've been ambivalent about, even though we live together. And realizing my friends really don't provide much more to my life than people to get fucked up with. I've been focusing on work lately and spending time with my dogs. I do feel lonely but oh well. Just tired of the bs.

 

I also deleted my Facebook page, not really sure why other than I'm tired of seeing people I haven't talked to in years post about things that don't seem important. I thought about deleting a couple hundred of these acquaintances, but decided to just delete mine.

 

Dont Worry,You're Not The Only One.

 

yeah, that about sums it up for me.


5 or 6 years ago i stopped making an effort at having a social life. then about 3 years ago i moved across the state and ever since then i've been pretty much alone. the only reasons i am somewhat interested in meeting people are because i wouldn't mind getting some weed, and i wouldn't mind getting some pussy.