love hurts like hell

you know how sometimes love can be the most amazing feeling and other times it hurts so bad you want to rip your eyes out??

i just hate this sense of vulnerability...

 

what is the problem?........is the love not a mutual thing?

 

it is mutual. the problem was a really awful fight...
in my other relationships nothing would get to me like this.

 

great amazing feeling yep!

Sorry for the hurt. It kills.

 

it does... when there is no love there is no hurt. and at times like this i wonder if that wouldn't be better.

but then again, the good times are amazing. if that makes sense

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=soDZBW-1P04"]nazareth love hurts (1976) - YouTube

 

^ beautiful song

 

Love is a great thing and I would not trade it for anything!

 

no. is it a good feeling sometimes?

 

First, I'm sorry to all who are experiencing pain in this way. However, I've learned something after going through this over and over and over and over again, and I think it's helped me to see things in a different light. I don't think it's love in itself that hurts like hell. The pain comes from lack of love. Once I saw that--I mean really wrapped my head/heart/whatever around that realization, not merely "getting it" in the abstract--I started seeing that a whole lot of us don't truly love ourselves. I'm not talking about the "I'm the greatest" sort of conceited pseudo-self-love, or even about loving ourselves "first" (or second, or eighth, or any sort of hierarchical position), but just genuinely enjoying being ourselves. Probably one of the hardest lessons I've ever had to learn was just the simple joy, honor, and thankfulness that, hey, I get to have my crazy-ass imagination, I get to have my taste in music, I get to be my own scruffy, caring, and slightly warped self, and these things are true no matter what else is going on in my life, who else decides to love me and who doesn't. That doesn't at all mean I never hurt. never get lonely, or never have bad days. That's life, and sometimes it sucks...but sometimes it doesn't. Both are equally true, not one more than the other. I think that appreciating myself has allowed me to love others more healthily and more fully without so much fear.

 

mmmmm... I guess you have to be careful who you love.



hope that the two of you can work things out!

 

This is a great post and you have a great way of looking at it!

 

there's a lot to be said for a brokenart
it's inspired suicide and great works of art
it's such a powerful force that a broken heart puts out
when your emotions become hypersensitive
and you head fills with doubt'

there's a lot to be said for a broken heart
it can be the beginning of the end
or a brand new start.
It was a broken heart that turned my life around
though not before totally beating me down.

There's a lot to be said for a broken hart
it paralyzed me while my life fell aart.
I stood there helpless watchin it go
some parts went fast, other parts went slow.

In a downward spirial my life took its dive
i didn't care if i was dead or alive.
The pain continued, i kepot going down
until i got tired of hurting and decided to turn it around.

So i called on my spirit and we made this deal
if i honored my feelings then he'd help me heal.
This spiritual way of healing was loving and hard
but i came out with a heart that's not calloused and scared.

It was a hard fought battle that i needed to win
if i ever hoped to love that strongly again.​

 

thanks for the support guys.
i'm feeling better now, we're ok.
i just hate how sensitive and vulnerable i feel. it doesn't help that we're in a long distance relationship.

 

That's the risk you take when you open yourself to love - the higher you jump the greater distance you fall.

 

yep, true

 

Aww and it's long distance too :/ - those seem to take twice as much work, good luck

 

thank you, it is a lot of work. but i'll be home for good in a few months finally, i can't wait.

 

I think you are quite right. If you have a low self esteem and then someone rejects you it can hurt like heck but when you are happy with who you are it is easier to let go and move on.

 

Yeah I agree with you, but it doesn't really apply in this situation. It wasn't rejection (so no moving on here), it was a fight, and I'm pretty sensitive too (only with people I really care about), which sucks.