Meeting a woman next week - need advice

So, I've been doing internet dating recently, but it hasn't really gone that well. I have met some nice women, but for one reason or another, things didn't work out (I won't go into each one, unless someone wants me to. )

Anyways, the last few weeks I have been talking to this very pretty 27 year old (I am 23). She seems very fond of me. Last night we spoke on the phone for the first time; we spoke for nearly an hour. We got along GREAT.

During the conversation, she said there was something she had to tell me before we met.

She tells me her and her ex husband were swingers, and shes really open minded and very sexual etc. She told me the swinger lifestyle requires you to be clean, because if you give a disease to someone you know, thats worse than giving it to a random person.

I am nervous because I am a virgin, and don't want to regret my first time. I also think the reason that I am nervous, is because my parents are religious and would not be happy if they knew, I feel like I would be lying to them, and should I lose my virginity, I would be just like everyone else.

And, I guess I'm also nervous, as she is really experienced, she'll probably stick a firecracker up my ass or something.

Also, simply because it is my first time, I'm sure the condom will break or etc.

Although no one here can tell me what to do/what not to do, I would like any insight from those who have experienced such a dilemma.

 

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All I can tell is you relax, I know easier said then done. But I think you are over thinking the situation.

It's natural being nervous.

 

I guess my question is 2-fold.

On one hand, I am nervous to lose it to begin with. How do I know I won't regret it?

Secondly, that she is a swinger, am I going to catch a bunch of stuff from her?

 

She's recruiting fresh meat. If you're ok with that then have a great time! (PS - hope you like sausage)

 

LOL, I told her I don't want to be a swinger. She said that was fine.

 

Only you can answer if you won't regret it, are you ready to lose it? Did you want to lose it to somebody special or........

And I doubt you'd catch a bunch of stuff. You said early that she gets tested and same with her other players.

 

Well, my plan is to get to know her over a couple of dates, and then proceed from there depending on what i think of her.

 

It's a good sign to me that she was honest enough to tell you about the swinging. I had been talking a few weeks ago with a guy and we were going to meet. Turns out he is pretty wild himself lol and I decided to not meet him. I sorta regret that as he probably would have been a great friend or fwb.lol Meet her and just relax and see what happens. If it makes you feel better ask for proof she has been tested...just be safe and remember you only live once!

 

how do you know you won't regret not losing it?

 

Its tough to say, but since most people loose their virginity to a spotty teenager (as a spotty teenager) in a messy bedroom or in the back of an old car, by pure averages, your first time should be better.

 

Most people think that before their first time, no matter who they're losing their virginity to. Then when u're done u think "oh well". So yea, don't worry too much.

what's wrong with that?

Since she is a more experienced woman, how about u ask her to put the condom on u, and just tell her to not be too rough. But yea, do use condoms, it will make u feel safer (against unwanted pregnancy or STDs).

I'd say the risk u're taking with that is not related to sex, but more to emotions. I mean, don't fall in love with the woman if u're not into open relationships or group sex or whatever.

 

Meeting her tomorrow, ill keep you all posted.

 

I wanna know what happened!!