love or weed? weed or love?

so what would you choose? weed or love? love or weed?
and beileve me, this story DOES have a point, so dont give me no bullshit

i dumped my last boyfriend on april fools..and it wasnt an "april fool", i was serious. i was hoping he didn't expect me to say "APRIL FOOLS! I LOVE YOU!" after i broke the news to em. and i hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it gets things done.

i went out with this guy bobby for about a total of 2-3 weeks. i remeber him telling me he didnt smoke weed anymore, because suposely he was a big stoner back in the day, but now he quit, because one time he got so stoned he passed out and his aunt conviced him why smoking weed was bad. weird reason, but i respect that. i was alright with him not smoking, so i figured he should be alright with me SMOKING. sounds like basic proecedure, doesnt it? he said its okay if i smoke around him, but as long as i didnt physicaly SMOKE right in front of him. "just go around a corner or something at least", he said. i thought this was a weird preferance, but sure, why not? i'll be polite. but this was back when i only smoked a few times a week. he got mad at me because then i started smoking like days in a row, and he'd say "its only gonna get worse, soon you're gonna be smoking everyday." but i dont really see how smoking everday is WORST, i say smoking everyday would actualy be better. it would only be worst if you started smoking less, right?

but it did get "worst", i was smoking like everyday now, but why not? weed is only worth something if you smoke it, not if its just sitting there looking pretty. one night, i was hanging out with him and some of his friends, and we were at a closed starbucks. dammit. my friends called me and wanted to hang out, so i said meet us here and then we'll go on a burn ride on the way to some other new starbucks. when they got there, i said to my boyfriend
"ok, see u there, im riding with them."
"i'll go with you!"
"uh..no, thats okay...see yah!"
because man, he said dont smoke in front of him, so hell, i was being a "good" girlfriend. so, me and my friends ended up comming in like 15 mins late, delayed from smoking even more in the parking lot. now i didnt know what was going on, i came in and sat down next to him, the red sea in my eyes, completly paralyzed, and the only movement i'd make was a sudden twitch once in a while if he was lucky. i'd also be shivvering for no apparent reason. good times. but right off the back, him and his friend KNEW i was stoned. i forgot that his friend was anti-weed, but however, he was pro liqour and cigarettes. he asked "what did you just do right now???" obviusly he KNEW the answer, but he just wanted me to admitt it. then he started saying all this other crap, what sounded to me a bunch of mumbling. i seriously didnt know what the HELL he was talking about. i dont think i even answered. maybe i answered him in my head, but i didnt say anything. then my boyfriend got pissed and went to go drink somewhere. whatever, i didnt care, i was stoned man so i let em leave. that night is where our 'relationship' started to go DOWNHILL. i just couldn't take it anymore. he was a constant NAG. i already had a MOM, thank you very much. so after a lot of bad noise, we were broken up. he said i was choosing weed over him. but i really wasnt..i was just choosing my FREEDOM over him. i mean hell, if he told me to stop eating too much taco bell(which i really should) i would still dump him, and i wouldnt be choosing fucking taco bell over my boyfriend. he just didnt get the concept. i dont know why he cared so much, hell, when i met him for the first time, i was complelty mind blown stoned. ironic, ay? about a week after we broke up, he suggested "if you dont smoke weed this entire month, we can get back to gether." what the fuck?! it was APRIL man, the 4th fucking month of the year..and on the the 20th day of the 4th month, its just out of the question to not have a smoke-out. but when it comes to two people trying to change eachother, you can either cave in, or live for acceptance. his side was "if you really cared, you'd stop smoking for me"
my side was "if you really cared, you'd accept me, no matter what i do."
and while i still think my side makes the most sense, both sides are right. but if you dont find a happy medium bewtween those two extremes, you're screwed.

so what did i choose? love or weed? weed or love?
i chose both. the love *OF* weed. yes.
so moral of the story is, you have options in every thing you do, but you just gotta stick with what you beileve is right, and ......GET STONED!

 

you did the right thing. why should you be punished because his aunt turned him off weed?

 

no kidding. what an asshole.

