Losing virginity to an older guy vs. young bf

Another thread went off topic so we are continuing this discussion in a new thread.
A member in her early 20's who is a virgin is contemplating losing her virginity to an older guy vs her boyfriend.
We left off at:

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Originally Posted by Little Hummingbird
I like what you said there..
As far as older men, it's been on my mind recently, I somehow feel drawn to them, I'm attracted to confidence, and I also feel a little like I'd like to be there sweet little treasure that they absolutely adore. Does that make sense, or does it sound lame?

Response: It makes a lot of sense. You want it to be very special, and you want to be treated right the first time. Many women have told me that their first experience was horrible, just a quickie where the guy cums quick.

By the way, I lost my virginity in my early 20's. I was 23 years old. You may not have guessed that from the things I post I am now 43 and have learned a lot of things along the way. I can totally see why many women want to do it with an older guy. There's also a lot of research which states that women are much more emotionally mature than a guy the same age as them, even in their 20's.

Would your boyfriend freak out if he found out you fucked an older guy? Would he break up with you? Or do you think it would turn him on?

 

Thanks Chad, for doing this thread.

Yes, my boyfriend would freak if I cheated, yes he would break up with me.
I wouldn't cheat anyways, I'd have to make my choice and then do the appropriate thing.

 

I can't see ANY guy in his 20s, who's being made to wait for marriage before he can fuck, being turned on by his girl saying "Guess what? I let a guy older than your Dad pop my cherry".

I can only see the young guy walking, if not running, and a great deal of angst being caused.

If you want to fuck older guys, do so AFTER you break up with the guy you're with. Same goes for the guy. If he wants to play in the MILF pond, he needs to be free first.

 

So here's a question. Would an older guy in his 40's want to date a 20 something Girl?

 

Would you want to date a guy in his 30's or 40's, or just have sex once or twice for the experience?

Do you feel pretty confident about your sexual skills? Even though you have not had sex, do you feel you are good at making out, giving hand jobs and blow jobs, talking dirty, etc? Or would you want to the guy to be a teacher also?

 

I would totally date an older guy. I'm pretty confident in my oral sex skills, I'm sure there is always more to learn. I would love a guy to teach me stuff. I guess the main thing is sex, I will need some training there, unless it comes naturally

 

I forgot to add that, yes, I love talking dirty.

 

I don't actually recall little humingbird saying she would prefer to loose her virginity to an older guy, just that it was a fantasy instead? Mind you, my wife was about 18 months older than me when she & lost our virginity to each other. But I wouldn't want to help a much older woman now to loose hers. A younger one would be more energitic & able to do whatever she could. I just like the sight of a nice younger looking body with no drooping breasts etc. Young ones like showing off their bare stomachs in public & if they are like their own breasts, they get a bit of cleavage shown as well.

 

Hi NZ, yes, it may have been a fantasy thing, but the more I think about it, the more appealing it sounds.

What age do you call too old? I'm very fit, no droopy boobies here. Lol

I wish I could show you my pic, but that wouldn't be very smart on a big forum.
The best I could do is find a pic of someone that I kind of look like. Although, I don't think I'm aloud to post pics anyways unless I'm a paid member.

 

If she looked attractive or they both liked each other in other ways, then yes. If they got on well together & age was no concern to either. If I were still single & I met a girl in her 20's I liked for different reasons, then yes, I'd date her & treat her with the respect she deserved. I'm 52 & would have no problem dating a much younger girl at all. I'd still be just as happy to have any type of sex she wanted or liked or most sex acts anyway!
So long as we were both satisfied & got on well as a couple.

 

Re: too old ? You are in your early 20's & I'm 52, would that be too old for you to consider ?
I can still get erections & produce cum & have the open mind of anyone your age as well regarding sex & other things. I know how I would like to be seduced & how I would return the same to another. We all have different techniques & some are not rushed. The quicker you seduce someone & have intercourse shortly afterwards, the less enjoyable it is.
Why rush things - unless there is a time limit? The longer you have foreplay for, the more you get aroused & the more things you are likely to try well before intercourse takes place. Massages, kisses, cuddles, stimulating different areas with objects - thats a good way to start - not getting nude then having intercourse straight away - boring!

If you can find just a body shape etc similar to yours, then thats acceptable - for me anyway. I don't even know what a B cup breast looks like compared to my wife who's an A cup. I cant remember (off hand) if you mentioned your cup size or not? I prefer petite/ slim / medium build & not overweight styles. A size 8 - 12 body is prefered. But depends how each country decribes sizes of them thou?

 

If the guy was single, only 2 things would stop him. Being dead, or being gay. And maybe not even then.

 

of course. but not if she won't fuck.

hell, maybe even then just as a trophy.

 

Hey,

I'm having a hard time finding the exact same body as mine, I found one that I think looks the same,you can kind of get an idea anyway.


I'm not sure if I would date a 50 year old, I guess it depends on what he looked like, but that age might be pushing it.

I am a C cup btw.

Sorry, the link didn't work, so I just edited it out.
I don't know how to do it I guess.

 

Yes, of course. I sure would love to. I also like women who are closer to my age. There are lots of attractive women in every age range.

And if someone was a virgin I would be willing to slowly work our way up to sex over time.

It sounds like you have had other sexual experience that you are confident with. You said you like 69, blow jobs, hand jobs, and watching porn. You love tasting your boyfriend's cum. Who are you kidding? What single guy in his 40's would not want to hang out with a girl in their early 20's that can do all that?

 

Well I will have sex eventually!

 

Well that's what I think, but some men might just want someone closer to there age that they can relate with better.

 

The difference may be that the guy in his 40's may also be able to last for longer. With your boyfriend you said you have to stop after 10 minutes of stimulating him so he does not cum. If that is what is happening from BJ's and handjobs, I suspect intercourse for the first time would make him cum very quickly. Especially if you really got into the sex and started gyrating. Is your boyfriend a virgin or has he had sex before?

 

He's not a virgin, he's had about 20 partners, and he is close in age.

 

Well if I did want an older guy. Where the heck would I find one? Obviously they wouldn't be hanging out at clubs with young girls!