Married and pregnant with another man's baby

I am a 20 year old female who just got married last year to a marine. I love my husband very much, but its been hard with our lack of communication and only getting to see him two weeks out of a year. We've been together for four and a half years, and he is about to get out of the marines in April. We've had alot of problems in our relationship over the years because he wouldn't show his emotions to me, and when I was physically with him he would deny me sex because he was busy playing video games. This last month I cheated on him with a 32 year old man who fullfilled all the emotional, spiritual, mental, and physicall needs. He was very good to me for the longest time until we broke it off due to him finding someone else. After we went our separate ways now, I found out that I am pregnant with his baby. I have no idea what to do and I have already had an abortion once before and am not wanting to get another one done.

I really just need some advice about my situation if anyone has any insiteful words to share.

 

yeaaa ummmm
good luck?

idk, your gonna have to explain this to him, in which he will probably break up with you. Its your decision on wether to keep the baby or not. Than youll probably have to start over fresh.
pretty fucked up what you did though, cheating on him while hes risking his life for you.

Or something like that...

 

Did u tell this guy it was his

 

I would deff keep the baby

 

Don't fix the first mistake with a second. You must tell your husband what happened and why. He might forgive you and he might not. You need to be prepared to loose him and hope for the best if you still want him in your life. You are not the first person to have done this and you won't be the last, you just have to live with the consequinces.

 

:iagree:

 

All I know is you have a few shitty emotional times ahead and I wish ya the best with whatever you do

 

My husband is in the military and there are times he gets distant with me and does the same stuff...

I've never EVER thought about cheating on him.

You kinda made your bed with this one...

 

poor communication... lack of emotional support

video games???

there seem to be plenty of reasons for your actions other than perhaps

you acted like a tart

no offense.

you won't find an alibi here.

good advice is to at least deal with the consequence of your actions

and be honest with your partner.

keeping it is only a decision you can make - nobody here knows a thing about your living situation.

 

grow the fuck up. you're kinda looking like a huge bitch.... and you know what you need to do to sort this shit out. You had no problem cheating so put on your big girl britches and face the music. Don't like confrontation? Tough shit.

 

blunt, but true.

Strange how cheaters never see the problems coming, maybe they think they're super smart and they're gonna get away with everything? Piling up another lie and thinking it's never gonna blow up in their face, that's kinda naive. I would find it funny if there wasn't a person who's gonna hurt in the end.
In this case, several pple are gonna hurt.

 

Oh Great, A Marine coming home to a cheatin wife, someone's gonna get beat up.

You have to own up to your actions.

 

write him a note explaining your poor decisions and then get the fuck out of town so he can have a shot at finding a wife that fits his lifestyle....

and then

put that kid up for adoption so it has a chance too

 

I don't even think this shit is real , but whatever .

 

You're a bad person. You're selfish, immature and I pray to God that you become an adult before your child is born. There is no excuse for what you did. No one else to blame, but you. What you did was malicious, reckless and irresponsible. You married a marine - that's what being a military spouse means - you have to go it alone, a lot and you pray when it's all said and done that your spouse comes home alive and in one piece - and very rarely will he/she come home unchanged. Did you think it would be otherwise?

 

I hope you are right papa wolf

 

This marriage is probably toast, no matter what. Too many problems.

 

I'm with lovelyxmalia.

My husband's currently away at boot camp (army) He left right before thanksgiving, and up until recently, we've only been able to communicate with handwritten letters, and he's leaving for Kuwait for a year in June. Is it hard? Hell yes. Probably the second most difficult thing I've ever had to go through in my life, let alone in our relationship.

But NOT ONCE did I ever think to cheat on him, because guess what? MARRIAGE is hard!! It's selfish, childish people like you that are fueling the ridiculous divorce rate in this country. What the hell makes you think you deserve to have all of your emotional needs provided for 100% of the time?? That doesn't happen, little girl. This is LIFE, NOT DISNEY, and you don't get to be a fucking princess. If you're not happy in your marriage, there are OPTIONS that don't involve destroying people's lives and potential lives.

As a military wife, I take DOUBLE offense to what you did--the drill sergeants at boot camp repeatedly torture the married soldiers by putting ideas in their heads that their wives are cheating on them, and remind them constantly that military marriages fail. They do it because they're assholes, but it's also very true. My husband was torn up by the thought of me leaving him, after being told that repeatedly by drill sergeants while he was already in a vulnerable spot. Do you know how enraging it is to hear that your husband went through that, and that you were essentially called a whore by assholes you never met, all because whores like you fulfill that stereotype and give them even more ammunition to emotionally abuse our soldiers?? Not to mention all the military wives who CAN'T cheat on their husbands because their husbands are DEAD!!

I hope you have your baby too, and allow it to be adopted to a mature family that will give the kid an example of what it means to be responsible. It's not the baby's fault you're catastrophically immature with piss-poor decision making skills.

And one more thing--don't bullshit around with the L word. It's an insult to those of us who accept the hard work involved in maintaining a true loving relationship. You do not love him, you love the idea of being taken care of, and when he couldn't fulfill that, you looked elsewhere. I'm not trying to say that your husband is perfect, but this isn't a contest to see who can make the most mistakes. Love makes mistakes--but to deliberately and PRE-MEDITATIVELY betray someone not just once, but multiple times for a long period of time exposes your inability to empathize with other human beings.

 

yer fucked .

 

that's funny coming from someone who uses the name papa wolf. Wolves are a tight knit family.

 

If the guy wasn't fulfilling your needs then why were you with him in the first place?

Now you have cheated on him and gotten pregnant and by the looks of it the baby may never know his real father. I hope the best for you but you have made a big mistake.