My girlfriend and I will have been together 20 months on the second of November (that's a year and 8 months- awesomeness!) which makes me extremely happy. We've agreed to marry each other; I bought a ring and everything =) However, she's still a minor (which I have no problem with, it's only a year's wait) and when college comes around her not-supportive parents will be funding her education. The idea of waiting six years (this year, plus four years of college and then another year for her masters because she wants to teach) to marry her seems daunting, but I would never want to risk her/our future because of our impatience to declare a love that's already proudly proclaimed and very solid. She wants to marry me as soon as she turns 18, at which point we will have been dating for 2 and a half years, longer than both of our sets of parents waited to marry, but I have the above concern. Also, even were we to marry immediately and without her parents finding out, I commute from my parents' home to college and will only finish a year ahead of her (I also want to teach so I'm following the same program, I'm just a year older,) so even were we to marry next year we wouldn't be able to live together until I graduated and got a job so that we could pay rent somewhere. I'm usually a "We'll cross this bridge when we come to it" and "We'll worry about it when it happens" type of person, but there's a lot to consider for this already life-altering decision. Thoughts/suggestions anyone? I'd appreciate the input.
It's a bad situation: loving someone but being unable to live with them. You could take out a loan to pay for your rent or get jobs, however, that sucks when you're in school and will (maybe) have debt from tuition. Really, I'm not sure. What are your parents like? Why doesn't she move in with you? I guess her parents would stop paying her tuition if they knew... Is she still in high school? Does she live with her parents? If she lives on her own, why not move in with her? As for marriage, I can't relate in wanting to do that so young... marriage doesn't seem as important as living together and just being around each other... If you want to get married, though, and not wait, why not just elope and tell no one?
