how do you feel about the whole taking his name in marriage thing? my sister claims it is disrespectful not to, but in my heart i know don't think i could. i know it comes down to teh individuals involved and what is important to them. i have no problem with women who chose or chose not to take their mate's last name. how do you feel? what have you done?
it's a personal choice i guess. i want to take the name of whomever i marry, should i ever marry. i don't see it as a big deal, and think it'd be fun to have a new name
Hmmm...it wouldn't bother me either way should I get married. Sure, I would be elated should my future wife decide to take my last name, but I could respect her decision to keep hers, should she feel it necessary. I would be happy just in the fact that she would want to marry me. My girlfriend and I have lightly discussed the idea of marriage down the road, and she said that she would be proud to take my name. I told her that it was necessary to do what she wanted, and she affirmed that it was what she would do. So, yeah, I believe it's a personal decision that should be made on a case-to-case basis.
When we got married, we were going to take each other's names. Do the hyphenated thing. Stupid wedding planner did not ask us and had the certificate made up with just his. (note, do not get a wedding planner, ever, even if your mother throws a tantrum to rattle the heavens). It does not matter now. It's the closeness of our relationship that matters, not my last name.
i changed my last name to his when we were married. we just separated a couple of weeks ago, but i'm thinking about keeping the name instead of going back to my maiden name. i'd rather have the same last name as my son than as my dad. everyone's different though, it's nice to have the choice.
of course you can. i know of a family that combineed their last names to make up a new one for their kids.
Perhaps me and my future wife will drop both our names and refer to each other as madonna and dadonna Honestly I could care less - the 'mrs' would be all that matters to me as the 'mr' - the rest is just paperwork.
I feel the same way about it. As long as both parties agree, then they should do as they want. Were it to be asked of me, I would seriously consider it. I imagine it's hard for anybody to give up their last names, and it's difficult to understand until one is faced with the decision. I would expect no one to take my family's name should they not want to. In return, I do not want those expectations placed on me. It's based on individual situations, and it's up to the couple involved to make their decisioin.
Personally I would never give up my last name because I'm extremely proud of my family. I don't mean for it to be disrespectful it's just how I've always felt.
I think it's very disrespectful not to take the other persons name and then you have to hyphen all the kids names and all that stuff. you're starting a new family and taking someones name is symbolic of that-it's not symbolic of giving up your idenity as many people think but rather adding to your existing idenity.
i think its fine, unless the woman doesnt want to. i guess it should be the womans choice. but it is a little romantic, a part of him always with her, and they share the same thing
My wife is Irish and though she did not want to lose her last name, she wanted to take my last name. We discused the hyphenated thing but both found that to be just silly so we came up with an alternative. Since she hates her middle name she changed it to her maiden name and took my lat name.
