I have fallen in love with someone who is highly unlikely to reciprocate, at least physically. Just wondering if this kind of thing is sustainable. I do really love him and he's ok with the way I feel for him, but I doubt strongly we're going to get together in any real way. Yr views?
See, anyone else and I'd find that funny. I don't even get what this has done to me. I used to be a cold hard bastard with no emotion, and now I just feel like an idiot all the time. He's back home in Northampton now, so I can't really make a move, we can stay in touch on MSN though, I guess I can work him down. He's had virtually no sexual experience, so it might be easier to work on him, but I don't know if I even should. I'd feel guilty. Damn, never thought I'd EVER say that.
i dunno man. if they doesnt feel anything back for you, than it is kinda hopeless. unless you can get him really fucked up and then make a move, but that isnt the right thing to do, so just try and move on. nothing will happen. start looking again somewhere else for that special someone. and good luck trying to do that! i've been trying for many years, with no luck. maybe one day....
I've been in love before, when it happens I can't shake it. I just can't imagine him not being in my life. At least it's stopping me slutting myself around for a few minutes.
i know how ya feel man, but things change. and some things just seem that they were never meant to work out. but i still hope. thats all one can really do is hope. the only person i ever loved left me without a goodbye or even telling me where they were going. just left the entire state and never came back without telling any of her friends what happened to her. nobody has heard from her in 2 years. so i guess we all just have to move on eventually, but we can always hope... maybe one day things will work out, but untill then we have to look elsewhere
weirdidiot: That's kind of strange, is she considered a missing person or did she just fuck off? I hope it won't affect our friendship. We've grow close of late, and I'd quite like to at least talk to him face to face about it. It's a real bitch when yr a fag, because unrequited love and attraction is a fact of life and people don't realise that, no matter how much you know it'll happen it never gets any easier.
Are you sure "working him down" is a good idea? Dont people need to feel feelings because they genuinely feel them, and not because they have been persuaded into it? I say that if you love this guy, but he is happier in straight relationships, then maybe you should let him be. Dont make him do anything he doesnt want, however much it may hurt you. He will thank you for it, and it will show him how much you care for him, and that you are a good person. There's nothing to say that you cant be friends though, and be thankful for a friendship even if it amounts to nothing more. Good luck
I'm not disagreeing you, but he's not really happy in straight relationships, or to be more precise, in any of the relationships he's been in so far. I dunno, I'm not saying he's gay just because he had a shit girlfriend, but that's kind of the best straw i have to clutch at. I want us to be good friends, I can't really imagine our relationship being sexual, jst worried this is going to fuck me up if I don't resolve it properly.
I just think you've got a great attitude really. You love this guy, and who knows, maybe he will uncover feelings for you too, but in the meantime you're prepared to go for being good friends. You seem willing to persevere to get this guy, but...I dunno...you seem realistic about the outcome. Does that make sense? Hahaha. Probably not.
Well, I'm not exactly Brad Pitt. I doubt I could turn his head unless he wanted to anyway. It's gonna suck not to be able to snuggle up with him now and then, but who knows, maybe he'd be ok with that.
I would be wary. Are you sure he'd be interested in having a relationship that's more than a friendship with you (well, with another guy?) One of my good friends spent a couple years of unrequited love with a very straight guy. In that situation, there were other factors at work as to why it was so bad for him to be going through it, but fundamental to the shittiness was the fact that he *knew* this guy would never be interested in him. Fortunately he's moved on now, and is much much happier these days.
I don't actually feel bad, it's an odd feeling, I'm kind of comfortable with the lack of satisfaction just because I'd he be happier. It'd be arrogant to think I could just make him happier with a bumfuck or two, so I dunno.
