"love many, trust few"

my cousin posted this on facebook. and i don't agree with it.
i don't think it's a healthy way of thinking because it may potentially disrupt someone's benefit-of-the-doubt kind of thinking and skew views of love. well and trust too

the quote is saying don't hand out trust so easily but why is love handed out so easily (and without trust at that)? i think trust and love go hand in hand, and if anything you should trust more than love.

thoughts?

 

completely agree with everything you said.

 

It makes me wonder if this person is religious? For example, Christans are taught to love all, no matter what. I don't think this means fall in love with everyone, but you shouldn't just trust people instantly.

I agree with both sides actually. Love and trust do go hand in hand. This is just a different type of love I suppose. The way it's taught in the Bible perhaps. Like, do not judge people.

*shrug* Just my random too late at night opinion. haha

 

^ Are you not making some kind of judgement if you don't trust them?

 

Haha, good question! What I said isn't what I think, just how others I know think and what they say the Bible says. It's an interesting book to me, but not something I live by.

I guess if I really think about it, it doesn't have to be judging people if you go by trusting very few. It just means that you see everyone equally and trust is something that has to be earned.

 

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare

I think that is where the more modern twist has come from.

If you read the original thought it actually is very different when taken as a whole statement.

You should love everyone.
You should trust a few.
Do wrong to none.

I actually think the thought has much merit.

 

I didn't recal the entire statement until now, thank you! Yes, it does have more merit when put all together, and I think having a nonjudgemental view of everyone is a good thing, which is how I see the world, with love. Never causing pain to anyone purposely is something I also think is important to live by. But like I said earlier.. trust is something that has to be earned. At least, with me it is.

There is a lot of evil in this world. A lot of people who I do not know if I could trust. But I like to believe we are all the same on the inside, and everyone deserves to be loved, no matter what their bad qualities are.

 

Your mileage may vary.

 

Spoken Like A True Hippie...:sunny:.



Cheers Glen.

 

she is religious actually. i think it does have to do with it a slight bit.

i don't think adding 'do wrong to none' changes the statement at all. or at least the point to what my cousin wrote.
i don't think one should love without trust, and i think trust should be given until the person proves it shouldn't be given. and maybe if trust was glorified more or as much as love is in movies maybe my cousin's views would be different.

 

Yah I still have a problem with the quote even in context as well. Perhaps its just a semantical issue for me but if we are given this all inclusive view of love, trust should be held to the same standard. If you're not going to trust the evils of this world you certainly shouldn't love them either.

But the trust involved in the day to day is just as important, Everything from the driver next to you suddenly not swerving over and ramming into your car, to team work projects at school and work. There has to be a certain degree of trust in teachers, coaches, bossess, pastors, etc and you don't have to necessarily love a single person that I mentioned, in fact there are some people you dislike that you probably do and should trust.

 

I'm TOO trusting and too generous. I trust everyone until they prove they are not trustworthy or worthy of my generosity. For example.....when I was living in the homeless shelter, I was giving my cigarettes out to anyone who wanted one, even though I couldn't afford to get more cigarettes when I had no more. Part of it was just me wanting to be generous, but another part of it was being generous to people to find out if they would return the favor when I was in need of their generosity. More often than not, the generosity wasn't returned, but sometimes it was. This is the best way to find out if a person deserves your trust/generosity or not. If they don't show me the same generosity that I showed them, then I knew not to trust them in the future and I wasn't so generous to them after that. The ones who repayed my generosity were obviously trustworthy enough for me to be generous to them in the future.

 

I just edited this because I realize when you said she, you meant your cousin and not me. So sorry there, I'm extremely out of it!

 

Yeah, that implies love all child molesters, rapists, and hitlers. They're the anti-love. But maybe if you unconditionally love someone it opens a window of possibly changing that person. Who knows. Shit, this should be in the mindfuck section.

I guess I do choose to "love" everyone though, I'd never wish infinite suffering upon one no matter how terrible they were. Equal suffering maybe, but not infinite

 

i didn't say u were religious, i meant my cousin is

 

Yes I changed it because I realized that, I do apologize!

 

no worries :2thumbsup:

 

The title sounded like one of those two-word two-sentence slogans that have become so popular in the U.S. (work hard, flight right; play hard, eat right; capture forever, share today; save money, live better; etc)

'Love many, trust few' sounds like the slogan for a condom company.

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hahahahahha

Rep for that

 

The saying makes perfect sense to me-

Love is just there- trust has to be earnt!