 

actually, you did dump him because of weed. if hed said stop eating taco bell, you wouldnt dump him. stop making excuses for turning into a loser, deja. while he shouldnt have judged you over weed, you also shoudl realise that smoking weed every day is not something to take lightly. fine to do as long as you have the responsibility to actually understand what shit you could be heading for. im not saying what your doing is wrong, but your mindset that nothing matters and that its all fine is one day gonna get you fucked up.

but why did you go out with him at all? is he hot?

he sounds like one of those controlling boyfriends.
its one thing to say 'watch out' and its another to say 'smoke around the corner'

 

bill makes an excellent point. you have to be able to accept the consequences of your actions. if thats a lost boyfriend or jail time, you still have to be prepared to face it. If your not then you shouldnt be doing whatever might put you in that position.

on a sidenote....when did it become a bad thing to be a loser? I'm proud to be a loser because i know me and my loser friends can trust each other on anything rather then trying to climb up the popularity chain by stabbin backs and talkin shit. Losers are the best kind of people in my book because they are the ones that accept you for who you are. ive been popular and ive been a loser, and i definetley prefer being a loser.

i choose love but i would never compromise who i am for somebody else.

 

well, I was referring to being an actual loser, as in, ending up with less success in whatever you could succeed in (nothing to do with capitalist ideas of what success is, mind you), not the use of the word used by cool people. if using the latter, ive largely been a 'loser' all my life. but i wasnt really talking about that

 

i see i see.

well in that case: i guess it all depends on what dejavu's goals and aspirations are.

bill if you get any damn smarter im going to come to aussy and give you a lobotomy myself.

 

please remove any tumors you find first

 

that guys retarded just find a nice guy who loves weed and loves love too and youll be all cool

 

I'd respect his decision to quit but not to act like that.

 

Love and weed are one in the same.
I'm in love with Mary Jane.

 

i'd like to reply to this thread but i don't really know what to say

i'm not exactly sure about my feelings for mary jane.
i have these great experiences but i notice that my memory isn't nearly as good as it could be. i guess the trick is just moderation, but....just like you enjoy smoking daily so do i =] so, i'm somewhat stuck ;p

 

I'll try to respond to both sides here

I believe that a good relationship is built on acceptance for one another, if one person cannot accept what the other is doing, then it won't work out. In this sense you did the right thing.
HOWEVER
If you really loved this guy, and i mean really and truly loved him, you would have given up mary jane in a second just to be with him. Judging from your post though, I dont think that was the case.

the jist is, make decisions with your heart, always.
dont let anything, not even ganja get in the way of that.

Hopefully he'll realize next time that he can't change someone just so they suit him better, thats selfish. And hopefully you'll realize that marijuana is not the most important thing in the world.

Peace!

 

yah if u honesnlty wnated to be w/ this guy forever then quit smoking marijuana, or who goives a shit if he breaks up w/ u for not accepting u. if he really cared about ur health, hed stay w/ u and try to make u stop, not just leave u to do drugs.

 

It is "worse" if you start losing relationships with others due to weed. You need to get your priorities straight. I mean, you only dated him a few weeks, so it's not a huge deal I guess, but I definitely would say it's a BAD thing when weed is interfering with your relationships (not just romantic, but family and friends too). I'd say that about alcohol and anything else too. Personally, from what you've said here and elsewhere, I'd say you're smoking too much. What's the point of smoking so much weed that you sit there, paralyzed and too zoned out to even be able to answer someone's questions (or hear what they're saying)? Especially if you're hanging out with people who don't smoke, imagine how they feel? Not just left out, but irritated that you'd rather zone out than actually be with them (cuz you know you're never really "there" when you're that stoned). I also never understood the need to toke every day. I dunno, you'll probably disregard what I'm saying, and find a boyfriend who supports your iffy habits (my sister did the same with alcohol), but if it were me I'd definitely be thinking about this a while.

 

dejavoo sounds like raoul duke in my head

 

I think what she meant was like...it's not that she would rather smoke weed...it's just...if he's gonna say he doesn't care, and then get pissed off when she does...then that's shitty.

It's like when my ex-girlfriend used to say, "Yeah sure, go to the party" or whatever when she couldn't go, and then when I got back would play 100 questions as if she didn't trust me'

I think that's what she's saying...

I don't think it was even that she chose her love for weed over him...I think it was she chose the lack of hypocricy over him.

 

does anyone else think that pic of bill looks like george harrison with short hair...the one on the far left

 

I dunno, but it looks like his hair is on fire. Or he's recieving the Holy Spirit, haha.

 

i responded to this in the writers forum, although i cant figure out why it was there